I am writing this paper to share my experience, especially the impact of bad teacher-student relationships on teaching effectiveness.

The psychological development of middle school students is limited by their physical and psychological characteristics and is easily affected by the interpersonal relationships around them. Different types of teacher-student relationships also have a great impact on the healthy development of students' psychology. Although " "Teacher's dignity" has withdrawn from the stage of history and become a pedantic old calendar, advocating the establishment of a new teacher-student relationship. However, there are still some current educators who face their students in a condescending manner intentionally or unintentionally, and even treat their students as Students are regarded as containers and products, which creates a situation where students "dare to think but dare not speak" and "have things to say but do not want to say." There is a lack of communication and understanding between teachers and students. Students are afraid of teachers and are afraid or unwilling to speak their minds. Tell the teacher that the teacher cannot understand the inner needs of the students and does not know the inner joys and sorrows of the students. This spiritual barrier between teachers and students not only affects education and teaching effects, but also affects the healthy development of students' psychology. Suhomlins Key said: "If students are unwilling to tell the teacher their joys and pains, and are unwilling to meet the teacher honestly, then talking about any education will always be ridiculous, and any education will be impossible." It can be seen that, How important it is to establish a good teacher-student relationship.

In fact, every teacher who loves his job is willing to be a friend of his students, eager to understand his students, and hopes that they can grow up healthily and happily. This idea will be stronger for a class teacher. I am the same way. I have been a teacher for seven years and a class teacher for four years. I have been thinking and exploring ways to become friends with students, how to understand their hearts as soon as possible, and also Let them know that you care for them. In the past few years of exploration, I have gained a little experience, and I will share my experience with you below.

Methods to build a colorful bridge of the soul A lot, I use the "weekly diary communication method". My classmates communicate with me through weekly diaries, and it is during this kind of communication that many students become close friends with me. This is a shortcut for me to cultivate the relationship between teachers and students.

Because I am the class teacher, I want to get to know every student in the class as soon as possible. So I asked the students to prepare a notepad specifically for communicating with me. I asked them to use it every weekend Go home and write a weekly diary, covering the class, yourself, classmates, family, teachers, etc. There is no limit to the number of words. The only requirement is that the handwriting is neat and the expression is clear. After they give it to me, I review it as soon as possible and try my best to solve their problems. difficulties; seriously consider the ideas and suggestions they put forward. At the beginning, the students wrote one article every week. Later, when some students encountered problems during school, they also wrote them in their weekly notebooks. After they were written, they were placed in my They want to communicate with me at any time. According to the changes in their needs, I have also made adjustments: after writing, you can hand it to me at any time, no time limit, no limit on the number of articles, but at least once a week. In this way, the exchanges between the students and me became more and more frequent, and the content became more and more extensive. In this way, the spiritual bridge between the students and me was successfully built. Transfer

After the successful construction, Just make good use of it. The initial uses are: I can use it to understand their ideas and requirements when arranging seats; I can use it to understand their needs when arranging dormitories and beds for students who live on campus; select classes When you are a cadre, you can use it to listen to everyone's opinions; you can also write down your suggestions for teachers. As long as their requests are reasonable and well-reasoned, I will try my best to coordinate them. If they cannot solve the problem, I will also help them. The reasons were explained in detail in the book. Through these little things, the trust between us was greatly enhanced. I got to know them, and they were able to understand me. Slowly they were willing to put more The psychological words tell me that our communication is slowly deepening, and its usefulness is becoming more and more important: it allows me to understand a lot of their inner thoughts and their confusion; it allows me to help those families who are in difficulty and have inner problems. Students who are sensitive and fragile; it allows me to mediate their previous conflicts; it can also avoid some conflicts... Another girl said in her weekly diary that she hated her mother's preaching and was extremely disgusted. In fact, she knew it herself. Her mother was doing it for her own good, but she just couldn't change her mind. We discussed this issue in the weekly diary. I asked her to try to feel her mother's feelings and to "enjoy" her mother's feelings. Love, change slowly, and try to let yourself have a "grateful" heart. This process is very long. I don't know if her mother has felt the change in her daughter, but I know that later

The title of a classmate's award-winning essay was "Mother's Love". I also met a classmate who was extremely introverted. A new teacher came to the class. Because of a trivial matter, he mistakenly thought that the new teacher hated him. When he was taking this class, he never dared to look up at the teacher, let alone answer questions proactively. The teacher just thought he was introverted and didn't feel comfortable taking the class. Later he mentioned this in his weekly diary, which surprised me. I asked him as soon as possible After understanding the whole story, it turned out that it was just a "knot" he had tied for himself. I communicated with the teacher, and we went together to help him untie the "knot." He did not object to this. I am not afraid of this teacher. I have a classmate whose father is seriously disabled and whose mother is also ill. But I am afraid that my classmates will look down on him. After he told me in his weekly diary, I tried my best to help him: apply for him Waiving part of the school fees, helping him buy medicine when he was sick, and preparing some daily necessities for him. There are many more examples of this or that. I think the reason why I can become a favorite teacher and a trustworthy friend of my classmates is that "the soul "Colorful Bridge" is indispensable.

Tagore once said: "It is not the blow of the hammer, but the singing and dancing of the water that forms the beautiful pebbles." Teachers can only call students with love and enlighten students with wisdom. , respect every student and treat every student as a completely equal person to communicate with them, so that students can "know their teachers and believe in their teachings". As our educators, we must make our education objects obey We have correct teachings and are willing to accept our opinions and even criticisms. We must communicate with them with love, gain their trust, and become good teachers and helpful friends in the true sense. Only then can we establish a friend-like teacher-student relationship under the new situation. This is It will also be a new beginning for our successful educational practice.