For women: If one day, you lose the use value, you will find that you have no friends at all.

Why do some women have so many followers around them? Why do some women always have a group of good friends who talk about everything?

First of all, we must make clear the premise of establishing relationships between people: "It must be value."

Goethe wrote in his poem: "If you love your own value, you have to create value for the world."

I often remind some women not to be overly pessimistic and optimistic, not to indulge in warmth for a long time, forgetting that the world is cold.

The reason why I say this is actually to let more female friends understand that don't forget your efforts because of temporary happiness, it will only be the beginning of your own tragedy.

Lily, who has been spoiled since childhood, is a princess disease. Since childhood, she has a unique sense of superiority. She likes to belittle others and doesn't know how to give.

For the next 25 years, her father arranged a blind date for her. The boy is very energetic and has a good personality, and Lili is very excited to talk with him.

Lily often loses her temper when they are in love. Once she cried because he was ten minutes late, but the boy tolerated her very much.

Later, when they got married, Lili felt very happy, and she was used to being spoiled with him, just like her parents when she was a child.

Even though she is arrogant and doesn't go out to work, he never says anything and goes to work on time every day.

After having children, Lili's temper calmed down a little, but she still threw all the problems at home to him. In her values, she believes that women should be raised by men.

I don't know whether he is too tired or too bored. After five years of marriage, he filed for divorce without any reason or extramarital affairs.

Lili is particularly sad. In the saddest time, she found that she didn't even have a friend.

Whether in sexual relations or social relations, the value of an individual determines her relationship. Lili is completely worthless in a friend's relationship and also lacks value in a marriage relationship.

Although using value to describe a woman sounds a bit stiff and cruel, it is a naked reality.

For women: If one day, you lose the use value, you will find that you have no friends at all.

0 1), why some people can establish a long-term and stable relationship is because both sides have needs and can satisfy each other.

Value refers to the positive significance and usefulness of the object to the subject, so we satisfy others and we pay, which is exactly one aspect of showing self-value.

Marx said: "Social relations are the general name of the mutual relations formed by people using the same language in the process of material and spiritual activities, that is, all relations between people."

02) Personal value is divided into personal value and social personal value. In different relationship systems, while realizing self-worth, they began to exchange different interests.

If you lose your due value in a relationship, you will eventually become the abandoned party in this relationship.

When a friend relationship is maintained at the beginning, it must be paid by both sides. Your value determines your position in this circle.

Why do people think of her first when there are activities, not you? It all depends on your own value.

People rely on material and emotional communication, so do friends. Sometimes it's not that others intentionally lose you, but that you lack the value of reciprocity with them, are forgotten a little, and gradually begin to get out.

0 1), Marx believes that individual value needs to be manifested in social practice, based on individual needs, followed by individual self-development and social contribution to personal development.

The realization of personal value is not just talk. Women should respect themselves, love themselves and be confident, and rely on our actions to improve themselves.

When others need comfort, you should take the initiative to help her out of trouble. When others need help, you should actively lend a helping hand, instead of always hanging high in a "nothing to do with yourself" attitude.

Of course, it is most important to improve one's personality. We should overcome inertia and set long-term goals.

02) After self-improvement, you have a certain ability, so you should share it with others. You should not only become a member of this circle, but also learn to pay for it.

The maintenance and communication between friends must be beneficial. Realistically speaking, the relationship between people is maintained by interests, both tangible and intangible.

A person's best label must be reliability, and those reliable women must be respected and admired, all of which come from her self-worth.

References:

Love psychology, social psychology