Talk to people on the other side of life.

Never cross the line with the elite, because you will never win.

The warm sunshine in March

Nine hours ago

"Disciples' Rules" said: "People have shortcomings, so don't expose them; People are private, don't say it. "

If IQ determines a person's lower limit, then EQ determines a person's upper limit.

People with high emotional intelligence never argue with others about right and wrong. Only elites like to "convince people by reasoning".

In real life, there are always some people who have to think that they can beat you.

The only way to meet such a person is to bypass him and never cross the line with him.

1, people who don't argue have love in their hearts.

There are too many examples of bar essence, so I don't need to list them one by one. But when it comes to great essence, we have to mention the originator Deng.

Deng was Zheng's doctor in the Spring and Autumn Period, and was regarded as a thinker and the founder of "Differentiation".

At this time, "ba" is not so deeply derogatory.

As a professional herdsman, Deng's ability of "holding ambiguous words and setting infinite words" is not high.

It is said that there was a flood in Zheng one year, and many people ran to other places to avoid the disaster.

During this period, a rich man accidentally fell into the water and drowned while crossing the river by boat, but his body was salvaged by a poor man.

The family members of the rich want to redeem the body, while the poor see that they are rich and charge exorbitant prices. The two sides were deadlocked and finally broke up in discord.

At this time, the rich man's family asked Deng what to do.

Deng Xi said, "Don't worry, the other person can only sell you his body, because no one will buy it from him except you."

A few days later, the poor also found Deng.

Deng Xi said, "Don't worry, the other person can only buy the body from you, because he can't buy it anywhere except you."

A dead body, on the one hand, is a strange commodity living in it, on the other hand, it is the only buyer.

After such a stir by Deng, it is even more impossible to clinch a deal.

Sure enough, the stalemate for several days failed, but the body rotted.

Now, the poor and the rich quit, and they all complained to Deng.

What about this grandpa?

I repeated what I said to both sides to the case handlers.

Coupled with Deng's eloquence, this makes the case-handling officials feel that this sounds reasonable.

Finally, instead of punishing Deng, the plaintiff was sentenced to disturb the court.

This grandfather is very strong He not only muddles through, but also accepts disciples, teaches legal knowledge and litigation methods, and specializes in helping people fight lawsuits.

Later, Deng was finally executed by the ruler because of his arrogance, which led to "chaos in Zheng's country and public outcry."

In China's traditional cultural concept, the dead are the biggest.

No matter who is right or wrong, it is disrespectful to make trouble with the body.

Reading is wise, and it helps to cultivate honesty.

This noble spirit refers not only to righteousness, but also to caring and sympathizing with others.

If a person's eyes are only winning or losing, and there are no human emotions such as love, gratitude and sympathy, what is the difference between it and a machine?

People live in this world, not everything is right or wrong, and there is no need to win or lose at any time and anywhere.

People on the emotional side are more popular than those on the rational side.

No one wants to get along with someone who has always denied you.

2. It's a good choice not to break through.

Cao Xueqin said in A Dream of Red Mansions: "When things are clear, people learn to do it, that is, articles."

In today's world, smart people abound, but smart and wise people are rare.

In the eyes of many people, it is too biased to think that stepping on people can lift people up.

Truly wise people understand that people flatter others and are superior to others.

Read such a story:

It is said that a group of people went out to travel with the group, and when it was time for dinner, they went to a restaurant to eat together.

Maybe it's because I'm new to it and don't understand it, so I'm a little cold.

At this time, a young girl took the initiative to enliven the atmosphere and told you some jokes.

While making everyone laugh, it also drove away the embarrassing atmosphere between them.

At this time, a middle-aged man on the table muttered lukewarm: "This is a joke eight hundred years ago. Is it so funny? "

In a word, the venue that just warmed up pressed the pause button and froze instantly.

The little girl had to look down at her hands.

Jokes themselves have the magic of joy, and the speed and breadth of communication are of course the highest.

We don't understand many things, but we don't want to say them, which cruelly douses a kind heart.

And those who are eager to express themselves but lose their goodwill like to improve themselves by denying others.

The first sentence is "You are wrong" to attract others' attention.

It's just, can you really improve yourself by saying this?

Kindness is more valuable than intelligence.

Seeing through without telling the truth is a kind of cultivation and a choice.

3. See people with wisdom and treat others with wisdom.

Mr. Ji Xianlin, a master of Chinese studies, said, "Be a man, don't tell all the lies and the truth."

People who speak in moderation are not only more likely to win the favor of others, but also more likely to succeed.

According to legend, after Zhu Yuanzhang proclaimed himself emperor, a childhood friend forged an old relationship with him.

Zhu Yuanzhang was not only happy, but also promoted his position.

When another boy heard about it, he immediately set off for Beijing, thinking that his relationship with Zhu Yuanzhang was indispensable.

Zhu Yuanzhang became more and more happy when he heard that Mao was coming.

I don't know, when this man saw Zhu Yuanzhang, he not only didn't kneel, but also casually shouted: "Zhu Chongba!" " "

Zhu Yuanzhang was shocked, and at the same time his heart thumped, for fear that he would tell his childhood poverty.

Sure enough, the man not only mentioned Zhu Yuanzhang's hungry and begging life along the street, but also recalled the embarrassing past when Zhu Yuanzhang was hungry and choked to death by a bowl of potatoes. He handed a bowl of water to help.

Finally, the little friend added, "If it weren't for me, you would have died."

He also said that Zhu Yuanzhang was furious and ordered him to be dragged out and beheaded.

Whether you are outspoken or outspoken, you spit it out without thinking.

Good words make people honest, which is actually a manifestation of low emotional intelligence.

I never reflect on myself, let alone think from the perspective of others.

Pursue "I feel good" blindly, but don't care about other people's feelings.

In the eyes of the elite, only what I say is right, and what others say is wrong.

Even if others are right, we should find fault in the egg and argue.

The life of the elite is always full of fighting spirit, ready to pounce.

You advocate positive energy, they say you poison chicken soup, you write gray, and they say you are full of anger.

Life has a mouth, and all the good and bad things have been said.

The rest of my life is not long, just a few decades. If you want to keep a happy mind, you must stay away from bars.

The fun of fish can only be realized by yourself, and you don't have to expect others to experience it.

Life is your own, life is your own. Pleasing yourself is enough.

May you and I both learn to shut up at the right time, love and understand more, and warm others with our hearts.

May you be a stranger, and wherever you go, people will greet you with smiles.