Example is better than words. The best education for children is to be yourself.

The seniors who are nearly 40 years old often say in front of me, "It is better to build a good family business than to raise a good man"!

This is an old saying in the countryside. The elder said that this was said by his illiterate mother, and now he often says it in front of his 5-year-old daughter.

I deeply agree with this sentence, but the problem is how to raise good people.

A relative often complains to me that children especially like to play with mobile phones. I hope I can persuade his junior high school children to play less mobile phones and study more.

Actually, it's very difficult.

What is difficult is not persuasion, but a habit that is difficult to form at home.

When the child was young, his parents began to teach him to play games, take photos, shoot videos and so on with his mobile phone, and as a result, he boasted about how smart his child was in front of relatives and friends. Now I feel that playing mobile phones has a great influence on children, and I want them to get rid of this habit. Actually, there is no problem.

But the point is, their favorite way to relax is to brush small videos, and they are happier than that. Basically, they are happy in front of the screen of their mobile phones when they come back from work every day. Of course, they didn't forget to let their children do their homework quickly, and they can watch funny little videos together after finishing their homework.

Therefore, every time a child doesn't do his homework well and doesn't do well in the exam, they criticize the child for playing mobile phones and delay his study, asking him not to play mobile phones in the future.

I chatted with my child and asked him why he likes playing mobile phones. The child told me confidently that his parents were also playing. Why can't he play? !

The answer lies in the child's rhetorical question.

Let's talk about the elder who often says, "It is better to raise a good family than to raise a good family." His daughter is five years old.

He wants his children to learn to swim, so he learns to swim by himself first and takes his daughter to the swimming pool every weekend. Father and daughter compete together, learn from each other and enjoy themselves. The little girl learns quickly and well.

In order to cultivate girls' habit of reciting ancient poems, he recites a poem at work every day, goes home to recite it for his daughter, and then teaches her to recite it together. Once I rode with them, and my predecessors said that I would go to beginning of autumn soon. Liu Yuxi's Autumn Ci is really well written. When I finished, I recited: "Autumn has been sad since ancient times. I said that autumn is not as good as spring. On the clear sky and the clouds, it brings poetry to Bixiao. "

Before the adults could say anything, the 5-year-old daughter said, "Dad, I recite one too."