If you break your word, don't blame the child for not listening to you.

During the Spring Festival, I concentrate on staying at home with my parents, and another task is to do my homework with my nephew and niece. This Spring Festival is the longest holiday for my little nephew to stay at his grandmother's house. My brother is on duty. Before leaving, he agreed with his son to let him stay at his grandmother's house for two more days, provided that he did his homework carefully, otherwise he would take him home. Nephew agreed. Who knows that my sister-in-law will take her little nephew home on the afternoon of the fourth day, because the child didn't agree to make it. On the afternoon of the fifth day, I called to pick him up again. The mother's capricious changes make the child very upset. Such things often happen in their family. The little nephew said that he was speechless about his mother's behavior, and the nephew also felt that his son was disobedient and had always opposed himself.

? The nephew resented his mother's bad faith. He clearly promised a good thing, but he broke his word and insisted that the children go according to their own ideas. There is really no shortage of such parents in life. They often go from one thing to another, thinking that one thing is another, leaving their children at a loss, but complaining that they are disobedient. As everyone knows, your change is the most disgusting thing for children. After a long time, it will lose the trust and respect of children, and it will also cause resistance from older children, especially adolescent children, and often provoke wars with children.

When children are young, some parents often say "If you are obedient, mom/dad will take you to play" or other words to their derailed children in order to coax them to do things according to their own instructions, but after the baby is obedient, they find other excuses to perfunctory things.

Parents are children's first teachers, and children learn from their parents at the beginning, including honesty. Therefore, if parents often break their promises to their children, children will feel that their promises are only verbal expressions and are not worthy of attention. Therefore, you will start to learn from your own performance, but you will lose confidence in others.

If you often break your promise to your child, the child will deeply believe that what your parents say is just talk, and it doesn't count at all. Therefore, it will be useless for parents to use this trick to make their children obedient or induce them to do something in the future.

If parents want to gain the trust and respect of their children, they must first keep their promises. Parents and children should take it as seriously as adults, or don't promise their children. If they do, they should do their best. If they can't do it for objective reasons, we should give them a reasonable explanation. What's more, adolescent children hate your constant change. Don't let the expectant children feel greatly lost because of your broken thoughts, and your image will be discounted in their hearts.

? Second, words and deeds should be consistent. Some parents are very strict with their children, but their own behavior is often the opposite of what they ask their children to do. Other parents clearly tell their children the truth, but say one thing and do another, and their words and deeds are different. Parents always think that their children are too young to know anything. In fact, these words and deeds of parents have long been seen by children and kept in mind. Parents must pay attention to the consistency of words and deeds. Parents should take the lead in doing what children are asked to do. Parents do what they say, be an example in children's hearts, and let children worship you. Learn to appreciate and make children like you.

Don't make promises to children easily. Other parents easily promised their children some conditions in order to induce them to accomplish something, but later they failed to fulfill them for one reason or another. When children's hopes are dashed, they will find that their parents are deceiving themselves. How can they trust their parents next time? Therefore, what parents do can only make children distrust what their parents say and reduce their prestige in their children's hearts.

? Parents should also learn to respect and understand their children and let them have a healthy psychology. The more parents respect their children, the more self-esteem they will have, and the more self-esteem they will pay attention to correcting their words and deeds, thus winning the respect of others. Therefore, it is much better to gently point out the shortcomings of children than to reprimand them naked.

Family members should trust each other. Although the child is still young, he will feel your respect and trust. Don't lose your child's trust because your words don't count.