What do you mean by your criteria for choosing a spouse?

What do you mean by your criteria for choosing a spouse?

What do you mean by your criteria for choosing a spouse? Why do you love this person and not others? True love is unconditional. When you like someone, it's only because he is him. Let's take a look at the following criteria for mate selection.

What do you mean by your criteria for choosing a spouse? 1 Generally speaking, the standard for choosing a spouse is one sentence: men see beauty and women see security.

First, the criteria for male mate selection:

1, external image: attractive appearance, figure and posture, skin color.

2. Manner: Be gentle and considerate. For example, she is gentle and considerate to her husband, kind and generous to her parents and reasonable to her children.

Second, women's mate selection criteria:

1, material basis: If you have a house and a car economically, you'd better have your own business.

2. Intrinsic quality: Good personality, paying attention to a man's internal quality such as personality, temperament, talent and conduct is more interested in his appearance and figure. A talented or sunny or humorous or honest man is attractive.

3. Spiritual needs: I like men who can comfort her mentally, emotionally and psychologically.

4. Special requirements: whether to live with the other parents, whether to take care of the elderly, etc.

What do you mean by your criteria for choosing a spouse? Tell me about your mate selection criteria.

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Some people say, "The simplest love can throw everything away." Why do you love this person and not others? True love is unconditional. When you like someone, it's only because he is him. What are your criteria for choosing a spouse? Let's talk!

Maybe everyone will have a standard for the other half before meeting the person they love. But when you fall in love with that person, when you really become lovers, these rules seem less important. When you love someone, you always feel "as long as it is you".

When you are in love, you can't remember the past standards, and women's standards for men are constantly changing. Today I like "Lu Han" small meat type, and tomorrow I like "William Feng" uncle type. Until I meet the person I like, this is an uncertain number.

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However, for some hard conditions, many women still have their own principles and bottom lines. Like looks, height. After all, this is not your own business, and most of it will be passed on to future generations. I don't care, but I have to think about my future children.

You can have plastic surgery if you are ugly, but your height is a serious injury. It is unacceptable that many men are shorter than girls. Do women mind the height of their other half? It is a lie to say that you don't mind.

Xiao Na and Xiao Liu were introduced by friends. In fact, Xiao Na had known many men before the blind date. Every time she is ugly and short, Xiao Na can't accept it. What she wants is the kind of Gao Fushuai, not only taller, but also more handsome.

Until Xiao Na met Xiao Liu, Xiao Liu looked ordinary and not very rich, but he was 180cm tall and looked tall and powerful, so he felt safe with him. This made Xiao Na fall in love at first sight, and finally they fell in love and got married.

Xiao Na recalled that when she first met Xiao Liu, she said, "Although he was poor and not handsome, his height conquered me!" . Xiao Na is 160cm, although it is not very high. But Xiao Na always wanted to be the cutest height difference with his other half. Xiao Liu's height made her very satisfied, and there was a later story.

Who says height is not important in love? Many women are very concerned about height. Tall men can always give people a more domineering feeling and bring more security to women, but it is often love at first sight, and all your mate selection criteria are not important!

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Guan Guan and Xiao Li met online. The two have been chatting, but they have never met. Talk for two years.

When two people get to know each other, they feel that the other person is very good and suitable for them. Finally decided to meet. Xiao Li hesitated because his height always made Xiao Li feel inferior. Xiao Li only has 160. He was afraid that after he saw Guan Guan, Guan Guan would dislike him.

However, he finally decided to take a difficult step and wear flat shoes to the customs. Guan Guan's height 162cm, beautiful and well dressed. Xiao Li felt even more inferior when he saw Guan Guan.

Just as Xiao Li was about to leave, Guan Guan grabbed his hand. Seeing Xiao Li's worry, Guan Guan said, "I don't care about your appearance." I like you. Let's be together. "

Two people together in this way, in the concept of love, love is more important than everything. Like a person because of his personality, his humor, his gentleness and thoughtfulness. Not looks or height. Perhaps in the eyes of many people, Xiao Li is not worthy of customs clearance. But if you like it, that's the best way to love.

When you really like someone, your mate selection criteria are not used at all! Love is great. Sometimes I will be infatuated with a person's excellent qualities first, and then I will see the outside of this person. First come, first served, I have fallen in love with this person, and my height and appearance are irrelevant.

What do you mean by your criteria for choosing a spouse? 3. Pay attention to the standard of mate selection.

The "love standard" about love and the "marriage standard" about marriage can be collectively referred to as the criteria for choosing a spouse. I want to ask you, do you have your own criteria for choosing a spouse? If not, now think about it, can you list one, two and three points as your mate selection criteria? Let's think about this problem first. Let me talk about some cases I have encountered about mate selection criteria.

A few days ago, a friend told me, "Lin Dong, watching you write emotional articles every day, I see many unmarried women and single women in it. Can you introduce me to one? "

I asked him, "What are your criteria for choosing a spouse? What do you think of your qualifications? You can say it alone or write it and send it to me. If there is nothing wrong, I can help you find a marriage! "

He said he would send it to me when he finished writing, so I put it down and went to work for the time being. I thought he would think about it for a while, but I didn't expect him to send me the criteria for choosing a spouse ten minutes later. The following are his mate selection criteria. Let's see:

Self-condition:

"XX, male, 29 years old, single, height 165, handsome, safe, working as an editor in an online company, knowing fashion, with a monthly salary of 6K, no house and no car."

Criteria for mate selection:

"If you want to find a woman with a higher income than me, you can fall in love first or get married directly, but you must be young and beautiful, with a height of 170 or higher. You should be diligent in housekeeping and be tolerant of my bad temper. "

I don't know if you found any problems after reading it, but in my opinion, there are many problems. First, it is written too casually; Secondly, he has no self-knowledge, and his own conditions and mate selection criteria are completely different. To put it bluntly, the toad wants to eat swan meat. I say this because I know him too well. He is not handsome at all, and he doesn't understand fashion. His image is a mess, and he has the face to understand fashion. There is also a sense of security. It is not for you to decide whether you feel safe or not, it is for others to decide.

His conditions are actually very general, but the criteria for choosing a spouse reveal picky and ignorance everywhere. The first is income. What makes you think that a woman with high income will fall in love with you and marry you? You don't pay attention to equivalence, and others pay attention to equivalence. Women want men who earn more than themselves! The second is height. If you are in free love, you may find a girlfriend taller than you. However, if you want to get married and ask your partner to be taller than you without saying a word, it will make many women feel ridiculous because your request is completely unrealistic.

It is especially important to say "I must be able to tolerate my bad temper". I can clearly say that women will not consider you at all when they look at this point after seeing your conditions. Who is crazy to fall in love and get married with a man with poor conditions and bad temper? What woman doesn't want to find a good-natured man to fall in love and get married? I am angry that he has the cheek to list this as a criterion for choosing a spouse.

I told him: "People should be self-aware, and the criteria for choosing a spouse should be based on your actual situation. Too high or too low a standard is not good, which shows that you are particularly insincere. If you want to get married, you must first reflect on yourself, recognize your own conditions, and then think about what kind of woman you are suitable for, what kind of woman you are suitable for, and what kind of marriage you want. As for your bad temper, it is not suitable to be included in the criteria for choosing a spouse. What you have to do is to adjust your bad temper first and let it disappear. You're in a mess now, and you haven't managed yourself at all. You don't have to get married in a hurry. If you want to get married, you should do it according to your own actual situation. Otherwise, others will laugh to death. "

He said angrily, "Why don't you just send it out in case someone takes a fancy to me?"

I refused, not to mention that there is no one thousand, even if there is a possibility of one in ten thousand, it is not fair to women. It is impossible for him to be kind to women in his current love mentality, and I don't want to match anyone casually.

Emotional advice:

I hope this case mentioned above can give you some reminders: whether you want to fall in love or get married, you must first have self-knowledge and recognize everything about yourself, and then consider love and marriage.

You should understand that the marriage you "fit" and the marriage you "want" are two different things. If you feel that you are poor in all aspects and the gap between you and the love and marriage you want is too big, then don't rush to fall in love and get married. Start your own business first, improve yourself and let yourself have more love and marriage capital. If you know that you have poor conditions in all aspects and want to fall in love and get married, then you should adjust your mate selection criteria and find a person who suits you in all aspects according to your actual situation, so that falling in love and getting married will be relatively smooth. Don't be too high or too low, so don't say that your love marriage is not smooth, even if you have a love marriage, you can't keep it.