Some people have a bad temper and lose their temper a little. Why? What kind of psychology is it?

There are many people in the world, but those who can control their emotions are the strong in life and the masters who can control their own lives.

The strong are as calm as water, and the weak are as violent as tigers. If a person is always entangled in bad emotions, the main reason is that life wisdom is not enough. If you can't make yourself the master of emotions, you can only be led by emotions and become the slave of emotions.

Those emotional slaves themselves are like a dry powder keg. Life is a little rough, and the powder keg is ignited at once. The consequence of the explosion is not only to hurt others, but also to set ourselves on fire.

Losing your temper is actually an instinct, but being able to control your emotions is called skill. Emotional slaves have an obvious feature, that is, interpersonal relationships are not very good, and life will be messed up by their bad temper.

And a person who can control his emotions well can always face all people and things in a peaceful and calm state, and can handle things effectively, reasonably and moderately, so that all people are willing to accept him, approach him and like to associate with him. When the interpersonal relationship is good, good things will naturally come.

As the saying goes, "Character decides fate". A person's habits are good or bad, which will dominate his life outcome. Anyone who wants to change his destiny must first settle down. Control emotions, cultivate mentality, and be moderate in words and deeds. This is the right way of life.

In this world, one thing is fair, and that is: what will happen in your life is the result of your actions. Only by controlling your emotions can you really control your life.

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Bad temper, just a little explosive. This kind of person has no patience, strong subjective consciousness, and does not accept questions and rejections from others.

Generally speaking, they are stubborn, not easy to accept other people's opinions, but also love face and make emotional decisions. But usually he still has one specialty. In fact, such people are simple-minded and unable to empathize. Because if you want to be tactful, you must control your emotions, and such people will not.

The main reason is that there are not enough setbacks in the process of growing up, and the official is complacent because he has one or some advantages, so that he does not recognize himself. In fact, my heart is very fragile, deceiving myself. I have something to do with my childhood family. If I have problems communicating with my parents, I won't express it. Or parents often quarrel, imperceptibly. Parents will not love him tenderly.

People of this character are not suitable for being leaders, but only soldiers. He can only improve himself, or make him regret after deliberately provoking him, and he will improve in deep guilt and regret. Gentle people are his death.

Generally, people with bad temper are short-tempered! What people with bad temper have in common is that they are outspoken and selfish. They like to be self-centered and never want to think of others. Because they are selfish, picky, supercilious and picky. As long as they interfere with his own interests and go against his wishes, they will be unhappy and lose their temper. They also have strong self-esteem and like to listen to flattery. Whoever gives him a good word, he is complacent and regards it as a friend. Because they are selfish, self-respecting and grumpy, even if you are their friend, they will explode at once! Lose my temper with you. A grumpy person loves to lose his temper because of many things, so if you are with a grumpy person, you will often get angry, have more troubles and less happiness.

In life, I don't like to associate with people with bad temper. Because there are so many such people, who are angry, critical and not disadvantaged, it is not easy to get along with them. I like to associate with people with big and small issues. I like to associate with easy-going people very much. Generally, such people are kind, humble and accommodating. They are not picky about you, and they are not too picky about others. With easy-going people, you will be very relaxed and happy!

The main reasons for bad temper are:

1, the liver governs the mood. In the case of liver qi discomfort, it will cause bad mood and easy to get angry. 2, impatience, blurting out everything, and finally causing more and more trouble. From my own point of view, I always care about others and don't think of others. 4, love face, even if it is wrong, no one is soft, will be deadlocked for a long time. 5. Trivial pains accumulate in my heart a little, and to a certain extent, they will break out.

The main solutions are:

1, learn to control your emotions, keep a good attitude, don't make yourself angry because of some small things, do more happy things. 2. Pay attention to your physical and mental adjustment and make some psychological hints. When you want to get angry, I suggest you divert your attention, calm down, relax and take a deep breath, and try to calm down and relieve your emotions. 3, anger hurts the liver, let go of everything, and you will have real happiness when your heart is wide. 4. Don't express your opinions right away, but make a general judgment in your mind first. 5, empathy, think more about other people's difficulties, care about others to calm their dissatisfaction. 6. Speak out your dissatisfaction or suggestions at ordinary times, and don't make a mickle, and finally get furious. 7. Exercise more at ordinary times and vent your bad mood.

There are many reasons for bad temper, and our simple attribution can be divided into congenital and acquired.

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Let's talk about congenital first. The innate reason is very simple, because everyone is born with different temperament, and some people are born with bad temper.

However, the proportion of people born with bad temper is very small. From a psychological point of view, the day after tomorrow has a greater influence on a person's personality. The formation of a person's character is related to his childhood education and his life experience.

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Let's talk about the inducement of acquired bad temper first.

For example,

Academically: failing grades, being excluded by classmates, being abused by teachers, etc.

Career: I can't finish my work, my boss makes things difficult for me, my colleagues secretly make things bad, and so on;

Family relationship: the wife is unreasonable, the husband is lazy, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is tense, parents often quarrel or even start fighting, and so on;

Growing environment: parents dote too much, are bullied by campus, are cold-eyed by others, and so on;

Daily life: no exercise, eating too much unhealthy food, irregular work and rest, long-term overwork, and so on.

Sentiment index: Emotional intelligence is relatively low, so I can't handle my emotional problems well.

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We can see that the causes of a person's bad temper are basically negative. Long-term dissatisfaction will lead a person to be in a sub-health state psychologically, and more seriously, he will suffer from mental diseases, such as depression and mania. The symptom of this kind of disease is that he becomes grumpy and will be furious about a little thing.

Or because of long-term overwork, there are some physical problems, such as being seriously ill, or being grumpy because of physical illness.

What needs to be explained in particular is the growth environment. Different growing environments have different effects on personality, and sometimes a bad growing environment can also lead to personality disorder.

Among them, the typical characteristics of impulsive personality disorder are: emotional instability, easy to be angered, easy to conflict with people, and reckless.

In addition, there is another kind of people who suffer from antisocial personality disorder. Some of these people have bad temper, such as fighting, impulsive and irritable, and aggressive.

There are many reasons for bad temper. The above does not list all the reasons, but provides a direction for your reference.

He had a bad temper and blew it up. Most people have some lack of personal cultivation, which leads them to know whether some problems or things are right or wrong within their own scope. When others just come to a conclusion contrary to him, then his temper will explode and he will get angry, which is the so-called one-point explosion. These people bombed for no reason, but they had reasons to lose their temper. Except, of course, in a few cases. Some of these people are very smart and their overall quality is not bad. Some of them are excellent. So why did it explode at one o'clock? There are many reasons. Personally, the most important factors are as follows: first, the collision between wisdom and stupidity leads to explosion. A smart and grumpy person, because of his good overall quality, makes a decisive decision on the problems he encounters. After the matter came to the right conclusion, another fool made a mistake, and then the grumpy man was bombed. As the saying goes, "fools laugh at it, but wise men mourn it." The second is the explosion caused by different cognition of the consequences of the same behavior. For example, as far as gambling is concerned, smart and irascible people, because of years of accumulated experience, have already come to the conclusion that gambling is harmful to people and families, which will seriously lead to family destruction and separation. In the eyes of gamblers, gambling behavior is only a personal hobby, and there will be no serious consequences. As soon as these two people meet, talking about the harmful consequences of gambling will definitely trigger the explosion of the grumpy man. A person with a bad temper is just an emotional vent when his temper erupts, and he has a psychology of not spitting. If he doesn't vent this emotion, he will feel depressed and unhappy as soon as he releases it. It can't be concluded that it is a mental illness. In short, psychologically speaking, it is just a non-emotional performance, thank you.

Explosion at a certain point, bad temper. People in my family just, sometimes think it's hereditary. I remember when I was a child, my grandfather once set off firecrackers (all the children were separated, one by one). He blew them up and shouted (like swearing): Go, go, don't put them here. My mother has the same temper. She always quarrels with my father if she doesn't agree or listen to me, and she will make trouble all her life. Sometimes when I quarrel with my father, my grandmother will scold her for not teaching her son well. Grandma said: He was not like this before ... Grandma was right. Look at my father's two brothers and sisters. None of them have this temper. Look at my grandparents, brothers and sisters. They are also good at talking, and will not get angry for no reason, and they will lose their temper at any time. Look at my grandmother's seven brothers, 1 sister, and get along well. I always see that their family is very affectionate, and there are always endless words. Come and go often, close to honey! Anyway, I haven't seen them talking loudly together and quarreling with each other. On the other hand, in my family, my parents have been restless all their lives, my father is still alive, and my mother is still screaming and screaming. Don't let it go! Look at mom's three brothers who never come home. The two sisters are neither too hot nor too cold. They haven't met for decades, even for a meal. Look at my grandpa's brothers and sisters. Things like eating together have been going on for decades. But I basically don't remember their kindness or warmth, but they are not cold enough to meet people (others or themselves). At least they will call each other or say a few words. But they are always rude and shouting. Look at grandma's house again. One brother lives together (every other one or two) and doesn't talk to each other. When I was a child, I didn't even know I was her brother's relative, but later I happened to know. She also has a brother who lives a few hundred meters away. We should get close to her. My mother took us there when I was a child, and we had a relationship. The little uncle asked him to answer, but his little aunt was very enthusiastic. Every time she greets him for dinner, she speaks very gently and kindly ... Their children, whom I have met, feel good-tempered, talking and laughing, a bit like their father's. Legend has it that grandma has two or three sisters, and where they are, they are not far from home. It's nice that other people's homes are so far away. They should not come and go. I haven't seen them anyway. My brother, sister and I are the only ones who are mild-tempered, or slow-tempered, and the other two are hard to say. Look at other people's homes, other people's homes. To sum up: the genetic component is large.

Angry people have seeds of anger in their hearts.

Say a few reasons on the level of consciousness.

First, he may have suppressed too many emotions. Many times he suppressed a lot of negative emotions because of some disappointments in his life, and they were not well solved. At this time, it is like water in a dam, which has not been discharged, endured or accumulated. As a result, a little bit, this little bit may be the last straw to overwhelm the camel.

Second, he may feel safe to be angry with you, trust your relationship or think that even if you have problems, he doesn't care.

Tell me about the subconscious reasons.

Maybe he refused to have sex and hated himself. He turned his remorse and attack on himself into an attack on others (try to understand, if you can't understand, just look at the above two points).

Anger is a bad root that everyone is born with. It's just a matter of degree.

Some people are kind and don't like to talk much, so they are called dust. But if you are provoked, you will be furious and hysterical. Such people are everywhere in life, and a proverb has been fulfilled: rabbits bite when they are in a hurry.

Of course, there are more people in life who have a bad temper, lose their temper a little, and turn their faces when they are teased. Because of some trivial things, I flew into a rage, making my chickens and dogs restless and worrying. Some time ago, the Wanzhou bus crashed into the river, and the woman who caused the accident was a typical representative of her bad temper.

Grumpy is mostly natural. For example, the famous Lin Zexu once wrote the word "control anger" in the main hall to remind himself at all times. As a scholar, Lin Zexu is familiar with the four books and five classics, which can be described as a good accomplishment, but he still can't control his temper. It can be seen that the temper is coming and can't stop it.

Nowadays, many people are grumpy, mostly huge. I have been used to it since I was a child, and I have never experienced anything. When something goes wrong, you complain. Escalating from a quarrel to hands-on may eventually lead to great disaster.

People with bad temper are mostly women. Many people will be surprised, don't they say that women are the gentlest and most docile? In fact, women's psychology and physiology are inseparable and easily influenced by the moon. Physically, it's easier to get confused. The ancients formulated many rules to restrain women, in fact, they also adjusted their body and mind by regulating women's behavior.

Temper will change with age. But the key still depends on the continuous cultivation of individuals. Be sure to understand that anger is due to incompetence, and irritability is due to powerlessness.

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Grumpy This is a serious inferiority complex mania. The bigger the temper, the more fearful people will be. There is an inexplicable fear and inexplicable inferiority. Such people are hard to change if they don't enlighten themselves. Exposure is a normal state, and exposure is also a pathological state. If it is not because of your physical condition, you must be treated.

In real life, many people lose their temper when they disagree. Many people think that this is caused by personality, but in fact it is more caused by an inferiority complex. There are many reasons for the explosion, one is extreme self-distrust, the other is no sense of self-existence, the other is physical factors, the other is being despised, the other is brushing the sense of existence, and the other is to show that you are strong.

The specific analysis is as follows, I hope I can help you.