Bao jiaozi, a one-armed child, became popular: parents with positive energy are the greatest luck of a child's life.

A few days ago, a one-armed child, Qing Qing, quietly became popular on the Internet with a video of jiaozi in one hand.

In the video, the little girl skillfully wraps jiaozi with one hand, and the speed is also very fast. Besides jiaozi, the little girl can do needlework, wash shoes, do homework and roller skating ... Everything other children can do, she never leaves behind.

Mother said that the little girl had lost an arm since she was born, but she never felt that the child was any different. What a normal child can do, a little girl can almost do.

Compared with the little girl's strong self-care ability, I was moved by her bright and warm smile, which warmed people like the afternoon sunshine.

Children's expressions are the most deceptive. Even normal children may not have such a bright smile. Therefore, green children must feel very happy from the bottom of their hearts.

Some say it's great. For sick children and disabled children, the most fearful thing is to hold the child and cry at every turn, saying that the child is miserable and won't do anything. They also believe that everyone should accommodate their children.

In contrast, Qingqing's mother did very well. She infected her daughter with an optimistic attitude and let her live like a normal child: her academic performance and self-care ability are not bad, even more sunny than normal children.

Meeting such parents is really the luck that we can't wait all our lives.

In other words, in the first six years of children's early life, parents have the greatest influence on their children.

So, how can we be a positive energy mother and how can we cultivate an optimistic child?

A child in my son's class was born on August 3 1. Because he is the youngest, his mother "troubles" the teacher in the group almost every day:

"Teacher, do you want our baby to go to the toilet? I am afraid that he will say it himself. "

"Teacher, please let our baby drink more water. I am afraid that he will not drink it himself. "

His son, though a few months younger than the other children in the class, is tall and strong, and he doesn't look weak at all, but he is particularly timid.

Even playing the slide, he just watched silently: Mom said I was the youngest baby in my class, and I was afraid of heights.

The label "youngest baby" seems to haunt children like a spell, making them afraid of their hands and feet, stumbling and sliding around, unable to let go of their hands and feet.

There is a famous "unger-Marie effect" in psychology, which is about a girl named unger-Marie, who looks very ordinary. In order to enhance her self-confidence, everyone encouraged her and praised her as "you are so beautiful".

From then on, the girl really had confidence. Every day when she looks in the mirror, she says to herself, Actually, you are beautiful.

The most amazing thing is that because of self-confidence, the longer a girl is, the more beautiful she is.

Treating children as the weak and the object of sympathy is tantamount to reshaping their roles and depriving them of the opportunity to stand on the same starting line with their peers. After a long time, children will really feel inferior.

Without basic confidence, how can there be optimism?

I read a story a long time ago. The story goes something like this:

There is an old man who has two sons. One son sells umbrellas and the other sells cloth. Every rainy day, the old man worries about his son who sells cloth. How to dry the dyed cloth? Every sunny day, the old man is worried about his son who sells umbrellas. Who will buy an umbrella?

So the old man is worried and anxious every day.

Later, an expert nudged the old man: You see, the umbrella shop is good in rainy days, and the cloth shop is good in sunny days. Every day is a good thing. Well done!

An old man who is suddenly enlightened is very happy every day.

You see, the same thing, happiness and unhappiness, is just between one thought.

The terrible thing about negative thinking is that it will prevent us from getting better, and we don't know it yet. Sometimes, when we think from another angle, new thinking can completely update our life experience.

There are many mothers around me who always pretend to be victims and even show their faces in front of their children and husbands:

"I can't go out to work because of you."

"You are too ignorant to understand my hard work!"

"If you cry again, I won't take you!"

Strange, have you discussed it with the child after giving birth? How naive the child is!

In your life full of complaints, children have become the trash can for you to vent your emotions, slowly stop laughing, slowly learn to be sensible, learn to be sensitive, learn to please, and slowly become the biggest victim.

Therefore, in order to make children happy, mothers must first make themselves happy: children are not the whole of your life, respect your heart, leave some territory for yourself, take a holiday if you want, and leave your children with others for a while when you want to be alone, so that you can live a full life. Only when you are happy from the heart and your child is infected will you be happier.

And a mother who ignores her own needs and feelings may face emotional collapse at any time.

Educate people before you educate yourself. I hope we can all be happy mothers. This is the most precious gift we can give our children.