For more than ten years, the contradiction with my mother-in-law has become more and more fierce. My husband said that he didn't get along well with his mother and divorced me. What should I do?

In fact, there are only two options, a, divorce. B, do not divorce. If you choose A, you will be surprised to experience a failed marriage. How much control do you have over your life? How can you guarantee that the following marriage will not have the same problem? If you choose B, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will still appear. How to face these contradictions and how to achieve no contradictions? So no matter how you choose, you will encounter the same problem, and there will be contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. You may say that you won't get married, but then you will leave your biological parents and live alone all your life. I don't think your parents can leave safely on the day they leave. They will worry about you until you die. How can you stand it? This is the greatest unfilial.

Therefore, your problem is not how to choose, but how to get rid of this contradiction in your life. This is the solution. To solve this problem, you have to start from yourself and change yourself. Change is not for you to cater, but for you to reason, understand the overall situation, judge right and wrong, resist responsibility and take responsibility.

This is the most basic truth. Seeing that other old people are uncomfortable and unhappy, they will still be sympathetic. Why is mother-in-law indispensable? What's more, your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have serious conflicts, and they are almost divorced. These will only make your parents sad. When there are contradictions, you just want to vent your emotions, don't give up, forget these basic principles of being a man, and show respect to the elderly and others. Your contradiction affects not only your own feelings, but also your lover, your children, your parents and your family. Whatever these are, you don't know the big picture. You argue with your elders all the year round, and there are many contradictions, and you don't know how to reflect on yourself. This is ignorance of right and wrong. You didn't consider the future and atmosphere of your family, your partner's feelings, the influence of your family and the influence of this behavior on the return of your children. This is ignorance of what responsibility is. So this is the key to the problem. We will encounter many problems and contradictions in our life. We should not judge others, nor should we expect others to change to meet our own standards. What we can do is to change ourselves, let ourselves have correct cognition and judgment, understand the truth of everything, do things according to the road, and prevent our emotions and desires from developing. If we don't understand this, then this problem will always exist, not only in marriage, but also in work. I hope you can understand this.