People who can talk are smart, and it is also a kind of accomplishment to shut up.

"It is smart to talk, and it is self-cultivation to shut up."

In this life, people learn to speak for two years and shut up all their lives.

Learning to speak well is a lifelong practice; Keeping your mouth shut is the best feng shui in life.

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You're smart.

There is a saying in "Caigen Tan": "There may be nine out of ten words that are not surprising, and one word that is wrong is a wonderful collection."

Kind words are warmer than cloth; Words hurt people deeper than spears and halberds.

So many times, some people win as soon as they speak; And some people, as soon as they open their mouths, lose.

I met many good friends I haven't seen for a long time at the class reunion the other day. We ate together, talked about interesting things when we were studying, and talked about the hardships after graduation. Very lively.

Unexpectedly, the classmate's light dance finally broke everyone up.

At that time, she pestered a recently divorced lesbian knowledge:

"In other words, you are almost 40 years old. Why do you want to divorce?"

"I tell you, divorced women are hard to marry, especially when you are wearing a drag bottle ..."

As soon as this was said, the female classmate suddenly changed her face. We also kept winking at the light dance and suggested that she stop.

In the end, she added, "I'm a man, and my mouth is full of beans." If you say something that makes you uncomfortable, don't mind! " "

The female classmate was so angry that she left a sentence, "You are not a knife mouth, you are bad!" "And then left with" children to take care of at home ". "

The originally lively party suddenly became dull because of this episode.

Zhu Ziqing once wrote in the prose "Talk":

"Talking is not an easy task.

Talking every day does not necessarily mean talking; Many people have talked all their lives and never said a few words. "

It is a kind of happiness to be with people who can talk.

Learning to be a talkative person is a compulsory course for a person's life.

Fei Jing in Nirvana in Fire is a clever man who can talk.

Once, after the queen's embarrassment was known by the emperor, the emperor asked her, "I heard that the queen humiliated you in public."

Fei Jing smiled: "Who is talking? The queen spoke bluntly. As a sister, I really don't care? "

As soon as this statement came out, the emperor became more disgusted with the queen's unreasonable troubles and became more sensible to her.

The more you grow up, the more you find that talking is a person's top charm, compared with good looks and extraordinary talent.

Man, speaking is instinct, and speaking is skill.

And smart people know how to talk well.

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Shut up is cultivation.

There is a saying in the proverb Lian Bi: "Self-cultivation is the most important thing, and careful words are the first."

There is a saying that "disaster comes from the mouth", especially in the adult world.

Some time ago, neighbor Jason suddenly sent a circle of friends:

"Big mouth, less talk is better. You must learn to shut up all your life! "

I asked her what was wrong.

She told me that she was in trouble because she talked too much.

Hearing this, I suddenly understood a little.

Sister Zhang is a famous "big mouth" in the community: from her mouth, she can hear all the secrets of the North family and the cronies of the South family.

It's not that she hasn't got into trouble because of her words, but she just can't shut up.

I just don't know, what did her big mouth do this time?

"Some time ago, my nephew quarreled with his wife, and I happened to be there. At that time, his wife was crying and making trouble. I just spoke ill of my nephew's wife. As a result, his daughter-in-law went back to her family without saying anything ... "

"Later I learned that they quarreled that day because their nephew lost money gambling ..."

"Now, my niece blames me for being right and wrong, and my nephew blames me for being talkative. Now I am ungrateful, and I am not a person inside and outside! "

Finally, she said to me with a wry smile, "In this life, when it's time to shut up, you have to shut up."

Yes, life is alive. Shut up is self-cultivation.

A really smart person knows how to keep his mouth shut.

As the proverb in the Bible says:

"It is inevitable that there will be many words, and the lips are forbidden."

I have seen such a Jewish fable in the book:

A businessman said to his servant, "Go and buy the most expensive thing in the market."

After a while, the servant came back and bought a tongue.

A few days later, the businessman said to his servant, "Go and buy the cheapest thing in the market."

Unexpectedly, this time, the servant bought back the tongue.

The businessman asked inexplicably, "I asked you to buy the most expensive thing the other day, and you bought your tongue back." I asked you to buy the cheapest thing today, and you bought your tongue back. What is the reason? "

The servant replied, "The tongue is valuable at best, but worthless at worst."

The Tao Te Ching said, "It is better to keep the center than to talk too much and count too few."

If you talk too much, you lose. If you talk too much, you lose.

The best feng shui for a person is to know how to shut up.

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Smart people, talk well; Sage, do you know how to shut up?

What is a mouth?

Some people say that the mouth is a ruler, and you can know the level of quotient by measuring it;

Some people say that the mouth is a quasi-handle, and you can know the depth of cultivation by measuring it.

I don't know what a mouth is, but after stumbling all the way, suffering from not being able to speak and not being able to shut up, I am convinced that a wise man is talkative; A wise man knows how to shut up.

How many people, because they speak well, have become wise men in life-

Facing "I have two children, and you, Jia Ling?" The type of awkward marriage, Jia Ling cleverly replied: "You two children, then you give me one", which surprised netizens;

When Wang Han was asked, "Who is Xiangtai, you or He Jiong?" At that time, he gave a textbook-style standard answer: "Of course, He Laoshi is his brother and I am his big brother."

How many people, because they know how to shut up, have become saints in life-

Zeng Guofan never forgot to "keep quiet" all his life;

He wrote "Too many words will lose" as Zhu Jiaxun;

Master Hongyi insists on "being the best in the world" ...

There is a question on the Internet: Who are the best people you have ever met?

A highly praised answer is: "I am good at talking and I know how to shut up when appropriate."

Yes, it is a state to talk less, and it is a cultivation to shut up.

Keep your mouth shut when you are alive, whether you are far away from the rivers and lakes or living in a high position in the temple.

You know, keeping your mouth shut is a person's best feng shui.

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Someone once asked Mozi, "How useful are words?"

Mozi replied without thinking: "Frog frog sings day and night, thirsty, but doesn't listen." Today, when you look at the chicken in the morning, it rings at night and the world shakes. What are the benefits of talking more? Only when you say it. "

Yes, life is alive, it is smart to talk, but it is self-cultivation to shut up.

It's better to talk less than to invite trouble.

For the rest of my life, I wish you would shut up;

May you mind your mouth and practice the best feng shui.