"I asked your parents-in-law for a gift of 200,000 yuan. Mom will keep it for you." My mother wants to give the gift to my brother. What should I do?

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"Daughter, I asked your parents-in-law for a gift of 200,000 yuan, otherwise I won't marry, and I will keep this money with my mother for safekeeping!" Chen Jieyu is 26 years old this year, and Li Quanfu After falling in love for more than half a year, the two moved in together. Li Quanfu was very kind to Chen Jieyu. He rarely let her cook in the kitchen and rarely let her wash clothes.

Moreover, Li Quanfu was a gentle man, regardless of right or wrong, and never argued with Jieyu. This reminded Jieyu of her ex-boyfriend, the man who had beaten her. In contrast, Chen Jieyu felt that Li Quanfu was a good man and worthy of giving her life. The two families sat together to discuss the marriage. The Quanfu family was willing to give a gift of 100,000 yuan, and they had already bought a house and a car.

But within a few days, something happened to Quanfu's family. Quanfu's mother fell ill and was hospitalized, so the marriage was temporarily shelved. Quanfu's mother spent more than 100,000 yuan on surgery. Fortunately, she is fine, which can be considered a blessing. During this period, there was another happy event for the Quanfu family, which was that Jieyu was pregnant, which made the whole family extremely happy.

The 100,000 yuan gift that Quanfu's family had agreed upon has not yet been given to Jieyu. Seeing that Quanfu's family is now in some difficulty, Jieyu can't bear to take it anymore. But after Jieyu's mother knew her daughter's thoughts, she bluntly said that her daughter was too stupid: "Daughter, you are pregnant now. If you ask your parents-in-law for a gift of 200,000 yuan, otherwise you will not get married. Mom will keep the gift money for you!"< /p>

Jieyu knew her mother well, and she showed a look of disdain: "Mom, Quanfu's mother is sick now and has just been discharged from the hospital. Can we not add fuel to the fire? You have to be considerate. My husband’s family is in trouble. Besides, if you keep the bride price for me, you should keep it for your brother. How can I know what you are thinking?”

Jieyu’s mother also reacted when her daughter revealed her thoughts. Kaifeng said: "Yes, I am just for your brother. He will marry and have children in the future. As a sister, you can't ignore it!" Jieyu felt that her mother was really unreasonable. Should a sister pay for her brother's life? Growing up, she always gave in to her younger brother, and sent all her wages back to her parents' family to spend on her younger brother.

Now that he is about to get married, his mother and brother still won’t let him go? This time, Jieyu made up her mind not to ask for anything and marry Quanfu directly. She just wanted to run her own small family well. As for other things, she didn't want to worry too much.

02 Mr. Slow Banpai said

The three words "Vudimo" have become the direct killer of many couples' relationship breakdown. In fact, there is nothing wrong with helping your natal family after marriage, but you must have a bottom line and cannot exceed it. It can be seen that Jieyu is a sensible person. When she saw some changes happened in Quanfu's family, she felt that by not asking for a bride price, she was sharing the pressure of her husband's family.

Once such a daughter-in-law marries into her husband's family, her husband and parents-in-law will definitely not treat her badly. Moreover, the Quanfu family had previously agreed to give Jieyu a gift, which showed the sincerity of her husband's family. Jieyu's choice was right. She had the obligation to support her parents, but she had no obligation to pay for her younger brother for a lifetime.

I hope Jieyu and Quanfu’s family of three will be happy!