It is a matter of affection to help you, but it is a duty not to help you. How do you understand this sentence?

Everyone will have difficulties. It is kindness for others to help you, but it is their duty not to help you, so you must learn to be grateful. Don’t turn around and forget those who have helped you; don’t maliciously slander those who have helped you.

We have been taught since childhood that "helping others is a pleasure". It seems that everyone believes that you should provide help to others to the best of your ability. Helping others is a happy thing, and both parties can enjoy a pleasant feeling when they benefit. As a result, more and more people began to want help regardless of the occasion or severity. They developed the bad habit of reaching out for big and small things, thinking that it is natural for others to help them.

However, it is a duty for others to help you, but it is a duty not to help you. I obviously don’t know him very well, but he confidently came to ask for help. I’m sorry, why should I help? Don’t help, because it’s your own responsibility if you don’t do your own thing well. Mutual help is advocated, but mutual help is by no means an obligation, let alone a responsibility.

Some people tend to self-righteously believe that helping others should not be done with the intention of repaying anything in return, but those who provide help have indeed given their own time. Those who provide help should be willing to help others, and those who accept help should be willing to help others. Be grateful and repay kindness. When faced with unreasonable requests for help from others, help if you want to help. If you don't want to help, just explain why. Learn to say no and don't waste each other's time.

Appropriateness in friends’ interactions

1. Don’t pry into friends’ privacy

Everyone has his or her own relatively independent life, and also has a tendency not to allow or be unwilling to involve others. Entering the space and maintaining the "private domain" of the living space will make each of us live easily, freely, comfortably and with a sense of security. Even if they are close friends, one person should not interfere too much in another person's life.

2. Don’t force others to do what is difficult for them

“Everyone has their own love for radish and cabbage” and “You can’t compose my poems, just as I can’t compose your dreams”, all point to one truth: every Personal hobbies and interests are all different. People, including friends, must respect each other's hobbies and be good at thinking from the other person's perspective. Not only "don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you," but also "do to others. "Do whatever you want" and "Don't do it to others".