As an independent adult, is marriage really important?

Whether it is important or not depends on the comparison of personal and family energy.

If two married individuals are weaker than their families and need to rely on the help of their families, they should be suitable for each other, because the two families will have frequent conversations, and without equal identity and thinking mode, they can't communicate effectively, and the weak couple can't mediate in the middle.

If two married individuals, or one of them is stronger than the family, do not need to rely on the family, and can even feed back the family, then there is no need to be suitable for each other.

Actually, it's that simple.

Just be careful not to give up the basics.

Why do you often mention the right home? In fact, not everyone advocates restoring the strict concept of family status in feudal society.

But because the two people who are really suitable have similar growth environment and life trajectory, and have a higher probability of coincidence in the three views, consumption view and fertility view. Matchmakers arrange blind dates, and everyone likes to arrange two people to meet, which really improves the efficiency and success rate. Secondly, parents sometimes think that choosing a spouse is for fear that their children will suffer indignities in the future, and worry that their children's conditions are obviously worse than their own, which will harm their own interests. Therefore, they should set up a "door-to-door" and simply find a similar condition.

On the other hand, you don't think your two families are suitable, but through observation, you are both very independent, and the three views, money consumption, childbirth and other issues are also in tune, so you are also suitable for marriage.

Of course, the family background conditions of the two people are similar, but they just don't get along. There is no need to be strong for "matching".