Inspirational quotes to encourage yourself to be restrained: You are not confused, you just lack self-control.

1. "If you are bitten by a dog, do you have to bite it back?" These are words to comfort the weak. I will not only bite him back, but also blow his dog's head off.

2. Sometimes, don’t just look at others and take the wrong path. You must take the initiative. You are ordinary, but you are unique

3. People do not live for a lifetime, nor for years, months, or days, but for a few moments.

4. The best state of life is to be content with gains and losses, be indifferent to successes and failures, and still move forward.

5. It is you who generously gave me the song of years, but you were also stingy and kept me from loving you.

6. The soul is a special place where heaven can be turned into hell and hell can be turned into heaven.

7. Life is repeated day by day until you find your own meaning.

8. I never thought about becoming a human being, but the sufferings in this world have not let me go.

9. If there is tomorrow, how would you dress your face ideally? If there is no tomorrow, how would you say goodbye.

10. He sank, he fell, and you laughed at him again and again, but you must know that he fell above you. His extreme joy brings sorrow, but his bright light is closely followed by your darkness.

11. The rainy days in my childhood were the muddiest, but they were also the cleanest in my memory.

12. You are not confused, you just lack self-control.

13. Every soul is unique and has its own virtues and faults.

14. Whatever makes you sad now, you will definitely forget in the future.

15. People who really care about you will always have candy in their pockets, not truth. He knows that Jianghu is dangerous, and he just wants to protect you.

16. When I look through the messages I haven’t opened for a long time, I find every time that the people I once said I would love for a lifetime only appear in my life for a while.

17. In order to understand how short life is, a person must go through a long road of life.

18. All the glamor and beauty are no match for time and will never return.

19. At that moment, there was a tsunami in your heart, but you stood quietly and didn't let anyone know.

20. People’s souls should be cleaner because there are too many dirty things in the world.

21. Living in our world, it is completely impossible to understand people without reading.

22. If you take the wrong road, you can change it, but if you don’t move, you will be stuck in the same place.

23. Only when a person is prepared to accept the worst encounter can he gain true peace.

24. Your hobbies are the sustenance of your ordinary life and determine the quality of your life.

25. Hold back on saying what you know and listen more to others. Society has never liked a person who knows too much and shows it.

26. Time will really change a lot of people, including our appearance and our hearts.

27. The days we pass are under your wrath; the years we spend are like a sigh.

28. You have to know that there is nothing you can't do, unless you don't want to; there is nothing you can't get through, unless you always go back.

29. I don’t expect life to go smoothly, but I hope that when I encounter difficulties in life, I can be its opponent.

Thirty. I can only accompany you so far. You have to walk the rest of the way by yourself and don't look back.

Thirty-one, I will have no regrets if I have you when I am young, and I will have no regrets if I grow old with you.

32. Language is often fake, but the things we have experienced together are real.

33. Can a person be brave if he is afraid? People only become brave when they are afraid.

34. Good things will always come. If you are simple, clean, smart and simple, you will find that miracles do not come, they come because of you. Famous and inspiring quotes: Failure is mostly due to poor self-control

Have you ever been in this situation:

Open the book you decided to read today, read two pages, and took a photo. Post a check-in in Moments, then wait for likes and comments, and then find time to reply to comments. The time of waiting and longing for attention passes little by little. It is not until it’s time to wash up and go to bed that you realize that the book has been stuck there. on the second page.

If you want to learn English, it’s still early. Let’s watch some TV series. How did this TV series be filmed? The plot doesn’t even match up. It’s too boring. So let’s play some games. You’re almost done with the games. , I looked at the time and saw that it was twelve o'clock in the middle of the night; forget it, let's study again tomorrow, it's not too late anyway.

I'm losing weight, but I can't control my mouth. I want to try this store when I see it, buy something delicious when I see it, and keep comforting myself to lose weight. Not bad for this meal.

So, we found a lot of excuses for ourselves, such as procrastination, late-stage laziness, and having fun to the full in order to be successful in life. They are all kinds of excuses, and they are all reasonable. With a self-deprecating sense of humor.

What then?

Then, we would say, oh, I also want to change, I am so confused and helpless, I am so melancholy and helpless, I don’t want this, I want to do better, but I just can’t find it. to the direction.

And then, we are still where we were, standing still.

Have you ever looked beyond these appearances to see inside yourself?

Why can't you do it?

Because you don’t even have the most basic self-control. Inspirational Quotes

What is self-control?

Self-control is a person’s ability to control his or her thoughts, feelings, and behavior.

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A girl left me a message last night, saying that she couldn’t control herself and had to check her Moments every few minutes. She knew that she was doing something wrong and wanted to Change, I want to study hard, but I just can’t.

When you want to change, it is because you have realized that this behavior has had a negative impact on you, but why have you not succeeded in changing?

Each of us will encounter such problems. The key to whether we can do well lies in whether we have strong self-control.

Frequently scrolling through Moments means that your self-control has not reached the point where it can compete with what you want, so you allow yourself to scroll over and over again, as if this is the only way to find your existence. sense of fulfillment and fulfillment.

Being confused and not knowing where the road is is all the excuses we make for ourselves when self-control cannot play its role.

If you are a student, you have to study hard and get good grades. If you are an employee, you have to go all out and achieve good results. Confusion is just an outlet for laziness. If you haven’t persisted, just say you don’t have it. method, that is belittling oneself.

So you have to force yourself to change, shift the attention you spend on your circle of friends to things you are interested in, and then gradually learn your own professional knowledge.

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What is it like to have poor self-control?

I spent a whole day tidying up the house last weekend.

Theoretically, even cleaning wouldn’t take a whole day; but in reality, I did spend a whole day doing housework, which did not bring me happiness.

First, I tidied up the bedroom and took off the sheets and quilts. After changing them, I felt that the room was so quiet and it would be nice to have some noise. I turned on the computer stereo and found that I was tired of listening to all the songs in the playlist, so I tried it again. I searched the music library and listened to each song one by one. More than half an hour passed. I finally found a few songs that were similar, and then I remembered that I still have to work;

Okay, continue, now I have to pack away the toys. Now, put the things that should be washed in the basin, and put the others in the corresponding boxes. Hey, I haven’t played this chess set for a long time. Let’s practice. I asked Mr. Qin to play a game. After losing, I turned around and saw that the toys were still there. It's scattered all over the place.

The bedroom has finally been sorted out, so let’s move to the living room. It’s a bit boring, so let’s clean it up while watching TV.

I have watched Nirvana in Fire, but I don’t want to watch The Legend of Mi Yue. Homeland Security requires staring at the subtitles to understand it. It is not suitable for this time. Reasoning is not suitable for brain-intensive ones, because you can’t wipe the table and mop the floor and face the computer all the time. The plot is not up to par and not satisfying

After searching for nearly an hour, I finally confirmed to watch Swordsman.

Okay, the living room is almost done. Now only the kitchen and the laundry in the bathroom are left.

I wanted to see what needed to be disposed of in the refrigerator, but I was attracted by the yogurt. I took out two cups and drank them. Then I looked for something else to eat and ate them too

When I finished washing my clothes and felt completely relieved, it was already dark.

In fact, what I could have done in two hours took me one day plus no lunch.

I can finish my housework first, eat something, and then see what I am interested in, or read a book or study chess.

Instead of doing this and that, I didn’t do the housework well and I didn’t enjoy it.

Because we don’t have strong self-control, we are always attracted by these external things, which distracts our attention. Therefore, we allow ourselves to be distracted by trivial matters and cannot concentrate on completing what we want to do. things, resulting in a waste of time and energy consumption.

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Start with interest and then let nature take its course

How should we improve our self-control?

First of all, you have to find something that you are interested in. As the saying goes, interest is the best teacher. Where interest lies, there is motivation, which helps to cultivate concentration.

Secondly, you need to find a direction and goal that you want to move forward in. Unorganized planning may lead you to deviate from the track, so you have to figure out where you want to make a difference. For development and further study, if you choose the right direction, you will get twice the result with half the effort.

Furthermore, you have to force yourself to persevere. For example, if you want to apply for an MBA, then you have to spend an hour or more every day practicing listening, speaking, and written test questions. No matter how sleepy, cold or unwilling to get up, you must persist in practicing this part.

The process of perseverance is the process of increasing your self-control.

A person's cultural quality and life quality are closely related to his self-control. I have met many outstanding people. They don't check their friends circle very much. They are tolerant and generous, and don't worry about trivial matters. Able to control their temper and measure towards others, because they know that small things and impulses will not bring them any benefit, and there are more important things to do.

Cultural literacy, from another aspect, represents our inner level. The higher the level, the nobler the outlook on life and values. He can see the side that ordinary people cannot understand, and Insist on self-improvement and control.

Improving knowledge and literacy, and improving self-control, complement each other.

Roy L. Smith said: Self-control is like a controlled flame, it is what creates genius.

If you want to achieve something, give up those confused excuses and develop your self-control, and you will eventually get what you want.

Success depends on self-control. Beware of these 6 lies that are stealing your life

Success depends on self-control? Beware of these 6 lies that are stealing your life

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Please note that if you are smart, you will definitely find the following words very familiar.

There are too many things to do

Doing several things at the same time will be more efficient

I must have iron willpower

To balance all aspects of life and work

Ability should keep up with ideas

It is said that if a lie is repeated a thousand times, it becomes the truth.

Is your life being stolen bit by bit by these 6 lies?

Lie 1: Everything matters

Equality is the biggest lie in the world.

20 customers bring more than 80% revenue, and 20 problems occupy 80% of our time.

To-do lists are long and complicated, but success lists are always short and concise.

The asymmetry between effort and gain can be seen everywhere. If you pay a little attention, you will find that if you apply the Pareto Principle well, success will be within your reach.

There are always some things that are more important.

And among these things, only one thing is the most important.

Internalize this concept and you'll have the secret to success.

Lie 2: You can handle multiple things at the same time

Envy those generalists who are always at ease?

Research by a Stanford professor is shocking: Generalists who often handle multiple tasks are often less able to grasp the key points. They do everything poorly.

It can be seen that taking care of several things at the same time is just a beautiful lie.

Switching tasks costs money. Once we switch tasks, it means shifting our attention. And set principles for what comes next.

The more complex the task, the higher our switching costs.

A clear conclusion is: dealing with several things at the same time will reduce our efficiency and reaction speed.

Don’t envy office generalists, you just need to focus, focus, and focus a little longer.

Lie 3: Live a regular life

People generally believe that successful people are self-disciplined people and they all live a regular life.

This is another huge lie.

Success is not a marathon, but a sprint. The energy accumulated through long-term self-discipline cannot equal the habit.

In fact, what we need is not persistence, but habit. To develop habits, we need self-discipline.

The secret to success is to choose the right habit, train yourself, and develop this habit. It's that simple and you only have to do so much.

When this habit has become a part of your life, you will look like a self-disciplined person.

Of course, you can’t be self-disciplined in all aspects. You just need to pick the most useful things and stick to them.

Doing the right things and cultivating the right habits will completely rescue us from meaningless trivial matters.

Lie 4: Willpower is within reach

Would you deliberately cause trouble for yourself to hone your willpower?

We forcibly tie success and willpower together, which is tantamount to pushing success away with our own hands.

Where there is a will, things come true. The role of will is always overemphasized.

It all seems simple: with steely willpower, success is within easy reach.

But what about reality?

One second I was full of confidence, but the next second my willpower was shattered and I had stage fright.

Admit it! Willpower comes and goes like the wind, and we have no control over it at all.

Willpower is within reach, it’s just a lie.

Research has proven that willpower is an extremely scarce resource. It is a mental muscle that takes a longer time to regain resilience.

If you use too much willpower on one thing and don't wait for it to recover before jumping into the next thing, your performance will never be satisfactory.

If you want to maximize the results of the day, then sprint towards the goal before your willpower dies. Self-control will always fail, so hurry up and do the most important things while he is still there.

Lie 5: Work-life balance

We imagine that everything can reach a perfect state of balance, but it is just an imagination. Once we pursue success, life becomes unbalanced.

Focus means doing only the most important things, and we can’t take care of everything.

If you want to cover everything, everything will inevitably be compromised and the expected results will not be achieved. The reason we shouldn’t pursue balance is because magic never happens at the halfway point.

Miracles will always happen only in the process of pursuing the ultimate.

When you work tirelessly for important things, you will naturally break the balance and tilt the time towards them.

Only by getting used to the imbalance and no longer pursuing balance can you have the opportunity to achieve the ultimate in something.

Lie 6: Big goals are bad things

Big opportunities are better than small opportunities, but small problems are better than big problems.

When it comes to big goals, people’s first reaction is usually that they are difficult, complicated, and time-consuming. People think that big goals are difficult to achieve. But once you get started, the situation will be very complicated, and you will feel great pressure and distress. People are intimidating.

People are afraid of the stress and anxiety that great success will bring. They are afraid that great success will take away time from family and friends, and will also take away their health.

People are not sure whether they should have lofty ideals, and are worried that something unfortunate will happen if they try and fail. When big goals are considered bad, all kinds of small things occupy our time, and lofty ideals will never see the light of day.

No one knows where his or her limits are. When you believe that you will become a person with outstanding achievements,

you will continue to break through the limits and pursue greater ideals.

There are two modes of human thinking:

One is the development mode, which takes a long-term view and pursues progress.

The other is the fixed mode, which artificially sets limits to avoid failure.

When we fail to aim high, we will consciously or unconsciously resist lofty ideals.

Courage does not mean being fearless, but transcending fear. Sometimes, you are not confused, you are just indecisive

1. Life is not so complicated. You may get melons for sowing beans and loving others. If you dare to try, the world will dare to answer.

2. You may not know that when I like you, I will like you even if you scold me. Even if you ignore me, I can't help but take the initiative to talk to you.

3. For a period of time, you suddenly have a good relationship with some people and think that each other can become real friends. However, they will gradually fade away from your memory.

4. The more precious things in life are, the more likely they are to be late, but as long as they belong to you, they will always be affectionate: although they come late, they will not leave once they come.

5. Love can be simple, but it cannot be casual.

6. If the person you like is so good, don’t fall for it.

7. When you feel inferior to others, remember that you are just an ordinary person.

8. I don’t want to travel all over the world, I just want to take a look at you and say goodbye.

9. Everyone calls your name, but only one person can make your name sound so special.

10. The so-called forever is the distance that can never be touched.

11. Say thank you to those who once liked you and confessed to you, and remember their sincerity and dedication.

12. I hope you are like the wind and rain, which does not have to last forever, but only wants to enjoy you in an instant.

13. People who like you want your present.

14. Then let me accompany you to see all the smiling stars.

15. It’s not that happiness is too short-lived, it’s that we are too sensitive to pain.

16. I miss you, but I can’t disturb you. All I can do is miss you quietly!

17. Those words hurt my heart/those words The prosperity stung my eyes.

18. To love someone, you don’t have to get it. Sometimes, giving is also a kind of happiness.

19. Those who make irresponsible remarks to you behind your back have three reasons: they have not reached your level; they do not have what you have; and they have failed to imitate your lifestyle.

20. My heart hurts so much that I can’t breathe. My former love, the one who once told me that I couldn’t live without me, finally left.

21. Don’t pay attention to those who say it’s impossible. That’s just their choice, not your reality.

22. Everyone is selfish, don’t expect others to be nice to you for no reason.

23. When the weather gets cold, it is even more important to make money, because winter clothes are more expensive than summer clothes.

24. I have always felt that such a person is a winner in life: no gray hair on the head, few wrinkles on the face, and no scars in the heart.

25. Some people can’t say what’s good about him, but they can’t be replaced by anyone.

26. It’s been a day or two since I fell in love with you. Today I can no longer suppress my feelings for you. I finally made up my mind to take you home and put you on the bed directly. Then I will hold you and have a beautiful sleep: Hug the Bear!

27. The wind is bluer and lonelier than the coastline, and the rain is wetter and lonelier than the clouds. You are more distant and deserted than I imagined, and I think of you more often than I imagined.

28. I have always been too sensible, allowing you to make mistakes freely, so wrong that I can no longer let you stay in my world.

29. Sometimes, you are not confused, you are just indecisive.