On the eve of the wedding, a group of "terrible" parents just ruined my marriage. Don't I love her enough?

In fact, the question asked by the subject is a common phenomenon in the current social marriage and love.

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Problems in the world often occur before marriage. Women are more in-laws and wives, and men are husbands. Whenever you are in love, you will have a headache before you get married. It's too late to regret. Can't we continue? 0 1 This conflict between feelings and family has always existed at all times.

Back in ancient times, there was a story about a peacock flying southeast in China. Because his wife and mother didn't agree, his wife Liu Lanzhi finally dived, while her husband Jiao Zhongqing? Hanging in the southeast branch? Tragedy

In foreign countries, there are Romeo and Juliet. They love each other in a daze, but they have to commit suicide together because of their parents' strong opposition.

Today, I turned on my mobile phone and casually watched the emotional mediation programs. Because of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the problem of mother-in-law always accounts for the majority.

Even Queen Elizabeth, who is abroad, often has gossip that she is fighting with several daughters-in-law and grandchildren.

It can be seen that the contradictions in this family emotional dispute are widely distributed, involving the comprehensive character of the characters.

In this family emotional dispute, it is almost impossible to find a balance that is satisfactory to all parties.

Therefore, it's still an old saying in China that an honest official can't break housework!

The subject asked his family if they loved each other enough when they ruined their wedding.

This question makes? Knowledgeable and versatile? Scholars, do you think there are tigers that eat people? The feeling of nowhere to go.

As said in the main question: this matter involves not two people, but two families and two groups of people.

Although Du Shujun doesn't know how fierce the contradiction between the subject's family and the subject is. But in your opinion, that should not be the main reason!

There are a thousand hamlets in the eyes of a thousand people.

Every family in this world is performing again and again every day? Rashomon? .

If you want to ask: in this world? Why? What is the weakest part of the word "two words"?

The answer is not the jungle of Africa, nor the chaotic Somalia.

But in everyone's family.

The fiercest robbers dare not say to you in the crowd: take out the money quickly!

But your children can.

Even the meanest leaders dare not say: Don't sleep or eat until things are finished!

But your parents can.

In the family, even if it is socially recognized? Why? And it is often useless because family members look at problems from different angles.

A word? I'm doing it for your own good, okay? How many people have heard of heart fibrillation and liver pain?

A word? Can we still hurt you? ? Let many people lose love forever and be depressed for half their lives!

Family members are warm because of affection, but also restrict each other because of warmth.

What bothers the subject, in the final analysis, is that it is difficult to deal with the conflict between family and love.

Is this conflict easy to solve?

It's really hard!

Love and affection? Disagreement? The pain of

A few years ago, a girl asked her boyfriend on the Internet. Lore? Question: If your mother and I fell into the water at the same time, who would you save first?

When this question came out, almost all the boys scratched their heads and dared not say anything.

Choose to save your mother first; ? Straight man? Ma Bao? Suspected of escaping.

Choose to save your girlfriend first; If you don't trust your own mother, will you be sincere to your girlfriend?

It's not the right choice anyway

In the Peacock Flying Southeast mentioned by Du Shujun at the beginning, Jiao Zhongqing faces such a problem.

It is said that Jiao Zhongqing, a civil servant in the Eastern Han Dynasty, married a daughter-in-law named Liu Lanzhi. After many years of marriage, they are still in love, playing the pipa and singing harmoniously.

However, Zhong Qing's mother despises Lan Zhi, making things difficult for her, and finally forcing Zhong Qing to divorce his wife.

Zhong Qing didn't want to divorce his wife at first, but she couldn't resist her mother's repeated persecution, so she had to say to Lan Zhi, Why don't you go back to your mother's house first, and I'll discuss it with her mother and take you back when she calms down.

Lan Zhi told Zhong Qing: I didn't make any mistakes, but I was sent back to my parents' home. Even if I don't want to remarry, my mother won't say anything. But my brother is strong-willed and impatient. He won't let me wait for you.

Zhong Qing comforted Lan Zhi, saying that the old lady couldn't see you, so she wanted to get through it early, and I could take you back soon.

So, the next day, Zhong Qing and Lan Zhi broke up with tears and let Lan Zhi go back to her home.

After returning to my parents' home, the situation really started as Lan Zhi said. Several people came to match, and Lan Zhi's mother understood her daughter's idea and refused.

It was not until later that the son of the Taishou family came to visit relatives and friends and was rejected that Lan Zhi's brother was not happy. He said: you used to marry a small official, but now you are bringing your son to ask for relatives. The identities of the two people are very different. If you don't even marry this son, what do you want to marry?

Lan Zhi had no choice but to say to his younger brother, I have an appointment with Zhong Qing, but he hasn't come yet. what can I say? Let your brother decide everything.

So, the matchmaker returned the satrap and said that Lan Zhi agreed.

After hearing the news, Zhong Qing hurried to see Lan Zhi.

But Lan Zhi can only tell him truthfully that her mother and brother at home don't want her to wait any longer, and there is nothing she can do.

Although two people met and knew each other's minds had not changed, no one could solve their own problems at home.

So I can only say goodbye with tears and agree to live and die together.

Later, Lan Zhi died of diving on the day he married the son of the Taishou family.

After Zhong Qing learned of Lan Zhi's death, she hanged herself with her in front of the house where they got married.

After their death, the families of both sides asked to be buried together.

Nothing is more tragic than the conflict between family and love.

Love is a matter for two people, and marriage is a matter for two families and two groups of people.

Although it may be a little cold to say it, Zhang Shujun still believes that if the conflict between affection and love is really irreconcilable, it is better to have a long pain than a short pain, and to be separated early and feel at ease early.

After all, although marriage is the end of love, it is a short starting point for parents, which can't solve the fundamental contradiction and make them feel uneasy after marriage.

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