What if there is nothing to talk about with the object?

What if two people have nothing to say together? Someone has asked me this question, but when you read Liu Zhenyun's "One sentence is worth ten thousand sentences", you will find that this is not a problem for a few people, but a problem that all couples will face. If you ask me this question when I was 20 years old, I might answer, "If the other person can't talk to you, it shouldn't be your right person.". Go and find the next one. " But now you let me answer, and I will advise you to hold on a little longer. You can start chatting with the other person for a long time anytime and anywhere, but then you will find that it's not love, it's yourself. There is a dialogue in Perfect Stranger: "How do you know if you are in love with her?" "If you talk to her for 30 minutes every day, you will fall in love with her."

"What about 60 minutes?" "That is love her to death. After that, you don't talk much, which means you are married. " One day, love will fade away warmly, but it will not disappear. It's still there, just in another way. Just like the love of grandparents in those days, there was no software and no mobile phone. It took ten days for a letter to reach the other party. Even so, they sometimes have nothing to say. But we still envy them for finding a partner who can walk hand in hand in the alley when their hair is gray. Many people tend to let go when there are emotional problems. I don't know that choosing to continue the relationship and operating with heart is the best gift for the other party.

There is nothing to say, you can talk nonsense. Huang Lei once said in Life I yearn for: "When I was young, I always thought that love and life were like this. Later, I found that if two people only want what they want, then life must be bumpy. To really live, you must find someone who can chat and eat. " But if we are all busy with our own affairs and have nothing new to say, won't we fall in love? My friend Xiao Li has a good solution to this problem. She is very busy at work, and the company has almost no other place to go except the gym. Her social circle is basically expanded by the interest matching software of making friends, and she also knows her current boyfriend. Her boyfriend is in the police academy. He gets up at 5: 30 in the morning and goes to bed at 1 1 30 in the evening. Every hour is fully scheduled.

So Xiao Li will send the latest photos to each other, even if he takes a double chin, he will not hesitate to send them to him. Good-looking selfies are the same, and the real makeup is only sent to you. Boyfriend will send all the things he has done at the end of the day to his girlfriend when he has a mobile phone to let her know his recent situation. Every dynamic she sends in her circle of friends, her boyfriend should praise him, reply seriously and interact with her, which is why she feels that although she is not with her boyfriend every day, she always has a sense of existence and belonging in her heart. What hurts in love is not that I have nothing to say, but that I can't feel your concern and touch your life. Long-distance love lasts a lifetime, and nothing to say is bullshit.

There is nothing to say, you can accompany ta in different places, and the most feared thing is to escape; "Well, I still have ppt to do, so I'm busy first." "I felt that there was nothing to say, so I fell asleep." "What are you doing?" It's nothing. Ben just has nothing to say, but it makes the other party feel that you don't want to tell ta. But if we set a meeting time at this time, such as "Let's go to Qingdao to see the sea together next month". From the moment you say goodbye, the other person and you will start to look forward to that day, so that they will have something to say all month. At that time, you can deeply understand what Fox said to the little prince: If you say you will come at four o'clock in the afternoon, I will feel very happy from three o'clock, and the closer the time is, the happier I will be. I have seen a couple from different places, watching each other busy with work and study with videos on every night. The whole process was quiet, but when they looked at each other, their eyes were full of happiness.

Even if I have nothing to say to you at the moment, I just want to spend my life with you. A stay-at-home wife told me, "I think it's normal to have nothing to say, but it's definitely not normal not to be with you." Also, imagine that he is playing with his mobile phone on the sofa and you are lying on his lap reading a book. When you meet a garbage teammate, he spits a few words at you, and you watch him continue reading with a smile. After dinner, you get up and go to the kitchen to cook. He put on his shoes and went out to pick up the children. There is nothing to say, so I said "come back early". He had nothing to say, but he answered three words as usual, "I see." There is nothing to say about this life, but you won't feel tired and you won't love it. Love and marriage are not always full of surprises. Only when they are dull can we talk about forever.

I really like what a netizen said: I have to contact many people every day, I have to talk a lot, and I can't be cold. I just can't talk without emotional intelligence. But you are different. You'll tell me "don't say it if you don't want to". The meaning of a lover is that I can have nothing to say in front of you, and I can say nothing all afternoon, and I don't have to please anyone to find any topic, and I'm not afraid of the embarrassment of chatting. Everyone wants to talk to someone, but I hope you understand that the best love in the world is to watch the sunrise and sunset side by side without restraint or expectation.