Have you ever met someone with a similar personality to yourself?

I feel that my mother and children are the most similar to me.

Through studying and growing up in recent years, I realized that family background has a great influence on people's character, but it is also the most unconscious.

As the saying goes, "if you are not a family, you will not enter a house." In fact, it is because I have walked out of a door and heard of it that I have similar personality characteristics.

If there is a good family style and personality transmission, it is of course irrational. What should you do if you are dissatisfied with your personality and don't want to pass it on to the next generation? Preach? This is the most useless way. We can't teach our children abilities we don't have. Then the only way is to actively realize your own problems, take the initiative to improve yourself, slowly influence your children through your own changes, and change the atmosphere at home.

Changing a person's personality is a difficult and painful process, but how can it be easy to rebuild yourself? There are some hints that can help us.

1, get into the habit of meditation. At present, brain science has proved that spending 15 minutes every day to vent oneself can change the links of cerebral cortex well and provide material basis for our possible changes in the future.

It may be difficult to start venting yourself, and soon many things will enter your mind. It doesn't matter. You can start in three or five minutes and gradually extend it.

2. Be aware of your own problems. "I am angry now" and "I know I am angry now" seem to be similar, but they are actually completely different ways of thinking. If you are proactive, it will be easier to relax, relieve and try to deal with it in a different way.

3. always reflect. "I save myself three times a day" is a very good self-feedback habit. Take some time to reflect on yourself every day or at least every week.