Comprehensive explanation of friendship, love and family ties

Friendship originally means sincere friendship. Nowadays, it mostly refers to the feelings that exist between people and their close friends. It means that people are willing to give some or all of their thoughts to their friends. Friendship is usually greater than human affection and family affection. Friendship means that no matter how long the time is, no matter how long the place is, the hearts are always together and never change in a lifetime. Basic concepts

Chinese happiness science believes that human nature is dissatisfaction, and dissatisfaction means that people want me or our things to be better.

Friendship and affection are people’s willingness to give some or all of their thoughts to our people or things for free.

Fenqing is a smaller emotion in relationships, and it is the idea that people are willing to give some help to "us" who are slightly far away for free. For example, our neighbors, our classmates, our partners, our colleagues, comrades-in-arms, etc.

Usually, human affection is less than family affection, because blood is thicker than water. For relatives, people are willing to give more of everything they have for free, even our lives.

Feelings between friends

Friendship, synonymous with friendship. It is a feeling between friends.

It is a wonderful thing that can make you happy when you are lost, and can help you get out of the sea of ??suffering and welcome a new life. He's like something you can't describe yet feel extremely happy about.

Only those who have true friends can feel its true beauty.

Friendship is something that can only be obtained by paying the same amount.

Like family affection and love, it is an abstract and elusive thing, but it is more worthy of our cherishment than them.

Friendship does not require anything, but it has a kind of warmth that we can all appreciate.

No one can explain clearly what friendship is.

Then what is it? You can only get something if you give love and sincerity.

Want to know what it is? Then you just have to experience it yourself!

Friendship, what exactly is it? He is just a feeling, a gain.

How many laughters are evoked by friendship, and how many tears are wiped away by friendship. The harbor of friendship is full of warmth, and the breeze of friendship fills the sails. Friendship is not an emotional investment, it does not require dividends and dividends.

Friendship in a broad sense

Friendship in a broad sense is the bright side of a person's entire resume, but no matter how broad it is, one must be wary of evil, guard against hypocrisy, and oppose betrayal; friendship in a strict sense is The spiritual destination that a person is looking for throughout his life. But when you haven't found true friendship, you can only continue to look for it, but you can't stop there. Therefore, we cannot talk about confidants lightly. Once you get true friendship. We must cherish it even more.

Is it easy to come to this world once?

Have an encounter, is it easy?

Is it easy to call a friend?

We can only learn to cherish! !

Many times we love and care for a person deeply, and we may not even be deeply involved. Seal your friends in your heart and keep a distance. In ordinary times, even if you think about it briefly, you will discover a kind of wealth for yourself, and it will be a deeper remembrance for your friends. This should be a place where you can listen to the latest heartbeat from a distant place in time and space.

You find someone you just met. You don’t know him/her, and he/she doesn’t know you. Treat him/her with sincerity and care.

The definition of friendship

Friendship generally refers to a special friendship established between people in long-term interactions. People who have friendship with each other are called "friends".

Cherish friendship and friendship. When two people are truly together, they can think of each other all the time. They are happy for each other when they are happy and sad for each other when they are in pain. It is when you are sad and helpless that you can give me love. You comfort and care; give you confidence and strength when you are disappointed and hesitant; share your victory and joy when you are successful and happy. On the journey of life, despite the ups and downs, having friends around can encourage you, care for you, and help you get through the most difficult years. The concept of friends is really big. Different people can draw different outlines of friends using different people's thoughts. Friends are mutual. When your friends need help, you have to step forward. "Spending time for your friends" lies in your friends' mutual concern. Give care to your friends, help your friends, keep your friends away from loneliness, let your friends forget their depression, and prevent your friends from being depressed. True friendship

True friendship is always pure and fragile because it does not seek anything or rely on anything. All lonely people in the world have also encountered friendship. Friendships do not know how to identify and maintain them, and they are broken one by one. In order to prevent fragmentation, the predecessors have thought of many ways. A harder way is to tie up friendships, that is, forming a gang. No matter how grand the ceremony is and how strong the power is, in the final analysis, forming a gang is still based on distrust of the stability of friendship, so blood oaths and heavy punishments are required to prevent deviation. Gangs alienate friendship into a kind of organizational violence, which is exactly the opposite of the original meaning of friendship, freedom and independence. I think that friendship begins to deteriorate once it is tied up, because no one in the relationship can tell how much of the partners' loyalty comes from the heart and how much comes from the gang rules. Loyalty that does not come from the heart is certainly not friendship. Even if it comes from the heart, how much personal content is left under the influence of group actions? And if you lose a person, how can you still call it friendship? All combinations that devour individual freedom will inevitably lead to large-scale cannibalism. It is not difficult to understand that most of the gangs in history that held high flags of friendship eventually became a barren land for friendship, and even bloodstained and barren graves. Cong Cong. A softer approach is to downplay the friendship. Also out of distrust in the stability of friendship, we can only use dilution concentration to obtain extension. If it doesn't condense into a solid body, how can it be broken?

The friendship between gentlemen

"The conversation between gentlemen is like water". This wise saying contains a kind of witty helplessness. Unfortunately, it has been ignored by people who have no wit and only helplessness. applied. Afraid that all promises cannot be fulfilled, so no promises are made; afraid that all happy encounters cannot be continued, so no happy encounters are made, and only smiles and nods are maintained between shadows. Some people once borrowed the mysterious Eastern aesthetics to support this attitude: it can only be understood, not expressed; without a word, it can be romantic; the antelope hangs its horns, leaving no trace... In this way, friendship has become a A kind of freehand ink painting, if there is something there, if there is nothing. However, when things have reached this point, what is the difference between friendship and acquaintance? This is not so much maintenance as suffocation, and a dying friendship is worse than no friendship at all. We all know this deeply. On the street, an acquaintance politely held the corners of his lips and gave us an overly reserved smile. Why is it so annoying to us that we would rather turn our heads and shout good morning to a statue? At a banquet, a guest extends his hand to show friendship but then straightens his fingers to show indifference when shaking hands. Why is it so disgusting to us that we want to wash our hands by the sink? Another more vulgar way is to paste friendship. They neither form cliques nor pretend to be elegant, but significantly lower the standards of friends and expand the scope of friendship. They need friendship very much, but they don’t trust it very much. They try to resist desolation with the accumulation of quantity. This is a very tiring job. You have to accept every invitation, respond to every greeting, and don't dare to offend any brother. As a result, no friend regards him as a confidant. With such a large contact network, various troubles inevitably arise. He doesn't know how to express his position, and he has no ability to coordinate, so his eyes often wander, his tone flickers, and he is ambiguous. He has to be doubted and looked down upon by everyone.

Even if there is no third party, the relationship between lovers may become weak due to less time spent together and more separation. Different living environments may also increase differences and conflicts in getting along, leading to breakup or divorce. Love number homophone

1314520 I love you all my life

I love you:

I——independence;

L——love;

O——observe;

V——veracity (honesty);

E——everlasting ( Eternal);

Y——yearn (missing);

O——oath (oath);

U——understand (understand).

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8-L 0-O 2-V 3-E 8023-LOVE (If you don’t understand, you can make a gesture)

Love is the strong attachment, closeness, and yearning between people , and the emotion of being selfless, dedicated and dedicated to everything. In Chinese culture, love means capturing the other person's heart, with the attributes of intimacy, lust and commitment, and having confidence in the longevity of the relationship and being able to share private life with the other person. Love is an integral part of human nature. In a narrow sense, it refers to the love between lovers. In a broad sense, it also includes the love between friends and the love between relatives. Based on the emotion of love, love also develops different characteristics in different cultures. "Love": The Chinese explanation is: the combination of "love" and "affection"; love is liking, love is giving and dedication; affection is the mutual attraction and admiration between two people. The "love" between lovers is pure, pure, and perfect. It is reflected in the most sincere admiration for each other formed in their hearts by both parties, and they have a strong desire for the other person to become their lifelong partner. The "love" between husband and wife is more specifically expressed as: affection, harmony and beauty, mutual loyalty, mutual trust, emotional single-mindedness, mutual dedication, being of one heart and one mind, sharing the same boat, helping each other in times of adversity and hardship, We support each other and grow old together. Love does not distinguish between class, gender and race. It is a kind of attachment and concern from the heart, that is love; love has different definitions in different times. The modern definition is that two people form the most sincere admiration for each other in their hearts based on certain material conditions and the same life ideals, and desire the other person to become their lifelong partner. emotion. Love often brings about the feeling of wanting to stay together forever. When the love is strong, there is even a feeling that one cannot live without him (her), and that one would want to die if he (she) dies. But in ancient matriarchal societies and ancient patriarchal societies, love had another experience, and it was not simply monogamy. Love is the desire of life, love is the imagination of youth. The meaning of love is: let wisdom and hard work brew the fragrance of life, perform the movement of life with expectation and persistence, and compose the faith of life with sincerity, understanding, tolerance and trust. . Love means doing everything possible to be together when you like each other. The essence of love is a chemical reaction. The special smell emitted by hormones is recognized by the brain and knows what it likes, resulting in a feeling. Some feelings are innate, such as the feelings between parents and children, and the feelings between people of the same sex. Some feelings develop acquiredly, such as comradeship, brotherhood, love, patriotism, etc.

Love is a kind of mutual dependence, a giving rather than a one-way request.

Love (narrow sense): The feeling of mutual love between people is the highest, pure and beautiful aesthetic and emotional experience.

Love (in a broad sense): the feeling of love between people, including more sincere and pure Platonic feelings, which transcends gender, region, time and space. All emotions related to love are called love. The love between father and son, the love between relatives and friends, the love between teachers and students, the love between same-sex, etc.

Love (definition of good and bad): Good love is the freedom and ease of both parties who regard freedom as the highest gift, and the cherishment of never abusing this freedom.

Love: (Principal) The mutual attraction between the values ??and outlook on life of both parties and the primitive instinct.

Therefore, love is mostly directed between men and women. Mutual attraction lies in values. The recognition of the outlook on life produces psychological pleasure and a sense of dependence. Classification of love

1. Romantic and passionate love:

Romantic and affectionate love is largely based on physical attraction, with love at first sight as the typical example;

2. Good friend type:

Like a close friend relationship, there is no sense of mystery and lack of impulse. It is mostly developed from friends of the opposite sex.

3. Game style:

Think of love as a game, not very specific, just hoping to win the "love game".

4. Possessive:

A strong, exclusive, and dependent love that is prone to jealousy and places great emphasis on the commitment and loyalty between both parties.

5. Realistic style:

This kind of love is very rational and looks at love very realistically and pragmatically. It only considers whether it comes from a similar family background, whether it is beneficial to career development, and whether it is beneficial to career development. Whether you can be a good parent and so on.

6. Altruistic style:

Selfless, altruistic love, tenderness, care, loyalty and giving unconditionally, without asking for anything in return.

7. Integrated:

Both parties work and live diligently under the same goal, just like Zhou Enlai and Deng Yingchao, Sun Yat-sen and Song Qingling.

8. Platonic love

Platonic love is a kind of spiritual love between opposite sex named after the Western philosopher Plato. It pursues spiritual communication and rejects physical desire. It was first proposed by Marsilio Ficino in the 15th century as a synonym for Socratic love to refer to the loving relationship between Socrates and his students.

Plato wrote in "Symposium" and "Phedoras" that when the mind abandons the body and yearns for the truth, the thinking at this time is the best. And when the soul is infected by the sins of the body, people's desire to pursue truth will not be satisfied. When human beings do not have a strong need for carnality, their mood is peaceful. Carnality is a manifestation of the bestiality in human nature and the nature of every living organism. The reason why humans are so-called higher animals is because in human nature, human nature is stronger than Animal nature, spiritual communication is beautiful and moral.

Platonic love has the following meanings:

··Ideal view of love (a metaphor for an extremely romantic or simply unattainable view of love)

· ·Purely spiritual rather than physical love

··The concept of equal love between men and women

··There is only one person in this world. To you, she (he) ) is perfect, and perfect only for you.

In other words, every person has his perfect partner, and there is only one.

··The first meaning is most commonly used, but it is actually a misunderstanding. But since everyone uses it this way, it counts as another one

·The above forms of love are not mutually exclusive, and any kind of love will have a certain degree of possession.

··Love can make a person want to die, make life worse than death, and can make you taste all the sweetness and pain in the world. There are 5 differences between love and like

① Love has There are more fantasies; liking is not aroused by fantasies about others, but by realistic evaluations of others; liking is not as fanatical, intense, and urgent as love, but is always relatively stable, quiet, and objective.

②Love is related to many conflicting emotions; liking is a pure emotional experience.

③Love is often related to sexual desire; liking does not involve this need.

④Love is exclusive and exclusive, but liking is not.

⑤Love is actually very ordinary, it is great. Ordinary love is when you know that he is not the person you admire, and you understand that he (she) has various shortcomings, but you still choose him. Do not abandon all of him or her or deny all of him or her because of his or her shortcomings.

Some social psychologists have designed love scales and liking scales to measure the degree of love and liking between individuals.

Some items of the love scale are

①If I can’t be with him (her) forever, I will feel distressed;

②For anything I will forgive him (her);

③I feel that I will trust him (her) for anything.

Part of the items in the liking scale are

①I think he (she) is very easy to get along with;

②Most people think of him (her) after getting acquainted with him (her) The response is good;

③He (she) is the kind of person I want to be.

Using these two types of scales can not only generally reflect whether the attraction between individuals is love or liking, but also reflect the degree of love and liking.

Love is actually very ordinary, it is great. Ordinary love is when you know that he is not the person you admire, and you understand that he (she) has various shortcomings, but you still choose him and choose him. Do not abandon everything about him (her) or deny everything about him (her) because of his (her) shortcomings.

But like, it can sometimes be purely possessive - because this person is relatively perfect, because he likes it, so he wants it. But some people call this emotion love...

The specific difference between love and like

There is one emotion in the world called "like" and another called "love" .

Love means that when he is around, he is the only one in the eyes; when he is away, everything has his shadow.

I like it when I suddenly think of him while reading a book late at night, imagine what he is doing now, and feel a light warmth in my heart, but I never take the initiative to call him. A few minutes later, my attention was attracted by the plot of the book again!

Love is in the lonely night, longing comes like a tide, I hold the book in my hand but I can’t read it, and I am thinking about it in my heart. Think about whether he is still working overtime at this time, whether he has eaten dinner, whether he is thinking about himself as much as he is thinking about him.

Like can easily turn into love, but after loving, it is difficult to say that you like again, because like is tolerant, while love is selfish.

Like is a relaxed and indifferent state of mind. But love is too heavy.

Once love is spoken, it becomes a vow and a commitment. "Hold your hand and grow old together", just eight words contain so much ups and downs!

The mountains have no mausoleums, the heaven and the earth are united, the winter thunder shakes, the summer rains and snows, the heaven and the earth unite, I dare to be with you! This is love.

Love is a double-edged sword. If you pull it out accidentally, you will hurt others as well as yourself.

"It used to be difficult to make water, except for Wushan, it is not cloud." People who are hurt by love will always have a wound in their hearts that will not heal.

On a night with bright moonlight and sparse stars, you miss him/her in the distance. If there is just a touch of joy and warmth in your heart, that is love.

If there is still a faint pain in it, it is love. Let’s talk about the four stages of love:

The first stage: the first love of love. This stage is about love for your partner. Choice. This is an animal instinct. After the concept of mate selection arises, people begin to find a mate to reproduce offspring or to stay together forever. The partners they choose include friends, colleagues or strangers. In fact, the choice at this time is a subconscious mind. , you will compare the partner you choose with the spouse you imagined, and choose more based on appearance and temperament. If which one meets or is close to your standards, you will pay attention to him. This is love. First love.

The second stage: love obsession. After you choose some partners in terms of temperament and appearance, you will start to pay attention to them, hoping to get the other person's favor, and at the same time test whether the other person also has the same interest in you. Good impression is a primitive impulse. If the other person does not pay attention to you, you will try to show yourself and let the other person discover you. If the other person pays the same attention to you, then love obsession will appear. At this stage, there is a A primitive motivation to show each other. When both parties have a good impression, they will enter the third stage.

The third stage: love. In the stage of passionate love, both parties see the advantages of each other and are interested in each other. All things related to love have a kind of beautiful yearning. At this stage, the chemical reaction of love reaches a fever pitch, and both parties express their love more through body language, such as hugging, holding hands, kissing, etc. At this stage, two people I hope to be together all the time.

The fourth stage: love attachment. Both parties are used to each other’s companionship and presence in their daily lives. If they are away for a while, they will feel unhappy or have a feeling of uneasiness. .Compared with passionate love at this stage, there is less fanaticism and more spiritual dependence. The true meaning of love is:

The true meaning of love - love is long-term patience and kindness; love It is not jealous, love does not boast, is not arrogant, does not do rude things, does not seek its own, is not easily angered, does not take into account the wrongdoing of others, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth, bears all things, believes all things, Hope and endure all things. Love never ends. Excerpted from lt;lt;1 Corinthiansgt;gt;Chapter 13:4-8.

So it has the general nature of beauty:

1. Attributes: tempting and attractive to people

2. Derived behaviors: giving, appreciating, cherishing , move, understand, protect, possess, and make it exist better

3. By-products: the joy when you get it, the usual worries, the pain after losing it, and the helplessness of not being able to have it

Special points:

1. Since the object of this kind of beauty is more often than not human beings, it will also produce suspicion of psychological differences, jealousy of incompetence and hatred of being deceived.

2. The physiological basis of this kind of beauty is more often gender differences and the instinct to reproduce. Meaning

. This misunderstanding comes from Plato's famous work "The Republic". The book explores how to construct an ideal country. Because it may be too ideal to be realized, some people use it to explain what Platonic love is.

The second meaning is also often used, but it is also basically a misunderstanding. This misunderstanding comes from Plato's metaphysics. He believed that the things in thought are real and the so-called "real world" we see is not real.

The third and fourth meanings are really Plato’s view of love or gender.

Plato believed that people are in the most real conceptual world before and after death, where, Everyone is a complete human being who is a combination of male and female. In this world, we are all split into two. Therefore, people always feel that they have lost something and try to find their "other half" (this word also comes from Plato's theory). Plato also used this to explain why people have "love".

In his theory, no half is more important, so men and women are equal. Moreover, your original partner in the conceptual world is your most perfect partner. He (she) is somewhere in the world and looking for you.

Gothic Love

The typical characteristic of Gothic novels is that the stories often take place in distant times and remote places, with characters imprisoned in narrow spaces and haunted by ghosts. Inside the building, suspense and love are intertwined. The usual suspense techniques include mysterious inheritance, secret life experience, lost will, family secrets, ancestral curses, etc. In the end, the suspense is solved, the gangster is exposed, and the love obstacles between the hero and heroine are removed. However, this kind of love is different from the love in romance novels. The difference between the two is: Gothic novels usually describe mysterious adventure stories, and the love obstacles often come from gangsters; romance novels describe ordinary family affairs, and the love obstacles often come from the heroes and heroines themselves.

Love Quotient

Intellectual Quotient IQ, Emotional Quotient EQ, Financial Quotient FQ, Adversity Quotient AQ can be improved through guidance, and so can love quotient.

In the past ten years, some people have begun to write books to provide guidance on improving love quotient. For example, it is necessary to find out the degree of compatibility and various potential problems when dating; the correct progress, correct attitude, strategies, etc. There are also half-educational and half-entertaining pursuits of gaming love in the form of computer games. Some people with low love IQ seek death or harm others as soon as they lose love (lovelorn). If you can allocate time and energy to various things, you can reduce the occurrence of tragedies and help love, such as: personal appearance, health knowledge, wisdom, career, entertainment, hobbies, love, partners, relatives, meditation, reflection, contribution to society, beliefs, religion.

Family affection refers specifically to the special feeling between relatives. No matter how the other person is, we should love each other, whether poor or rich, regardless of health or disease, or even whether good or evil. It has two characteristics: first, it is mutual, not one-sided, maternal love is family affection, and loving mother is also family affection; second, it is three-dimensional, not specifically referring to mother-daughter love, nor father-son love, such as father-son (father-daughter). Love, mother-son (mother and daughter) love, brotherly love (brothers and sisters), grandparent-grandchild love (grandparents and grandchildren), and even friendship can all be family love. "Family" focuses on the word "love". There can be family affection even if someone is not a relative; there may not be family affection even if there is a blood relationship. The definition of family affection in Chinese happiness science

Family affection is the kind of feeling that exists between people who are related by blood. The definition of family affection is people's desire to give some or all of their all to their loved ones.

Family love is the relationship between relatives, the relationship between parents and children, and the relationship between brothers and sisters. These are all family relationships.

Parents love their children more than they love their weak ones. Parents will love a child who has a broken leg, is blind and deaf even more, but love is not the same. Love is love. He who is strong does not love his weakness. Parents love and care for their children for too long, too long. From the time a child is born, to growing up, and extending to the next generation, and the next generation after that, they are all connected with each other. Therefore, the definition of family affection should be the longest, largest, and most sincere affection that parents have for their children and their descendants. All love will become family love after being sublimated. Family love and your relationship

Family love has a very close relationship with you, and it will not change no matter what happens.

Family love requires careful care of each other, knowing how to tolerate and understand each other; as close relatives, if one party is in trouble, all parties will support it... These can cherish and maintain family love!

Perhaps there are Sometimes the family will quarrel, but it doesn't matter, because the family relationship exists, and the little disturbance will not damage the family relationship.

Family love is sometimes very helpless. You can't choose your father or your mother, but parents always love their children the most. Family affection and love

Family affection is a subtle feeling, a trace of inadvertent concern and longing, an instinctive reaction and primitive ability that all living animals have.

Family affection on the right hand, love on the left hand, showing the importance of family affection!

Both family affection and love belong to a kind of "love that cannot be given up."