Cheating doesn't need to be forgiven, let alone forced! (2)

Cheating doesn't need to be forgiven, let alone forced!

Many women think that forgiveness means forgetting the past pain. As long as you don't think about it, don't mention it, close your eyes and play dumb, you can let time dilute everything.

But this way is not so much forgiveness as self-deception.

Because a man's infidelity is like stabbing an invisible sharp knife into his wife's chest. Even if he regrets after being found out and cries bitterly, he will never hurt you again and be twice as good to you, which will not change the fact that the injury has been caused.

No matter who hurts you, unintentionally or intentionally, and no matter what you make up for in the future, the person who hurts will still hurt, and the person who hates will still hate.

Even if the marriage is lucky enough to survive, life can go on as usual, but those pains, bleeding, wounds, scars and fears are inevitable. No one dares to look straight at the bleeding wound for a long time, whether it is the wounded or the wounded.

So everyone expects the wound to heal as soon as possible, so that everything can be restored as before, but they don't realize that healing the heart injury is the longest process, and no one can be its master.

Sometimes, the reason why the wound can't heal after a long time, and a woman can't really forgive her derailed husband, is not because she is too sensitive and fragile to be rational and tolerant.

On the contrary, the sharp knife that hurt people at the beginning was not taken care of and pulled out of the body, so the healing process could not be started. At the request of others or even under compulsion, I chose formal forgiveness.

There is also such a woman who obviously feels unbearable pain, but she doesn't know where her wound fell, let alone recovered.

On the surface of forgiveness, what happens is often like this:

The incident happened suddenly that day, and both sides tore their faces.

Women are dying to live, hysterical.

A man condescended to kneel.

Relatives and friends advised against parting, and they all expressed their opinions.

Finally, the wife got confused and chose to forgive.

The husband was grateful and vowed.

Everyone is happy, and the merits are complete.

It seems that the two of them can get along well and let bygones be bygones.

But life as usual, under the same roof, husband and wife looked at each other, embarrassing.

The distance between their hearts is infinite, and all their actions are like performances.

In this process of forgiveness, both husband and wife and the people involved have their own ulterior motives and wishful thinking.

But at that time, no one could really calm down and women didn't have enough time to think. What choice did they make?

Many people haven't even thought about the most fundamental question: why do men have to forgive their wives for cheating?

Many times, asking for forgiveness does not stem from men's introspection and repentance, but from selfish and greedy nature.

At the same time, forgiveness does not come from women's understanding and generosity, but from the sadness and helplessness of life.