Eloquence skills, methods and means to make people feel comfortable.

Does your speech make people feel comfortable or uncomfortable? Hypocrisy is one thing. How you express it and how people understand your meaning are the key points. The following are the ways and means I have compiled for you to make you feel comfortable. I hope it works for you.

1, avoid? Up and down? People are very reserved, but many people have no conscious way of speaking unless? What does the other party think? Your classics are one level higher than him, please pay attention? What does the other party think? No? What do you think? . But if you can communicate with the other party in an equal way when you are one level higher than the other party, the other party will not only feel respected, but also be more willing to communicate and cooperate with you.

But it is worth noting that when two people are equal, you speak in a low-level tone, which will also cause embarrassment and discomfort to the other party.

When the other person doesn't want to listen to you, please don't be such a bitch. Please don't think you are self-righteous when others don't want to listen to other people's advice or accept other people's help at the moment? Offer advice when it is most needed? This will help that person. You're just helping yourself with bad karma and making the other person feel uncomfortable.

3. Try to use metaphors and ask questions to guide each other to give answers. We are all human beings. Of course, we will have a subconscious reaction to criticism. Even if the other person wants to know what his shortcomings are today, and wants to know from you, the best way is not to directly point out the other person's shortcomings, but to try to let him look at himself in the way of empathy and a third party.

The first is metaphor and story, when you shift the focus of the protagonist to other characters; The other is to use questions to guide and use? What do you think? Would you? Statement, let him set the situation, to empathize with others' views on himself.

4. Understand each other's motives first. When you judge others' behavior by your own nature, if they really think that you have done something wrong, it will arouse their guilt. Instead of directly accusing, it is better to understand the other party's motives first, so that the other party will not build a heart wall for you while confessing. For example:? What made you do this at that time? What is the reason why you want to do it? Such things can make the other party feel that they are understood, and then explain the possibility of rational discussion from another angle, which is better than direct accusation.

5. Pause for 3 seconds before speaking and think about how what you want to say will affect the other person. The speaker has no intention, but the listener has a heart? When you speak, you must think quickly about whether this sentence is appropriate. Maybe it's just a little joke, but I didn't expect it to make the other party very unhappy, or let the people at the scene leave a little accumulated impression on you. A few more times like this, you won't be carefully shaped.

When you speak, you must communicate with your heart. Let's be honest with each other and don't hide it. Hypocrisy is not good, poison tongue is not good, and the comfort level in conversation directly determines your height.