Talking about cold violence

People who have experienced cold violence are reluctant to recall that dark history. Cold violence causes serious self-cognitive imbalance and self-doubt, and thinks that this relationship is the result of not being good enough. So, let's meet, what is cold violence?

Cold violence is unclear, does not respond, refuses or accepts, and forcibly shields all intimate relationships.

What are the characteristics of people who practice cold violence?

1, extremely selfish and self-centered. The thinking logic of this kind of person is: "I don't want to talk about it now, I just don't talk about it, I don't care about your feelings." TA only cares about his own feelings, and your feelings are secondary to TA.

Second, I have no idea about the word sense of responsibility. TA doesn't understand that all the joys and sorrows in a relationship need to be solved and managed, but when TA has no sense of responsibility, he naturally won't consider whether you are too uncomfortable and can't sleep all night. As long as it can achieve the purpose of making you uncomfortable, TA feels that its purpose has been achieved.

Third, there is no emotional ability. In our daily life, even if we see a stranger crying, will we feel sorry for him? What's more, you are the closest person to TA. What makes you feel most uncomfortable is that TA doesn't even want to say "I'm in a bad mood and want to be alone for a while", because the purpose of TA is not to ease the relationship, but to make you chilling.

Fourth, in the emotional world, TA likes freedom rather than being bound. The logic of this kind of person is: "Why bring up something that bothers me again?" Why can't you give me some space? "You see, even the minimum respect can't give you. On the contrary, you will be polite to everyone except you and know that you are responding, but the longer you wait, the longer the cold violence will last.

Cold violence is actually a black hole that stifles the stickiness of relationships. In intimate relationships, the one who can practice cold violence must be the one with high value. This high value is a reference, not necessarily a high value. TA is a high value, and TA is standing in a high position. This is TA's subconscious mind. Ironically, TA often has this confidence, which is usually given by you. Speaking of which, I think of a particularly interesting thing. From the perspective of animals, cold violence is actually reasonable, because the purpose of cold violence is to teach each other a lesson and make their behavior more in line with their own wishes. This feature is particularly prominent in people's subconscious, but this feature does not only refer to cold violence, but cold violence is only one of its manifestations. We live in this world, and we will definitely do something about everything in this world. This behavior may be close, distant or aggressive. In these behaviors, when a certain behavior can make us achieve our goal, we will rush to do it, even at the expense of hurting each other. The subconscious will record this behavior, and the next time people encounter the same scene, they will automatically start these behaviors subconsciously, just like muscle memory, forming a precise blow to each other. From this point of view, if you make TA feel that the cold violence of TA is effective, without exception, TA will have it next time.

Any seemingly beautiful relationship will gradually become dull from enthusiasm in the baptism of years. This is the destination of all love. The essence of life is bumpy love, and love can last for a long time. What really keeps the feelings fresh is the consistency of two people's goals, TA's love for you and TA's sense of responsibility, and the maintenance of the relationship between the two people. The truly responsible person in the relationship, TA will be afraid that you are a little uncomfortable. And the person you are facing who is cold-blooded to you doesn't even realize that this has eased the relationship between you a little. Isn't your expectation for the future a mirage? Therefore, people should put down their expectations and throw away their habit of lying to themselves. Such as behind the cold violence. Maybe it's just that you don't love it. It's definitely not that simple. Essentially, there is something wrong with this person's quality. TA is like a black hole, constantly expanding a thing and pulling it into endless darkness. Therefore, when faced with cold violence, saving oneself is far more practical than trying to repair a relationship.

All people who break away from the cold and violent relationship should be thankful that they have been brave, otherwise they will consume not only your relationship, but also your life.