What kinds of unhealthy families do unfortunate children often come from? Are you one of them?

What kinds of unhealthy families do unfortunate children often come from? Are you one of them? First, there is a father who is too strict at home. People in China often say that strict father is a loving mother, which really limits the role of the father, because the father is actually very gentle. I idealized my father, as always. He has very clear boundaries with others, but he also has the ability to be gentle. Many dads, their personality characteristics have not fully grown into a man's situation, so he has to use too much strictness to cover it up like a man. Actually, I'm trying to cover up the part where I didn't grow up. If you imagine how an adolescent boy puts on airs in front of his favorite little girl, you can also understand what a boy with children is doing so seriously in front of his children.

Second, there is a mother at home who is too nagging. A mother is too manipulative in housework, and may reprimand her, ramble and often say a lot to her children, but she is actually satisfying her happiness through her mouth. Simply put, this mother only stays in the "mouth-to-mouth period".

As a mother, so many aggressive abilities and emotions are also expressed through her mouth, which means that she is abusing her husband and children with her mouth, which is actually very common in China's family.

If the above two points are connected, it is not difficult to imagine a family where the father is serious and pretentious, the mother is nagging and the children are deeply abused.

Third, the discussion of family topics is restricted. In China's family, it is easy to talk about and cover up the truth, that is, children's study. Parents and children have nothing to discuss, they can only talk about study, which is the most discussed thing in China's family. People hide in front of the study and feel safe. When parents talk about learning, they cover up their inner fears and anxieties, but they are unable to solve them themselves, so they cover them up with the victims of learning. There are also some things that can't be discussed in the family, such as sex, which is a relatively highly restricted topic discussion.

If parents had opened their hearts to flow, they would not have so much fear to limit their children. When parents feel anxious when their children mention a topic for discussion and forbid them to discuss it, they need to take a good look at their anxiety. It is possible that their subconscious is impatient and has a knot that must be lifted.

If parents can constantly clean up their own knots at this time, then children can get the release of extended family law, because this knot may be unconsciously transplanted by parents when they were young.

Naturally, after all, we are social people, and sometimes we consciously avoid some problems. This is no problem either. Of course, the premise is that parents must be clear that these restrictions are not for their own mentality, but for their children, just to maintain the necessary boundaries between families. At this time, two people, or a family, need to make an appointment to escape.