Me and my female netizens

? Internet turns acquaintances into strangers, and strangers into acquaintances. Because of the network, people who are close to each other always convey each other's feelings through words, and they will not tell their relatives and friends for the first time if they have any worries, but express their feelings through their circle of friends for the first time. There seems to be less greetings between people and more indifference. Open the friends list and find that there are not many people who can chat. Instead, I fell in love with talking with some strangers.

? Doing repetitive work every day, I am already familiar with the work at hand. One day I was idle and bored, joined a group, and met a netizen named Xiaoyu in the group. We haven't traveled far, and we are familiar with these places nearby. We always talk about all topics. In this way, we chatted in QQ for more than a year. We told each other what happened around us and discussed what to eat and wear.

? Xiaoyu is two years older than me, but I never call her sister because I don't think she is older than me. I affectionately call her Xiaoyu. She has been looking for a job since the day I met her. The main tone of her life for more than a year is "blind date" and "looking for a job". In the end, I didn't meet the right person or the right job.

? Both she and I think there are too many beautiful things in her life.

Top 1。 Working article

? She said that she had an interview in a paint company a few years ago, and the old man who interviewed her asked her, are you married? Where is home? Then, she said that she might be rejected by the company because she was dissatisfied with getting married and having children. This is the case here. As a woman looking for a clerical job, the interviewer will always ask if you are married, have children, whether your home is nearby, and so on. Maybe in some people's eyes, these are all privacy. But on our side, these conditions are one of the conditions to assess whether you are qualified for this job. Now these companies are all like this, and all small job advertisements should be followed by a sentence "Married and pregnant is preferred". She often tells me how we unmarried and childless people find jobs. On our side, most companies want a stable employee first, and this stable standard is to be married and have children. I always feel that married women of childbearing age will not give up a job easily because they have families and children.

I didn't expect that in a few years, I would go to the same company for an interview like her. It was the old man from other places who interviewed. He asked me if I had my diploma. Show him. I handed it to him, and he examined it carefully with reading glasses. At that time, my inner monologue was that a diploma had few words and I had been studying for so long. Then he asked me to study advanced mathematics of enterprise management. I said I had studied, but they were all very simple schools and I didn't pay attention to them. He said that advanced mathematics is not a very important subject, so you ignored it. (Inner monologue: I don't know, you have to ask my teacher. Then he asked me if I had studied chemistry. I said I studied chemistry in high school, and I forgot. He smiled. Maybe he was thinking about what the girl was reading. Then he asked me if I was married, and I saidno. Did he say he was seeing someone? I said yes. Then he asked, where is your company now, who is the boss, and talked for a long time ... Finally, he said, after all, marriage is a big deal. If you want to ask for leave immediately or resign and go home to get married, the company can't say anything. I heard his implication: you are unmarried, childless, unstable, and you will get married in ten and a half days, which will delay the company.

? I told Xiaoyu about it. She said it was normal. Now the company is like this. I'm afraid you'll take marriage leave, marriage leave and maternity leave. Play maternity leave, someone will take your place, and you have to get paid. Why do you think our situation is unstable? We have no income and no one to pay. We can't live without work. We also need stability. But nothing is two-sided. No one can guarantee who can work in a company for how long. No matter how good the company is or how excellent they are, both sides have the right and opportunity to choose the other. For us, this may be an unfair phenomenon, but it is the normal state of society.

Top2。 Emotional articles

? Building a deep friendship with Xiaoyu is because of a love rat. She met a love rat, and that love rat's home is on the path where I go home every day. When she was with him, she didn't know that love rat had a girlfriend. I am a mistress, but I am kept in the dark. She also called love rat once, and she didn't know she was cheated until she heard a woman's voice on the other end of the phone. After that, love rat didn't answer her phone, and she couldn't find love rat. Then she asked me if you could see love rat's car when you got home from work, and then she told me the license plate number. I told her jokingly, do you want me to help you see if his car is there, and then put a small advertisement on his car.

Xiao Yu is a little unwilling and often talks about love rat's evil deeds. Xiaoyu and I are studying how to get back at love rat, but we are just chatting. In fact, we are all kind in our bones. We love to fantasize and deceive people who have no good end. ? Xiaoyu was depressed for a while, because when she gave her heart, she didn't get the same response. She likes him, but he cheated her. Xiaoyu didn't know whether she was one of the many objects he cheated, and she didn't have the ability to expose love rat's ugly face. At that time, the central idea of our topic was "Revenge on love rat". But it didn't last long, because someone new came into her life. Maybe love rat still has a shadow in her mind, but it's not worth mentioning. She has started a new life. This is the emotional world. No one can live without him. Waiting in place will only make people feel stupid.

? "I saw photos of my ex-boyfriend L and his wife and children!" I told Xiaoyu. Xiao Yu said, it's not that you don't contact, how can you have their photos? It's a long story After breaking up with L, he didn't take me back to my hometown during the Spring Festival, and then his family asked him, why didn't I come with him? He cried. This is what his aunt called me to say. At the beginning, I insisted on breaking up with him, because we took the same road and had different life trajectories. He graduated from high school without studying, and I have to go to college. His life circle is their colleagues, and mine is classmates. Then our topic changed, our thoughts changed and everything changed. It is not so much that other things are changing as that a person's mentality has changed. One person goes straight ahead, and the other person can't catch up, so the distance between the two people is getting farther and farther. After breaking up, I deleted all his contact information. I thought, from now on, we don't involve each other and live in peace.

? I don't bother others, but I can't guarantee that others won't bother me. A person who claimed to be cousin L added me QQ, and then chatted with me about L, saying that my sister-in-law is not good now, and his aunt is not good either (L lost his father when he was a child, his mother remarried, and her aunt is equivalent to his half mother). I'll listen, too. Just deal with it. I simply thought it was just a child who didn't understand. A few days later, a phone call suddenly came. There was a familiar voice on the phone. It's L. He asked me what I said to his wife and why she was so angry. I was cheated at that time (his daughter-in-law, who is his daughter-in-law, I will tell who). At that time, I was very angry. Who is your daughter-in-law? Who is your daughter-in-law? I don't know. What did I say to me? He said it was XXX who was chatting with me. Ten thousand grass mud horses gallop in my heart. Who knew it was your wife? what did i say? The scheming bitch is the only one. I yelled at him, figured out the situation myself and confronted him face to face. He didn't say anything, and then said, I heard what my wife said. If you want to hear it, then listen. Do not judge me. "Kuang ..." I hung up the phone directly. Afterwards, I felt really wronged. Offended some great gods and was scolded for no reason. Some people have no sense of security, so they ignore their husbands and come to trouble me. Such a woman is naive, really naive. ?

? After a long time, suddenly one day I got a call from L. He apologized to me and said that his wife was not sensible. This is the rhythm of slapping me in the face when you are in a bad mood and saying sorry when you are in a good mood. I was very calm at that time, so I said, I'm doing fine, and I wish you happiness. I haven't been in touch since. Until one day a few years later, I turned to the previous browsing records, accidentally clicked into that person's space and saw a photo of L with his wife and children. I feel that time flies and my children are in kindergarten. Seeing her space, I am full of complaints. I sometimes wonder what would happen to me if the person in that family was myself. Every day, I send my children to school, make a fire and cook, and I have to fight with my family when I get home.

? Xiaoyu said that this may be the distance between you and him. There are too many different things between you, and it is only a matter of time before you part. You can't be willing to live that life. Looking at the photos of his family of three and their living environment, I thought of myself. My parents insisted that I read more books and then have my own goals in life. Instead of living in a two-story building in the countryside like Mrs. L, I just watch my children cook every day and feel physically and mentally exhausted in the complicated family relationship filled with smoke.

Top3。 We will meet again.

"You accompany me to meet someone." Xiaoyu asked me to accompany her to meet a net friend, and suddenly I felt so nervous. Xiaoyu asked me if I saw it, not you. We haven't met. I'm nervous. We haven't met. Ladies, what are you nervous about? I think I am very interesting. Xiaoyu said that it is normal. Last year, a netizen introduced me to work, and I met her. Let's meet as soon as we meet. Two people who get along so well are afraid of embarrassment, so I asked her to call me when she decided to leave. Then she asked me what I wanted to eat, and I said, let's eat western food. She said that the other person is a little old and may not like western food. I said, well, it's up to you. Anyway, I am a green leaf, just to set off your flowers. However, just when she made a decision, it happened that my cousin and I had an appointment to have dinner together, and we didn't meet that day. She doesn't trust to meet alone, so do I. I asked her to keep in touch with me at any time She keeps sending me WeChat, worrying that the other person is ugly and short. This is a common problem for girls, but I dare not look at it and feel that one more person is more practical.

The other party is a rich uncle. According to Xiaoyu, the uncle was not ugly and tall, and her hanging heart suddenly fell to the ground. However, uncle invited her to eat western food. Tell me, I told you to eat western food, but you still don't believe me. There is absolutely no need to worry about Xiaoyu. At 90 o'clock in the evening, Xiaoyu said that she had arrived home. I asked her how she felt, and she said she was fine. That night, Uncle confessed to her on WeChat. Xiaoyu said that she refused. I asked her why she refused. She said that although the other party has good conditions, it is not her type.

? I often think that some people are separated because they are too familiar, and some people are separated because they don't understand; Some are together on impulse, and some are together for a long time. Too many reasons for being together and breaking up are different. In fact, all the reasons are excuses. We are all constantly missing and being missed. ......

? postscript

"People with similar personalities are suitable to be friends." I believe this sentence.

Because I am the same person as Xiaoyu. In our own life track, whether it is feelings or work, we stumble all the way to find what we want, not because we are too picky, but because we want to find the one that suits us best. Some people are lucky enough to find what they want easily and live the life they want; Some people are not lucky enough to fall down again and again on the way to find them. Some people may feel that it is unnecessary to go to so much trouble, but we just don't want to make do. To live too much is to wronged yourself. We don't want to be unique or different. We just want to do what we like, take the road we want to go, see the scenery we want to see and love the people we want to love.