Why don't adults nowadays know how to refuse and can't refuse?

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He's embarrassed to embarrass you, why are you still embarrassed to refuse him?

In this world, people with thin skin are very disadvantaged, because they are embarrassed to trouble others, and they are often easily troubled by others.

There will be such a nice guy in almost every TV series. Everyone asks him for help in everything. It's natural to find him as a good hand. It seems that he is born as a screw, and he turns it wherever he needs it.

it's good to be helpful, but only if you are willing and you are keen to do it, rather than being kidnapped by others.

Because in this world, there are many people who push their luck. For the first time, out of courtesy, you helped him; The second time, out of mutual affection, you helped him; The third time, out of sympathy, you helped him again.

If nothing happens, this person will eat you for the rest of his life. One day, if you don't want to help him or can't help him, he will not only fail to understand and understand you, but also blame you and even slander you.

In order to help poor children go to school, singer Cong Fei has given more than 4 performances and donated more than 3 million yuan to help 183 poor children.

But when he got cancer, few people really cared about saying hello. Some said that he must have other motives, some urged him to get well quickly and make money, and some saw that he could no longer help, fearing that he would ask for something in return, and they didn't want to mention that he had been funded at all, and they didn't hear from him soon.

This is the greed and suspicion of human nature. When they get used to taking, your contribution becomes an obligation.

You suddenly collapsed and stopped funding. My child still has two years to graduate from college. What do you say?

You are the only one in the whole family who works in a big city, and it costs thousands a month. If you don't help your brother buy a house, who can help him?

You are single, and you have no activities at night anyway. Did you help me with this report? Or I'll die. Do you have the heart?

If a person uses morality, affection and weakness to kidnap you and embarrass you, believe me, he doesn't have to help him, but it's easiest to persuade you to help him.

Don't be a virgin, don't be too sympathetic to others, and don't be embarrassed to refuse. Those who ask you for help may live a hundred times better than you.

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If you really can't refuse, forget it. The big deal is that you turn to him for help!

among my relatives, I don't like Erbo the most, because he is a selfish person who only knows how to take and never understands others. His principle is that he would rather let others suffer than himself, and he will never do what he can ask others for help.

The uncle's family is in good financial condition. In recent years, the second uncle's family went to borrow money from him whenever something happened. Every time, they either stayed there crying and refused to leave, or moved their dead grandparents out.

We have a large family, but whenever his family needs manpower, he will come to our house to help people at the first time. My father is a cook, and as long as two guests come to his house, he will help my father to cook at their house. Every time I talk to a family outside the home, don't my family help my family? The worst thing is to look down on him and not give him face.

However, Ren Erbo doesn't dare to bother my sister-in-law because every time before he can say anything, her sister-in-law either cries and complains, or asks him for help first.

On one occasion, Erbo asked his sister-in-law to ask his cousin who works in a bank to find a job in the bank, but his cousin didn't even get into junior college, so it was impossible for him to work in a bank, but her sister-in-law unexpectedly agreed.

Before she finished speaking, Erbo made an excuse to slip away, and never bothered her sister-in-law again, because he knew that her sister-in-law was more troublesome than him.

some people just want to deal with a man as he deals with you.

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Giving someone roses, leaving a lingering fragrance in your hand, and helping others should be something that makes you feel happy and satisfied. If not, it will lose the original meaning of helping others.

Adults do have too many insincere and involuntary words. After all, the world of adults is never purely transparent. Adults can embarrass themselves, but they can't always embarrass themselves unless you want to lose your happiness forever.