Many modern people are anxious and empty inside, mainly because they have a strong desire to compare. What do you think?

Hello! I'm happy to answer your questions. Nowadays, many people feel anxious to some extent. This kind of anxiety not only affects mental health, but also hinders physical health. So, why do people feel anxious?

There are many reasons for anxiety, such as social and environmental influences, life pressure, herd mentality and comparison mentality, etc. Among them, the desire to compare does account for a large proportion. Here are the causes of anxiety.

1. Fear of the ordinary. Everyone has a comparison mentality. When I see my friends buying big houses and private cars, and I am still struggling to make a living, I feel the gap and worry about being eliminated, which leads to anxiety.

2. Dissatisfaction with oneself. Happy people must be satisfied with themselves. People's uneasiness and anxiety often come from being dissatisfied with themselves, creating a deep sense of fear, and trying hard to get rid of it.

3. Social environment. Fast-paced life, fierce competition, work pressure, and limited resources are also factors that cause anxiety. In this environment, it is easy to breed a mentality of crowding and comparison. For example, children's education, etc.

Everyone has the desire to compare. Everything has pros and cons. The positive meaning of comparison is to look up and be proactive. But the opposite is the "abyss". Cause vanity, jealousy, even unscrupulous means, etc.

On the spiritual level, the comparison mentality manifests as sustenance type and happiness type. The sustenance type, such as parents of primary and secondary school students, their children's grades, interests, and the price of extracurricular tutoring classes are all their comparison points.

Happiness comparison, some people always look at how happy other people’s lives are and how humble and miserable they are. Employees only see the difference between their boss's salary and their own, but they don't see the responsibilities and pressure they bear.

The most effective way to reduce the desire to compare is to lower your desires, focus on your own strengths and strengths, and constantly improve yourself. Comparison is a double-edged sword. On one side is an abyss, on the other side is the source of power!

Many modern people are anxious, empty inside, and mainly have a strong desire to compare. What do you think? I think it should be that everyone has a sense of comparison, and everyone hopes that they are worse than others. Some people have a sense of comparison and can make progress. Some people have a sense of comparison, and it seems to be used to envy. If others have a good job but you don’t, others have a good job and you don’t. You don’t have money, but others have a lot, and you feel like you don’t have it, so you feel anxious and empty.

For example: Xiao Wang, our colleague who works together, saw the salary of a worker working in the workshop. He said that his job was really good, with an envious expression. He only understood the surface and had no idea at all. How do other people work so hard to get their money? You only see other people’s glorious wages, but not the hard work they put in. You don’t even know what they do in the process, and you have never seen how they do it, so it’s just the surface of envy. In fact, when you envy others, think about it, can you do it yourself? If you can't do it yourself, don't envy it in vain, because if you can't do it like others, you won't get the same salary as others.

For example: The 50-year-old uncles and aunts in the workshop will envy Xiao Zhang (who is in his 40s) who purchases items for the company. Thinking about it, he doesn’t have to work too hard every day and his salary is not low. But he can drive and use computers. This is a rural area, but imagine that most people in their 50s cannot drive or use computers. Even if this opportunity is given to them, they will not be able to grasp it. They cannot do this work and can only work hard on their own. Work in the workshop. Therefore, it is useless for people to have boundless envy. It is better to do their own thing according to their own reality!

People seem to envy each other, and sometimes they are jealous, but the envy is not severe, so they just talk about it on the surface. If you are envious in your heart, you may become jealous. For example, a cyclist envies the boss who drives a Mercedes-Benz and BMW. Maybe some people who drive a Mercedes-Benz and BMW have a fragile heart and are being chased by debt collectors. They are envious of the leisure and ease of riding a bicycle. Personally, I feel that everyone is jealous. They are envious of each other, some on the surface and some on the inside.

People need to maintain a progressive heart and a heart that accepts reality, which is good for themselves and society. Sometimes envy and jealousy make people anxious and empty, with bad mental and emotional conditions, and they often do some unrealistic and bad things, so everyone should keep a natural mind, understand their own conditions, and be happy every day Even a day when you are unhappy is also a day, be content and happy, come on!

This question should be divided into two parts. It is true that some people are anxious and empty because of their strong desire to compare, but there are also some people who become confused, overwhelmed, idle, and powerless. Feeling restless and empty. Therefore, the scientific statement should be that a strong desire to compare can easily cause anxiety and emptiness in people's hearts, but people's anxiety and emptiness are not only caused by their desire to compare.

In fact, all anxiety and emptiness are ultimately caused by dissatisfaction with one's current situation. In modern society, adults have too many things to carry. Due to differences in personality and physical and mental endurance, many people have neither the energy nor the means to change the status quo. Therefore, the more they experience, the more dissatisfied they may be with themselves.

This kind of dissatisfaction has been accumulated for a long time. Once he encounters a little dissatisfaction in work and life, it will be the point where he explodes. This can only become his pressure, and this pressure will It’s really pressure that can’t be converted into motivation at all. Motivation must come from a beautiful vision and subjective instigation, but an extremely negative person who has been polished by life has no interest in anything and has no hope. How can he mobilize himself.

Besides, it’s not impossible to have a desire to compare. Let’s take an example. One of your classmates or friends bought a new BMW. You are extremely envious and want to own one of the same model. But your financial conditions are limited. If you think about it over and over, formulate a phased goal and plan, work hard to do your job well and find some side jobs to earn some extra money, you can finally buy a BMW. This kind of comparison is positive, and you can satisfy it through your own efforts. This is a healthy comparison.

But if you only blame others, do not want to make progress, and do not work hard, you will feel insecure when you see the gap between you and others, and will feel urgent and depressed.

It can be seen that scientifically setting goals and plans is a good way to eliminate anxiety and emptiness, whether it is short-term or long-term, whether it is a fitness plan or a career plan, emptiness or too much time for you. If you have more, let yourself be sunny and fulfilled, and there will still be time for emptiness.

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When it comes to this comparison mentality, women understand it right. If the husband of one of her classmates buys a watch worth 1,000 yuan for herself, but her husband doesn’t give it to her, that’s a big deal. You will start to complain about your husband. Why are some people so obsessed with comparison? How scary is it once the desire to compare arises?

There is a big difference between people. Some people are born with golden keys, while some people do not acquire as much wealth in their lifetime as others. Why do some people have so much wealth? Are people obsessed with comparison? How scary it is once the desire to compare arises:

Why some people have a strong desire to compare:

The reason why the desire to compare arises is mostly due to inner impetuousness and anxiety. These two Once this emotion comes out, there will be a mentality of eagerness for success, and people will become unsteady. Let’s take a look at the specific reasons for the desire to compare:

1. Inferiority

Inferiority exists in many people’s psychology, but many people have no way to change their inferiority and let themselves Become confident.

When our goals are set relatively high, we will start to rush for quick success, take the goals too seriously, and become very paranoid in our behavior. The final result will be different from what we expected. Then we enter a cycle of low self-esteem.

2. Conceited

Most arrogant people have inaccurate self-positioning. Because of my arrogance, I become very ambitious and always feel that I am much better than others. In fact, there is a big gap.

3. Self-loathing

If you hate your own people, you will also hate everything in your own family. If you cannot calm down and face yourself, the end result will be to always envy others. The so-called To increase others' ambition and destroy one's own prestige.

4. What you see is what others let you see

We only see the surface of many things, and only we know what our own life is like. When you see the good in others, you only see the bad in yourself. If you push back, everything about yourself will be unsatisfactory.

How scary it is once the mentality of comparison arises:

The mentality of comparison can be understood as something that does not have the ability to consume, which also has a lot to do with the group of people it belongs to.

If you make friends who like to show off, you will be affected and make yourself frugal to buy some things. If you can't buy them, you will have a strong jealousy, which will make you lose money. The rhythm of life and psychology are disrupted.

Jealousy can make a person very ugly. You still have to do things according to your ability. The smile on your face is still very important. When a person's mood is better and his heart is stronger, his life will become better and better. The better.

That’s all about the comparison mentality. Appropriate comparison mentality has certain benefits for people. Too much comparison mentality will bring troubles to one’s life.

Objective analysis of your problem is also part of it, but more of it is the pressure that forces you to have these negative emotions. In the final analysis, there is no escape from the word money.

The desire to compare only lies in a person's degree of vanity. The greater the degree of vanity and lack of ability, the more negative emotions there will be. This is an equal issue. When they experience something and see through the essence of life, they return to simplicity in an instant, and these problems are solved.

There is another type of people who start their own business. Their business does not go smoothly or fails, and they end up in debt. There are countless such people. Their restlessness, anxiety, emptiness and other negative emotions do not come from comparison, but more from their career persistence. There are countless people who grew old overnight after going bankrupt. This kind of pressure and negative emotions are particularly serious for people in this category.

I once met my friend’s boss, who is a real estate developer. Poor management ended up going bankrupt with a debt of 350 million yuan. He was involved in lawsuits, his wife and children were separated, and he had nothing. A year later, the fifty-year-old man had a head full of gray hair. He has experienced anxiety, depression, irritability, suicide, depression, and all the negative emotions you can think of. It took five years to get out. Then start from scratch, and there will still be about 120 million debts left by this year.

As you can see, most of the negative emotions that we ordinary people have, such as anxiety and emptiness, also come from various pressures in life. As long as life doesn't have many twists and turns, these things will happen in a smooth and smooth life. Not to mention comparing yourself to anything else to make yourself unhappy. Modern people are very good at thinking, that is, living their own lives well is enough...

"Comparison mentality harms many people"

The development of society and the progress of the times, Improvement of living conditions. But people's desires accelerate even faster.

Originally, I was living a good life in the countryside, but in order to enjoy urban life, I was eager to buy a house in the city.

There are kindergartens, primary and junior high schools in towns and villages. In order to pursue the quality of education and improve children's starting point. I tried my best to go to the city to study and go to kindergarten. Increased menstrual burden.

Some people work in good companies and want a more comfortable environment in order to get promoted, make more money. Work hard, use your brains, drill up, and jump out.

I've tormented myself so much.

In short, a person's desire to compare is too strong and his impetuous mood is so high. It will inevitably disrupt normal life and work order. It does hurt some people.

Be content with what you have, but don’t be too eager to compare. There are as many businesses as there are abilities. A person who is self-aware

will definitely avoid a lot of trouble and torment in his life!

There are certain factors that lead to anxiety, inner emptiness, and a strong desire to compare. Excessive self-esteem, low self-esteem, and lack of confidence in oneself are also major factors.

In a sense, the comparison mentality is not a bad thing or bad, at least it has a positive effect in increasing one's sense of competition.

Treat the object of comparison as your own goal. Once you have a goal, you will secretly pursue it hard to get closer to the goal, so as to achieve your goal.

Pure and ignorant comparison is irrational and ignorant, so it will make you anxious and empty inside.

People are different, and their minds are also different. People who grow up on milk are very different, let alone people in society. Although they are from the same village and classmates, even they were inferior to you in all aspects before, but now you are not inferior to them. This is the real reason why you are most restless and empty inside.

As everyone knows, when people step into the complex society of Fengyun, they immerse themselves in it, seek their own stage of life, and actually accompany the roles in it. They are always rehearsing, and finally become the characters they play. play.

Some people do not have this attitude. They always do things step by step, follow what others say, and follow the crowd. They are not competing for roles, but like the large number of extras in Hengdian, waiting for the director to choose them.

Therefore, the comparison mentality is not everything. You don’t know what you are really like. I don’t know what I can do that is suitable, I only know where I am not as good as others.

Others have been searching, but you have been waiting in place.

Life in this world is like amidst thorns. If your heart is not moving, you will not move rashly, and if you are still, you will not be hurt. The reason why people suffer is that they pursue the wrong things. Who am I, what do I want, what am I doing now, and what should I do now? If I understand it clearly and do it according to my heart, I will have clarity.

Yes, just compare yourself with yourself, and the harder you work, the better. A little bit more progress. There is no need to make unnecessary comparisons if the ruler is short or the inch is long.

When modern people encounter the situations you mentioned, it is always ourselves who make us anxious, impetuous, and uneasy. We always feel that we don’t know where to go and our future is bleak.

I always think too much and forget that the road is long. I always ask for too much and make myself forget to stop...

One porridge and one meal, simple. When we get old, one day, like my grandma, we may understand what is called true letting go.

Once you let it go, you no longer have the desire to compare. No matter how anxious you are, it is not as heavy as grandma can bear. She lost her daughter when she was young, her husband when she was middle-aged, and her youngest son when she was old. Today, her husband and I are mostly by her side.

Looking at the calendar, more than half of July has passed, and summer vacation is really here. I have asked my cousin to help clean my hometown where I have not lived for a few days in a year, because I am worried that my grandma will make a fuss about returning to my hometown.

I planned to take my grandma, who watches dramas all day, out for a walk, but unfortunately, the epidemic is still there.

My grandma, who has stayed at home for most of the year, told me that she still likes to watch TV dramas in the summer. Sitting at home with a cattail leaf fan and watching TV dramas is a happy life.

My grandma spent most of the two years in Shenzhen watching TV series. She said that here, there is no need to be afraid of the autumn rain in her hometown, nor the winter after autumn. Maybe it is because of her old age. , in my hometown, I am afraid of the cold rain and coughing in the cold night.

Shenzhen is like spring all year round, with comfortable weather and one TV series after another. My grandma is so busy that she almost forgets about her family affairs. The only relatives she sees in front of her are me and my husband. , she seemed to no longer mention the rest of her relatives, including her youngest son.

This also makes me at a loss. Are you pretending not to let me worry about her, or do you let it go? Did she really guess that her youngest son, who had just turned 50, had been dead for two years? She won't blame my husband and I for hiding her for two years, right?

A gust of hot wind blew a leaf flying down, and I felt a desolate and helpless feeling in my heart. Think about why life is not like this. The leaves fall back to their roots, return to the earth, and dissolve into the soil.

Then I thought about it, looking at the 89-year-old man in front of me, happily watching TV series. You said, if watching TV series can make grandma forget her worries and sorrows, that’s fine.

Be content with what you have, cherish the present, don’t be anxious, don’t compare, live your own life like grandma, and follow life dramas, country dramas, and documentaries. The grandma in a foreign land cared about the people in the play, and she didn't seem to feel any inner emptiness or loneliness.

We have so much work to do, and there are still so many things at home and state that we have to care about. We still need to continue to learn, care for ourselves, not be anxious, not compare, and let ourselves go...