Men are only happy when they have sex (in order to get their own happy marriage)

I'm from the xi Pavilion in Donglin. If you have a story, come to me.

The word contentment applies to all aspects of life, including marriage. A person who has a high demand for marriage, or a person who can't be lower, can hardly get a happy marriage, because he is always unwilling to give up. Even if he is given a happy marriage, he is still not satisfied and wants something better. The thing about marriage is this: no matter what your current conditions are, you only deserve a marriage that is equivalent to your current conditions. If you don't know yourself and have higher requirements for marriage than you have now, then you won't be happy. If you can improve yourself, your marriage requirements can be improved simultaneously, but after the promotion, you are still only worthy of the marriage with the same conditions at that time. No matter how high you climb, you will still not be happy. I have a friend who is very good at this. Let's take a look at his story.

Emotional story of Donglin xi Pavilion: Xiao Jiang and I met when we were just working, and we got along well, so we became friends. Get along for a long time, more and more found that he is an honest man, very dutiful, and knows how to be down-to-earth. If his conditions are not good, he will not do anything higher than his conditions. At that time, some people laughed at him for not being flexible enough, saying that he was not smooth enough, and encouraged him to climb some rich people, making him swollen and fat. He ignored it and still lived in his own way. I always respect everyone's lifestyle. I won't say anything as long as there is no big problem.

Then one day, several classmates asked me to have dinner, and I took Xiao Jiang with me. It was on that day that he met my colleague Xiaomei.

Xiaomei and Xiao Jiang are very similar. They are divided into book type and down-to-earth type. Although she is different in the company, she is not tall and a little fat, but she is very sensible and will not deliberately change herself because she compares with other women. They all are. Although they have no money and love, they know how to be content and feel that giving and gaining is the greatest happiness.

Shortly thereafter, they fell in love. I feel that love is amazing. The two of them take it out separately. Xiao Jiang is not the kind of person who is very popular with women, and Xiaomei is not the kind of person who is very popular with men. But also because of this, they became a kind of people, love each other, and love hit it off. It can be seen that they are very satisfied with each other. Especially Xiao Jiang, when asked about his feelings for Xiaomei, he couldn't hide his inner joy and said with a smile that she was fine.

Later, Xiaomei had a teacher recruitment exam in her hometown. Xiaomei asked Xiao Jiang to go back to the exam with her, and he followed. However, Xiaomei passed the exam, but Xiao Jiang didn't. Xiaomei explained that she would take the exam again next year and would settle down, get married and work in her hometown in the future. He agreed, quit his job and went to Xiaomei's hometown to work with her and concentrate on preparing for the exam. The next year, he was admitted as he wished.

They worked as teachers in the same school and got married there after a year's work. Because the house price in Xiaomei's hometown is relatively cheap, after another year, they bought a house and had children, which sounded very happy.

One day they invited me to play at home, and I traveled long distances all weekend. It's a small city, a small city, and I don't know the exact route. It can't compare with a big city like Shanghai anyway. Usually everyone runs from a small city to a big city, and Xiao Jiang dares to retreat from Shanghai to that small city for marriage and beauty. I really admire his courage.

When I am with them, I can feel that they are very happy. Although the city is small, the facilities are not perfect, and their home is not very luxurious, the happy atmosphere does exist.

After dinner, when he took me out for a walk, I wanted to hear his understanding of this life and asked him, "Do you regret coming here from Shanghai?"

He was not surprised at my question at all, and said indifferently, "No regrets! I chose it myself, so I have nothing to regret. I am satisfied with my present life and feel very happy. I have a family, children, a house and a stable job. I think it's good to live like this. "

I continued to ask him, "Don't you ever want to go back to the big city and live a higher life?"

He smiled. "That advanced? Not advanced? It can make you feel happy. I think this is an advanced life. It's not that you don't know that place in Shanghai. Although it gives people a very advanced feeling, people like me live in that place, which is neither fish nor fowl. Although they are not miserable, it is difficult for them to live well. I am a self-aware person. In Shanghai, I may struggle for another ten or twenty years, and I won't have such a life now. I will be unhappy and dissatisfied. "

In fact, I only ask this stupid question to listen to his inner thoughts and see if he will be dissatisfied with his present life. I'm relieved to hear him say that. He is still the man I knew who knew how to be contented. A man who is easy to satisfy can get his own happy marriage. He is a living example.

? Emotional suggestion of Donglin xi Pavilion: Sharing Xiao Jiang's story with you is not to encourage you to live in his way, but to give you some reminders and reference. The word contentment is not as simple as talking about it. You must practice it in your life to be truly happy. Some people may think that Xiao Jiang has no ambition. I don't think he has no ambition. On the contrary, he appreciates his self-knowledge, his planning for life and his definition of happiness. At least he is much happier than those who blindly want to live a good life but have never realized it.

Happiness is the state when psychological desires are satisfied, but many people only have psychological desires, but the state when they are satisfied is never the same. For example, if a person has a high demand for love and marriage but can't get it, there will be no happiness; For example, if a person falls in love but cannot get married, there will be no happiness; For example, a person is always dissatisfied after falling in love and getting married, and hopes to have a better love and marriage, which will not make him feel happy. The reason is that these people have not clearly understood their current conditions and state, and have not defined happiness on this basis, so they will always be unhappy. Happiness is simple to say and complicated to say. The key depends on how you define it yourself. Anyway, no matter how you define it, being a content person will never change.