Parents often break their promises, what harm will it bring?

As we all know, parents are a mirror for children. Never take breaking an appointment as a normal thing at ordinary times. What we need to do is to cultivate children into people who keep their word, be responsible for themselves and the society. Failure to keep the previous agreement with children seems to be a trivial problem, but it will bring much more harm to growing children than we thought.

There will be three effects on children. Children who are often cheated by their parents will feel unfair when they grow up and will doubt what others say.

First: cognitively, let children question the authenticity of the world. In the eyes of adults, children are eating, drinking and having fun every day, which makes people particularly envious. I think if I can go back to my childhood, I don't have to worry about anything. But in fact, their life is not as easy as we thought. Every child is learning everything that happens around him every minute of his growth. For them, "the movement of an object, the landing of a spoon and the transmission of a sound" are all courses for them to learn the laws of this world. Parents are important teachers of children, and most of their children's cognition of society, feelings of socialization and values of the world come from their parents. A newborn child is like a blank sheet of paper, and how parents educate them is very important. We will describe what we see to our children, such as "the description of the blue sky, the sky is blue, the grass is green and the clouds are white", and the children will keep it in their minds. Therefore, when we make promises in front of children and break our promises, children will feel confused and don't know how to face the world.

Second: Emotionally, children who let their children down are more sensitive when they are one and a half to four years old, that is, children at the age of "rebellious 2 years old" begin to have all kinds of emotions, but children are unable to control those emotions, so they often lose control of their emotions, such as common children lying on the ground crying, and parents can't do anything about it. This problem arises because children's ability to accept all kinds of things is limited, so sometimes a small matter may lead to a big emotional collapse of children. Then, if the parents who are regarded as the most important and dependent by the children break their promises, the disappointment and helplessness of the children can be imagined. Although the children's world can't be smooth sailing, there will always be sad things, but this is not an excuse for us to let our children down. Parents should educate and help their children manage their emotions, instead of letting them be on the verge of emotional collapse from the beginning. Therefore, while criticizing our children for being unruly in Xiong Haizi, we should think about why children lose their temper.

Thirdly, in education, let children learn to disobey the agreement. Parents give their children an agreement and cash it at the agreed time. This is the process of learning what an agreement is. If parents can keep the agreement every time, then the definition of "agreement" that children learn is an unbreakable and inviolable promise. On the contrary, parents don't keep the agreement, and what children learn in this process is that "agreement" is an act that can be broken and violated, and will not bring adverse consequences. If this goes on, parents will not abide by the agreement, which will not only make children no longer trust their parents, but also make them become untrustworthy people. Even if parents keep their promises occasionally, they will not play any role in educating and guiding their children. What children remember is that parents often break their promises, and so can I. Some parents give their children some compensation and comfort because the date is cool, but this method is not desirable, it will only cultivate their children's intensified mentality and make a deal with their parents under the pretext of breaking the appointment. Many of our parents should have heard their children say to themselves, "Why don't you buy it for me after I finish writing?" Something like this. Therefore, in the young mind of children, our parents must keep their promises, and in the future, they must also be honest people in the process of children's growth and adulthood.