How should parents urge their children to delay?

In the face of children's procrastination, as parents, in addition to being anxious or reprimanded, we need to pay attention to using scientific methods to urge children to improve their procrastination habits. The following are some specific supervision methods that I have summarized based on my experience in helping children improve procrastination:

First, the specific time.

Many children who procrastinate have one thing in common: they have no specific concept of time.

Therefore, if parents want to urge their children to improve their habits, the first thing to do is to make a timetable for every part of their children's activities in a day. Let the children have a concrete, vivid and vivid understanding of the components of the day by asking questions according to the daily schedule.

For example, you can ask your child, "When do you get up?" "When did you play games with your children?" "When will everyone have dinner together?" Wait a minute. Let children tell themselves what they are doing with friends, parents and children during the day and night. After a long time, children can gradually understand the concept of "all day" from day to night.

Second, use more words about time.

When children have a specific understanding of time, they can increase the use of time words in daily communication and urge them to finish it within the specified time.

For example, "What game did you play with your good friend yesterday?" Or connect the time with words that children can understand, such as "15 minutes later, we will go out, which is almost like watching an animated film." When children do homework, break down the specific completion time, set phased goals, and give timely feedback and encouragement.

For example, the time to finish reading a book is 15 minutes. Children can encourage or promise their children and tell them that they have made great progress in time management.

Third, set up visual reminders in children's rooms or eye-catching locations.

Most children with procrastination lack continuity and goal guidance. Then visual reminders have a very direct and effective effect on children's daily supervision. For example, a visual work schedule and a children's manual account book can play a very good role.

Parents can list daily life items such as games, meals, sports and sleeping with their children according to the actual situation, plan the time and duration, and tick "√" after implementing them one by one; Regularly review the implementation of daily arrangements and adjust the schedule according to the implementation. When children behave well according to the daily schedule, they should be encouraged or rewarded in time. When children get more and more good and confident experiences, they will be more comfortable in controlling their time.

For parents, the formation of children's habits should be guided-supervised-to form independent habits. Therefore, parents should observe whether their children's habits are formed and whether they need to be corrected after a period of supervision to help improve procrastination.