When I meet my parents for the first time during the Spring Festival, what can I say to make them feel that they are not bad?

It's Spring Festival again in a blink of an eye. You in love are going to meet each other's parents at this time. When it comes to meeting parents, many girls are nervous. How can I get high marks when I meet my future parents-in-law?

1, gift selection

When you meet your parents for the first time, you must carefully choose gifts, but many girls don't know how to choose gifts. Here, Mr Yan Fang gives you a simple way to choose a gift.

1) Professional category

If the parents' hometown is not together, you can bring some special products from the woman's family to the man's parents. Relatively speaking, the specialty is cost-effective and sincere.

2) Health products

If the other parents are old, you can buy some health care products to supplement calcium, blood and bones. More expensive gifts, buy some bird's nest, cordyceps sinensis and so on. But before buying this, you should know the physical condition of the other parents.

Of course, it depends on each other's family environment. It's a bit bad to surpass each other's family environment.

3) Tobacco, wine and tea

This is the most common way to give gifts in China. First of all, we must understand the preferences of the other parents. My father smokes and doesn't smoke, and my mother makes my father smoke. Whether parents like tea or not should be discussed by two people in advance.

Generally speaking, tea and red wine are better choices. Of course, the two sides must negotiate here.

4) hobbies

If the other person's parents have retired, maybe his father likes leisure fishing and can give him a set of fishing gear, and his mother likes square dancing and can give him dancing shoes.

Be sure to discuss these gifts with your partner in advance. After all, he knows his parents' preferences better than you do.

2. Preliminary preparation

In the eyes of most couples, once they meet their parents, it means that the relationship is basically settled. The two of them went for the purpose of getting married, so everyone attached great importance to the parent-teacher conference.

Let's take girls who meet their parents for the first time as an example. As the first step, we must actively learn about family information and local customs from our partners. Different regions in China have different customs.

For example, some places should hold meetings before New Year's Eve, and some places should hold meetings after New Year's Eve.

The second step is to understand the family relationship and the people you may meet. At the same time, make sure your personal settings and tell your partner in advance so that he can have a simple talk with his parents.

For example, a girl is a beautiful girl, introverted and careful; Or girls are more cheerful girls, very caring and so on. Simply say one or two key words to give parents a preliminary impression, then parents will have more expectations and preparations for the upcoming meeting, and also do some basic points for their first "interview."

3. Preparations for the meeting process

The gifts are ready, and the next step is to meet. At this time, you should think back to the person you set up in front of the other parents. If not, you'd better be yourself.

The first step is our clothes.

Under the premise that the dress conforms to people's design, it is most important to be solemn and decent and conform to one's own design. If you usually dress in a personalized way, then I suggest you try to restrain yourself at this time. Try not to wear some strange headdresses or ornaments.

For example, I have a visitor who wore a Chinese costume when he first met his parents. And it took a long time to get a retro hairstyle.

I am very attentive, and the boys think it is good. However, parents were very surprised when they saw it. Later, the boys reported that parents could understand, but they still felt a little unacceptable.

So what kind of clothes will get extra points?

First of all, solemnity matches your age.

Secondly, the color of clothes should not be too bright, and it is a better choice to be relatively versatile and steady.

Third, headdress and jewelry should not be too grandiose. It is better to suit your skin color and figure.

The second step is the etiquette of our meeting and the details of getting along. I believe that every girl can do good manners. Don't worry about this, the key is the details of getting along.

1) Don't be a coquette.

Don't coquetry in front of the other parents when you meet for the first time, and don't show your femininity. Of course, we should learn to be coquettish when we get along in the future. In the following article, I will talk about how to transition.

2) compliment your partner

Chatting with your parents will definitely ask you a lot of personal news. Don't bother, answer realistically. At the same time, praise your partner from time to time, don't say anything about your quarrel.

Of course, this kind of praise must not be excessive, but it is counterproductive.

For example, a boy is lazy and doesn't do much housework. Don't say that he is diligent at home and does everything. After all, they know boys better than you do. What you want to say is "he is very tired at work, so I can understand that he is lazy at home. He sometimes helps me with housework."

If your parents tell you a lot of his shortcomings, and these shortcomings exist objectively, don't refute them. For parents, it is simply catering to "haha, it seems true, but aunt doesn't have to worry, he is much better now, and I believe he will get better and better."

This kind of chat will make parents feel more at ease about your relationship.

3) Have a vision

When you see your parents packing at home, you should take the initiative to ask your uncle and aunt if they want help.

Of course, you usually say no. At this time, you should do something within your power to make others think that you are a very sensible child.

4) Understand the rules

In many places, there will be family dinners during the Spring Festival. Then as a girlfriend, it is inevitable to attend such an occasion. This is the best time to reflect the characteristics of your wife and mother. Make yourself at home and sit there quietly without talking.

Of course, don't make a madman your home. Remember two things at this time: 1, and discuss everything with boys; 2. Don't give a clear answer.

For example, some relatives will ask, "When are you going to get married?"

You replied, "That depends on whether your uncle and aunt are satisfied."

The other party said, "We are all satisfied."

You replied: "Xiao Ming, you heard, you want to propose."

4. Post-meeting arrangements

After this meeting, you will basically add the WeChat and contact information of the boys' parents, so you must remember to report peace on the first day after going home for the New Year. After that, you should keep in touch with your uncles and aunts from time to time.

This kind of follow-up contact is actually more important, so don't be embarrassed. Many girls say they don't know what to say, so they are embarrassed to tell their uncles and aunts directly.

Don't panic. In terms of content, it is a good topic to share the bits and pieces of you two together.

For example, the selfie of you shopping together, the selfie of eating together, the selfie of cooking for boys for the first time, the selfie of working overtime for boys and so on.

The central idea is to convey to them that your life is rich and sweet. Their son is taken good care of and loves you very much.

These follow-up work will be a plus item for you to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the future.