People are just being modest, so you take it seriously.

1.

A bestie complained angrily to her friends in the group.

It turns out that a high school classmate of my best friend posted wedding photos sweetly in the circle of friends. Out of politeness and social needs, the best friend half-jokingly said: Wow, congratulations, how can I find such a young talent to take my own Marry successfully? (Attached is a cute little emoticon)

Unexpectedly, the other party replied very seriously: You can’t find young talents by going to bars every day like you. You must go to a high-quality social circle... and then you will gossip and teach. I have learned a lot of exclusive secrets on how to catch a wealthy husband.

Many women feel as if they have outperformed all their single sisters when they get married, and they must be eager to hold hands with the "underachievers" and give them a loving hand. "In order to find a reliable man, I have exhausted all my efforts, and now I will selflessly teach you my inner skills..."

In fact, they are really just being polite. The urban-rural fringe department you are looking for How much a "young talent" weighs, can be known at a glance in front of the "human spirits" who have been around the city for many years.

Taking polite words in social situations seriously can really make people suffer from embarrassment.

2.

It is customary for college classmates to gather in small gatherings in the same city. They all humbly complain about the downturn in their industry, their future is very confused, their work pressure is high, and they feel like they are all suffering. Although he was complaining, he was skillful in “revealing” a sense of professional superiority intentionally or unintentionally.

"Although public employees have fewer benefits, they still stay in star-rated hotels when traveling to enjoy the honors of leaders."

"In the past, company trips were all to Europe. This year, the benefits are poor, so we can only Go to Southeast Asia, alas!"

Only one female classmate A just smiled and said nothing. Everyone was curious and asked where she was employed. A said cheerfully and generously: I quit my job after I got married and had children. I just do whatever I can at home. I can't compare with you.

Everyone just tutted and said they were envious. This is the winner in life and so on. But then the conversation changed, and he advised A not to stay at home all the time, as it would be easy to lose touch with society. Student B was the most enthusiastic and said that he had many contacts in the industry and might as well introduce him to A. A had no choice but to play haha.

I thought it was just a chat, but who knew that not long after, B actually sent several recruitment messages to A, and emphasized that this was a company opened by his friend, and it would be possible if she came to say hello then. thing. A privately forwarded it to an acquaintance of mine, without further explanation, and just sent an "awkward" expression.

Why is it embarrassing? A quick glance at these recruitment information shows that they are entry-level positions with a monthly salary of 3,500 for fresh graduates. As far as I know, A had already reached the position of project director before leaving. Sending these messages to others with such enthusiasm is not a favor, but an insult, okay?

B, who didn’t know what to do, found A “worriedly” after being rejected by A many times while “helping” her. I, who are familiar with each other, chattered: "A's child has gone to kindergarten, and she is still at home. I kindly help her, but she can't do anything, alas."

I really don't want to say it directly, but with the help of With previous customer resources, A has long been planning to start a business at home. Last year, the studio's net profit reached more than one million. The housewife who stayed at home until she became moldy and lost her ability to make a living and lived an extremely pitiful life was just living in B's fantasy. Of course, B will not know this because A’s circle of friends has blocked her.

Others keep it secret, but you have to show off your ambition. Seriously you will lose.

3.

A classmate named C, who is in his thirties, married a homeowner and moved into a new house in the outer suburbs of the city. After wandering for a long time, she finally found a place to stay. After not contacting her for three to five years, she suddenly became active. She organized gatherings with classmates and colleagues every three days, and invited her to visit her new home. She always expressed the joy of opening up a new situation in her life.

My classmate Xiao D was the beauty of the class back then. She came from a good family and excelled in academic studies. I heard that after she settled in this city, Xiao C also invited her to her home for a dinner.

During the party, Little C seemed to casually ask Little D: Where did you buy your house? I'll come and play with you when I have time

Little D said with a smile, my house is a rented house, and you are welcome to come and play if you have time.

Little C kept his expression and nodded. It’s inconvenient to ask more questions.

After Little D left, Little C suddenly had a look of pity on his face: I heard that D’s family is quite rich. Even if her husband doesn’t live up to expectations after getting married, why don’t her parents sponsor the purchase of a house? The woman has been It's not a problem to float like this...plop, plop, plop.

Seemingly caring, everyone can tell that he is full of superiority.

But what Little C doesn’t know is that Little D’s family owns real estate in the city center of Beijing and Shanghai. Little C rented the house because she and her husband came to this city to prepare for the opening of the branch and did not plan to stay for a long time. What I don’t even know is that the houses rented by Little D’s family are all 200 square meters with large terraces overlooking the river. They are not the handshake buildings in a village in the city as you imagined.

Reminds me of a joke on the Internet -

It is not convenient for others to show off, but you send sympathy cards randomly. Is this really good?

4.

The reason why such a person is annoying is not because of her ignorant sympathy, but because you can really feel that she is not sincere. .

I remember when I was a kid, there was an aunt next door who cared most about my academic performance because she had a daughter who was in the same grade. My mother has always been modest, and she was also afraid that it would be ugly if I fell down in the future if I studied well. She kept telling her that my grades were not good, which made her very worried. As expected, my aunt was full of energy and wanted to help me with tutoring lessons. When she saw the "extracurricular books" placed in my home, she also pointed fingers at my mother to discipline me strictly and not to indulge me.

Unexpectedly, when the college entrance examination results came out, I was a full hundred points higher than her daughter. My aunt was so angry that she got so embarrassed (yes, I have to use the word "suffering from shame") that she came to my mother to accuse her: Didn't she say that your daughter's academic performance was not good? !

My mother hesitated: It was really not that good, it was just too important...

From then on, the "revolutionary friendship" between my aunt and my mother was on the verge of breaking up.

Well, I understand this aunt’s feelings very well. It’s the feeling like “we agreed to be ugly together, but you got plastic surgery” and “we agreed to fail the exam together, but only I failed”. ?

Therefore, those so-called concerns are just to find a sense of security and superiority for oneself.

Never seek pleasure for yourself by imagining the misfortune of others, or be careful of being slapped in the face.

Use too much force and it will become a joke.