After confinement at my parents’ home, I saw the hypocrisy of my mother-in-law. What should I do in the future?

In this world, there are some people who are "Jiyueqingfeng" and disdain to use tricks. They will behave according to their own needs.

When you meet this kind of mother-in-law, she may have a low emotional intelligence. But he is not evil-minded at all, and he also has a warm heart for his daughter-in-law. For example, Zhong Liti’s mother-in-law said straightforwardly that Zhong Liti was a bit old. However, Liti Zhong really defended her: "My daughter-in-law is good at everything, but I am afraid that my son will have a bad temper."

But there is another kind of mother-in-law, who looks like a "moon breeze", But he is hypocritical, not only hypocritical and resorting to his own daughter-in-law, but also full of calculations towards his own sons and grandchildren.

Generally, when a woman encounters this kind of mother-in-law, it is really difficult to deal with her. Because she has a long incubation period. During this incubation period, she has always been the image of a good mother-in-law, and she will show her fangs when you are most in need.

Some people say, is having a mother-in-law really so scary?

Very few. But, it does exist. Not only does she not love her daughter-in-law, she also doesn't love her son and grandson. She only loves herself in this life.

Wanyue is marrying far away, which is why I advise many girls to be cautious when marrying far away:

Because you don’t understand that place, those people, your parents-in-law, and your husband Relatives at home don’t understand it at all. You have no idea what kind of crisis is hidden in this man's family.

Many people say that even those who are recently married don’t understand. However, if you are recently married, you can ask around. You can always find a relative from all over the country. You can't find out particularly secretive things, but you can find out about the family's reputation in the village and major events.

Another benefit of marrying close to you is:

If you are wronged, you can complain.

Many of the children in my family are close to marriage. I had a quarrel and was unhappy, so I got to my parents' house in half an hour. When you get to your natal family, you can still complain, and your natal family can still support you. Because both families are from different parts of the country, before your in-laws bully you, you have to think about what will happen to your natal family and what will happen to the villagers if they find out.

But you don’t understand at all about marrying far away. Before getting married, you may have only gone back with a man once or twice. What's even more frightening is that when you are wronged, you are afraid that your parents will be worried and dare not say anything because you are far away. You quarreled and ran away from home, leaving no one with you when you left the house.

The man’s family is also convinced that you have nowhere to go and no family to rely on, so they will bully you without any scruples.

The husband's family that Wanyue married was known in the village as being scheming and unreasonable. People's evaluation of her mother-in-law is that she only takes advantage and does not suffer any losses, and treats others as fools.

Her husband’s family not only has a bad reputation, but is also relatively poor. Because they could not find a wife locally, the children in the family found wives while they were working in other places. Only after Wan Yue got married did she realize that local families with girls would not agree if they heard that they were marrying into her mother-in-law's family. They feel that their daughter will only be wronged when meeting such a mother-in-law.

When Wanyue first got married, her mother-in-law also praised her fiercely. Even if there were rumors about it during the wedding, she wouldn't believe it. She felt that people spread rumors and she also thought that her mother-in-law was really nice.

After getting married, Wanyue and her husband worked outside and had little contact with her mother-in-law. The mother-in-law often calls her son to tell her that it is not easy for a poor family like theirs to get a wife, so the man should be nice to Wanyue.

Wanyue felt that she had met a really good mother-in-law. At that time, she kept saying good things about her mother-in-law in front of men. But what she didn't expect was that her husband's attitude towards her mother was always indifferent. Even, I don't want to take Wanyue home all the time.

Wanyue got pregnant in the second year of her marriage.

The man took care of Wanyue and went to work at the same time. He was very tired and often traveled on business. He was not worried about Wanyue being alone in the rental house, so he proposed to send Wanyue back to her hometown to live. Wanyue didn't want to go back, but the man insisted. He was afraid that when she was on a business trip, she would be alone in a strange city and no one would take care of her if anything happened to Wanyue.

At this time, Wanyue's mother-in-law stood firmly on Wanyue's side: "You guys are separated, doesn't she miss you?"

With her mother-in-law's objection, Wanyue Stupidly, I stayed in the rental house. It is said that you are always afraid of something. When Wanyue's husband was on a business trip, Wanyue started to have a stomachache because she ate expired food.

If the neighbor hadn't happened to be at home and carried Wanyue downstairs, Wanyue and the child would have been in real danger.

After this incident, Wanyue and her husband did not dare to be careless again. During pregnancy, anything can happen, and pregnant women must have someone to take care of them. The man no longer mentioned sending Wanyue back to his home this time, and he probably clearly understood the meaning of his mother's words.

However, Wanyue didn’t understand. But she wanted to eat the food cooked by her mother, so when the man proposed to send her back to her parents' home, she did not object. Wanyue never expected that she would live in her parents' home until the end of her confinement period.

After finishing her confinement and returning to her husband's house, Wanyue suddenly understood her mother-in-law's intentions and methods.

When Wanyue was at her parents' home, her mother-in-law would call her after a while. Once she came, she would express her regret for not being able to take care of Wanyue. Secondly, tell Wanyue how busy she is at home and how difficult her family is.

Wanyue thought her mother-in-law was just gossiping, but she never thought that her mother-in-law's words meant: "I have no time to care about you, and I don't have any money to give you."

At that time , Wan Yue’s parents said to Wan Yue very cryptically: “It’s not easy for this kind of mother-in-law to leave her pregnant daughter-in-law in her parents’ house and not care about anything, but complains every day.”

But Wan Yue felt that her parents thought too much. . She felt that since her mother-in-law's family was from a rural area, having a lot of work and being poor was a reality. What she didn't know was that her parents worked, never took a lunch break, and had to make nutritious meals for Wanyue. My parents-in-law only went to work in the fields in the morning and evening when it was cool. At noon every day, sleep for at least 3 hours.

When Wanyue was about to give birth, the man communicated to his mother again and wanted Wanyue to return to her husband's family to give birth. After all, it is customary over there to give birth to a baby during confinement, and it must be done at the mother-in-law's house.

But Wanyue's mother-in-law said at this time: "It's okay to come back, but who will take care of Wanyue. My legs hurt and I can't cook. I'm afraid I won't be able to take care of your wife."

Grandma Wanyue’s meaning is very simple: "If you come back, I won’t take care of you. My legs hurt. I won’t cook for you either. I don’t know how to cook. I don’t know how to take care of people."

At this time, Wanyue finally understood something. Being pregnant for such a long time, my mother-in-law called me quite frequently, but she was always complaining. She has bad legs, can't cook, and her family is poor, so she will suffer even when she goes back.

Wanyue finally finished her confinement at her parents' home. During this period, her mother-in-law stopped answering her calls. She felt that her mother-in-law was too hypocritical. Wanyue's husband also had objections to her mother. He basically hung up the phone when he saw it was her mother.

Wanyue’s mother-in-law began to eagerly hope that Wanyue would go back after her confinement. Everyone in the village knew that Wanyue was pregnant and thought she was born in a big city. But she didn't know that she gave birth to the child in her mother's family and was in confinement.

Because Wanyue is a foreigner, others naturally believe whatever her mother-in-law says. Wanyue's mother-in-law has been crying outside, blaming herself for being in poor health and unable to take care of Wanyue. Wanyue got angry and refused to come back.

Some people who understand said to her: "From the time I was pregnant and gave birth to the baby, I haven't eaten a grain of rice from your family, I haven't spent a penny from your family, and you haven't taken care of it. The hardest thing is The time has passed and you want to have a grandson. It’s a beautiful thought.”

Wanyue did not go back to her husband’s house. After the confinement period, she asked her mother to quit her job and give her a sum of money every month. , letting her take care of herself and her children.

Wanyue's mother-in-law found out and began to scold her son: "Give me the money and I will take care of your children. Have you forgotten who is your real mother?"

Fortunately, men ignore their mothers. However, Wanyue's mother-in-law never said a kind word to Wanyue and her son in the village. The relatives in the man's family began to criticize Wanyue and the man: "It's not like your mother doesn't let grandma take care of your children, as if no one cares about you."

It's not like no one cares about you, but, It was obvious that her mother-in-law didn't want to take care of it, but in the end Wanyue refused to let her take care of it. This kind of mother-in-law's thoughts and methods are really deep. You say good things, but you don't do anything and you can still blame others.

When encountering such a mother-in-law, it is best for a woman to stay away. If you can avoid contact, don’t contact. Because there are calculations in her heart. If you don't calculate, you will be calculated. If you make calculations back and forth, you will become like her.

It’s better to stay away. Don't interact with each other and live your own life.

As for when she comes to take care of her in old age, it is your nature and kindness to care about her, and no one else can say anything. After all, she has never been kind to you for so many years, you just stayed away from her.

It’s just indifferent.