There are few things in this world worth risking your life for.

Having been in the Internet circle for a long time, I often hear a lot of myths about hard work. It seems that people around you are telling you that if you don’t risk your life to work hard, you can only survive at the bottom of society.

But is my life really so worthless? Is everything in this world worth risking our lives for?

——Jiang Wanzhou

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When I was in school, there was a classmate who was studying in the same dormitory. Because her family had high expectations for her, she felt stressed. Very big.

Get up later than a chicken and sleep later than a dog. Sometimes, even after the dog has fallen asleep, she still studies all night in the study room and stays up late to do questions.

The night before the college entrance examination, when I came back from self-study, she suddenly hugged me and cried like a madman, saying that she had failed once and she must not let her parents down again this time.

She slept in the bunk next to mine for a whole night, tossing and turning, staying awake all night, and feeling confused. Early the next morning, in order to refresh herself, she drank three cups of coffee in a row.

She drank too much coffee during the day and was very excited. She had insomnia again the next night, so she took several sleeping pills to herself. On the third day, I was in a dazed state again, with coffee and strong tea.

After three days of hard work, my whole body was about to collapse. Not to mention emerging as a dark horse in the exam room, my final exam score was less than half of my usual level.

Later, she went to a junior college in the north. She said, why is this happening? During the exam, I risked my life just to get a good grade, but in the end I was a piece of shit.

During her college years, because of her failure in the college entrance examination, she was unwilling to just huddle up in a junior college and became particularly negative.

When she was about to graduate, she began to work hard to upgrade from a junior college to a bachelor's degree. She said that this time it was really all-or-nothing and she would succeed no matter what. In the end, she failed again because she was too nervous. She also suffered from neurasthenia due to long-term mental stress.

This is one of the thousands of desperate Saburo stories, one that unfortunately fell silently.

We have heard too many myths about success if you want to get something, and you have to be fearless in your efforts.

But few people can face the fact that not everything is worth risking their lives for.

2

In recent years, entrepreneurship has been a trend. The number of entrepreneurs is increasing rapidly. However, the tide surged and the waves washed away the sand, but in the end, only a few people were able to find real gold.

Moreover, everyone’s entrepreneurial environment is different, and the various factors involved are all unfair. Some people lack funds, some lack skills, some lack human resources... It can be said that every family has its own problems.

However, the only thing that is fair to everyone is to work hard and work hard! "My conditions are not as good as yours, but I can work harder than you." This is a common saying in the entrepreneurial circle.

I know a friend, Lao Zhang. In the early days of starting a business, he drank and socialized with customers every day. In those years, he almost never came home before twelve o'clock. Every day he would either work overtime at the company to write plans or go out drinking and entertaining clients. He couldn't drink enough. Every time he drank, he would go to the toilet to vomit after a while. He would drink and vomit, and then come back to drink after vomiting.

This is really making money with your life. Fortunately, his company finally went public, got on the right track, and made a lot of money. However, besides money, God also gave him something extra. At the end of last year, Zhang, who was less than 40 years old, was diagnosed with liver cirrhosis and renal failure.

Lao Zhang was lucky because he succeeded and carved out his own niche, but he also failed because the price he paid for his success was an irreversible price.

As he jokingly said: I worked hard, but I didn’t expect that I would actually fight for my life in the end.

We often see news reports that someone died suddenly at their job because of too much pressure to start a business.

These people, without exception, risk their lives. Some people work overtime until 11 o'clock every day, some often stay up all night, and some don't even go home for months.

Is it because they like to work overtime and stay up late that they spend their lives working like this? Of course not, they are gambling on a result with this desperate effort.

"Maybe you can get investment if you fight hard"

"Maybe you can get into the next round if you fight hard"

"You can get revenue if you fight hard "Can exceed 100 million"

......

Behind all the desperate efforts are these tempting goals, and behind all the desperate efforts are the impulses of desire.

For example, in the entrepreneurial circle, there is a very exciting word called "bet". This is a "bet" between entrepreneurs and investors. It means that entrepreneurs and investors reach an agreement. If I achieve a certain goal, you will give me how much money to invest. If I fail to achieve it, I will I will give you my equity and I will leave the house.

Since it is gambling, it is bound to be red-eyed. Many entrepreneurs put all their money in and fight against the odds. If they win, they will be fine, but if they lose, they will go bankrupt and have nothing.

This is exactly the same as the desperate situation of many people. Behind the scenes, it is an unfair gamble.

Working hard sometimes puts the cart before the horse. The price paid is high but the harvest is very little.

When I was in college, there was a girl in the next door dormitory who liked a boy from the school art troupe. The two of them got along very well at first, but later the boy got a girlfriend from the choir and he proposed to break up with this girl. When the girl refused, she threatened to commit suicide by slitting her wrists, causing rumors throughout the school.

Later, the girl couldn't bear it anymore and asked the school to drop out. Not only did he sacrifice his feelings, but he also compromised his future, which was not worth the loss.

Many people think that dying for love and marriage is great. However, this kind of "great sacrifice" of risking one's life for one person cannot move the other person, nor can it move the people who eat melons. It can only Move yourself.

Some of us often talk about risking our lives, as if life is particularly worthless and can be given away casually. However, in this world, what else is more valuable than life?

Everyone thinks that he can be a desperate man, and can fight for love and money. However, have you ever thought that if the relationship is gone, you will meet someone better, and if the money is gone, you can make money again? , but if your life is lost, it will really be gone.

Not everyone can have such strong resilience and be able to make a comeback. Many people risk everything this time and have nothing the next time.

There used to be a senior in the company who was considered by everyone to be a typical strong woman and workaholic. She was resolute and resolute. She always worked overtime until late at night every day. Sometimes she even stayed up all night writing plans and reports for projects. She also ate at will every day. Just make do with whatever you can, and eat two meals together when you're busy.

It wasn’t until last year when I was suddenly diagnosed with gastric cancer that I began to realize, was this role of a strong woman really what I wanted?

She said that she used to work too hard and wanted to appear more successful, but now she realizes that good health is the most important thing.

Later, she resigned, saying she wanted to spend as much time as possible with her children and family, but everything seemed too late.

This reminds me of what Sara Pachanan wrote in "Another Me in the World": I struggled desperately in the role set by others, thinking that was the life I wanted.

I think, I think, but many people still don’t know that the footnote of regret is “I thought”.

In life, we are not always a warrior, we have to fight for everything. Looking back, the results are often frustrating, because those things you ignore in order to fight for your life are the Your most precious possession.

I heard this story:

Before the age of 52, Kai-Fu Lee always had a goal - "to become a very influential person."

For this reason, he takes "desperate" as his label, hoping that every unit of time can produce maximum value. He works hard and maintains this fighting attitude at all times:

When he receives an email, he will reply within ten minutes, even late at night.

Post 10 Weibo posts every day to maintain public attention.

If his time is not planned for a minute, he will become restless.

He told himself, "In pursuit of greater influence, I ran blindly and fast like a machine, and the greedy beast in my heart took over my soul.

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In 2013, "Time Magazine" selected "The Top 100 Most Influential People in the World", and Kai-fu Lee was extremely happy because he was selected.

But not long after he came back from receiving the award , he fell ill. After a check-up, he threw the trophy aside and lamented: "After getting sick, I deeply realized that if you lose your health, you have nothing. ”

We often remind ourselves to look far away, but we always forget to look back at the most important things in ourselves. If the foundation is not strong, the wings will not be strong.

Dream big , The work is very busy, but no matter how talented a person is, in the end, the final battle is still for the body, and the battle is for who is willing to pay a greater price.

Although the reality is unexpected, tomorrow and accidents will happen. Who comes first often only cares about your thoughts.

Everyone has their own timetable. You are yourself, not someone else’s reference, nor a victim of desperate efforts.

Just like this passage that has been circulated on the Internet:

Some people graduated at the age of 22,

but waited for five years to find a good job!

Some people become CEOs at the age of 25,

but die at the age of 50.

There are also people who become CEOs as late as 50 years old,

and then live. To 90 years old.

Life is about waiting for the right moment to act.

You are not behind. .

You are not ahead.

Everything is on time in God’s own time zone.

Yes, obviously everything will fall into place. Our best arrangement.

Working hard without being unreasonable is the prerequisite for a calm life.

Because there are few things in this world that are worth risking your life for. .