My husband's best brother and sister-in-law lived in my house for two years and refused to move out. The atmosphere at home made me suffer from depression. What should I do?

The so-called "it is easy to ask Buddha, but difficult to send Buddha" is the truth. Then you can only fool them and let them go, or the kind with no regrets.

I have a relative who has encountered this kind of thing, but his practice is worthy of recognition. He left himself a good reputation without offending others.

After his brother-in-law graduated, his wife offered to stay at home for a while to save money and take care of it. He is also embarrassed to say anything, but such a thing can only be acquiesced. After all, we are all relatives, so it's hard to say anything.

But in the past two or three years, my brother-in-law has become accustomed to life, and my wife refused. He had no choice but to come up with a trick, which was the best of both worlds, and even his wife had no problem at all.

One day, he said to his wife: My parents are in poor health and need to come and live at home for a while.

Hearing this, my wife was embarrassed to drive her in-laws. After all, her brother lives here. So she cleaned up a room next to her brother-in-law. He also declined to tell his parents about it, and the old couple cooperated with their son.

A month later, my brother-in-law suddenly said that he would move away, without giving any reason, but he was still eager and willing. When the wife knows the reason, she thinks her husband is a responsible man.

It turned out that after his parents moved in, they coughed at night and asked their daughter-in-law's brother for help every night. Anyway, I always stayed up late, so I woke him up naturally.

After a long time, my brother-in-law's sleep was seriously insufficient, and he was afraid that they would cough. He hurriedly wanted to move away, regardless of his brother-in-law's retention.

This is really killing two birds with one stone. My brother-in-law moved away willingly without complaint, and my wife felt that her husband was so reserved, which was really a responsible man. Be nice to your family, but your brother is leaving.

In the end, the relatives solved the matter perfectly, and everyone was happy, and no one offended.

So judging from this matter, the subject's brother and sister-in-law have lived for two years and refused to move out. I think there are three ways to do this:

The first kind, ask parents to come and live. When everyone looks up but doesn't look down, they naturally feel embarrassed and move away silently. There is a simple reason. We are all in-laws and need a certain reputation.

Parents live reasonably, but elder brother and sister-in-law live unreasonably. After getting along for a long time, you will worry about your reputation and move away.

Second, let more children live. This method is the simplest. If there are many children, they will be very noisy. If they stay for a long time, they will often get insufficient sleep. If adults can't stand it, they will consider moving out.

This method is only temporary. You can also vaguely tell your brothers and sisters that you would rather bring more children than let them stay here. This is the most effective and tiring way, because it is reasonable and unintentional to ask relatives to leave for a period of time for some reasons.

Third, decoration. If there are economic conditions, let the elder brother and sister-in-law move out on the grounds of "decoration", even without asking for the key, just replace it directly.

This method is the simplest and most direct method. Since it's all going to be renovated, it must be moving out. It's impossible to come back after that.

Therefore, the subject can synthesize the above three methods and give it a try. After all, there is a relationship between such relatives who have been living and not leaving. We should make money in the spirit of kindness, don't offend them directly at the beginning, leave a good reputation for ourselves and others, and meet each other later.

Personally, I think it's time to do something like this. Once you move in and find that you don't want to leave, you have to solve the problem as soon as possible. Otherwise, after a long time, the personality and habits are thoroughly understood, and they are often passive and everything is clear.