I am determined to be a good mother. Can the "perfect mother" raise an ideal baby?

This problem can be analyzed from three aspects:

First, we need to define the "perfect mother". Is this perfect mother shaping herself perfectly? Or too perfect for others? Let's talk about the former, a mother who made herself perfect. What are the characteristics of such a mother? She is confident and optimistic, with outstanding temperament, broad vision and all-round development. If I give an example, let's look at Sun Li. In fact, since such a mother has placed an order for her life in pursuit of perfection, her three views, her knowledge and her mind will certainly not disappear from everyone. Then, the subtle influence she brings to children in the process of parenting is bound to be beautiful and positive.

Besides the latter, ask others to give a perfect mother. In fact, such mothers are everywhere around us, and you will see that their living conditions have almost stopped growing. Some stay-at-home mothers are immersed in the vegetable market, TV series and mahjong tables every day, and some working mothers are lazy at work and go home to catch Taobao. What is more tragic, however, is that they bet their ideal of "pursuing perfection" on others. Therefore, they often compare husbands, children, wealth and so on in various social occasions, so as to obtain self-suggestion of "perfect life". Even if such a "perfect mother" cultivates an ideal "disappointing" child, the child's rapid growth is largely forced, and the child's heart is always contradictory. Why did my mother keep pushing me forward when she stopped growing? As adults, once these children lose their mother's encouragement, they will lose their direction in life, quickly stagnate and fall into the strange circle of being born in a family.

Secondly, what is the standard of "good mother"? Is this a label given to us by others or by children? People who want to be a good mother, if they don't even understand this standard, rashly regard "good mother" as their only goal on the road of parenting. Waiting for her may be frustration again and again, even depression and irritability, and finally completely deny their parenting value. In my opinion, 80% of the label "good mother" is evaluated by our children, and the remaining 20% is feedback from family, lover, society, education system and so on. Be able to assess the situation, keep pace with the times, treat children's growth with the mentality of keeping up with scientific development, give children maternal love without any impurities, respect the independence of natural life individuals, and let children feel the support and affirmation of their mothers while bravely exploring the unknown world. I believe that such a child's high opinion of his mother can not be summarized by the word "good mother".

Finally, I want to talk about the word "ideal baby". A thousand people have a thousand Hamlets, a thousand faces and a thousand dreams, so the "ideal baby" can only be a matter of opinion. Degang Guo once said, "Don't take your own map and take other people's road". We can't set goals for our baby with other people's ideals, let alone plan our children's path with our own ideals. If I have to define the "ideal baby", what I came up with is this sentence-"TA can live what she wants to be, grow freely, eat what she likes, not be tired by the world, and sleep until she wakes up naturally every day." Such a child may only exist in an ideal, but if every mother can look at the child in this way, I think the child will reduce a lot of unnecessary injuries and avoid many things that encourage others. The child will experience a warm childhood, a happy childhood and an interesting and optimistic teenager, and ta will grow into the most ideal state in his heart. Ta will put a label on her mother in her heart-mine, the only one.

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