In the future development, what will happen to children without friends and poor popularity?

Seeing that children are withdrawn, unable to make friends and not actively associate with others, many parents only know anxiety but don't know what to do.

The level of interpersonal skills almost determines the individual's sense of happiness and self-worth, so parents need to worry.

So, why are some children reluctant to associate with others or make friends? What can be done to improve children's social skills?

Why are some children reluctant to associate with others?

1. Parents don't associate with others.

Children's personality and behavior habits are greatly influenced by their parents. If parents don't associate with others, then in such a closed family environment, children will naturally not be willing to associate with others.

2. Excessive interference from parents

If parents interfere with their children's social behavior too much, it will dampen their social enthusiasm. For example, every time a child plays with a small partner, parents will say this to the child after returning home:

"Liang Liang robbed your toy, why don't you know what you are afraid of when you get it back";

"Don't you think he is a little unsanitary? His sleeves are dirty and he doesn't know how to wash his hands. You should play with him less in the future ";

Look at Rong Rong. He has a sweet mouth and can talk. Why do you always say nothing?

The children had a good time with their friends. When parents say this, they will have bad ideas for these friends. Slowly, children may become unsociable and can't play with everyone.

3. Parents' ineffective companionship

Invalid companionship or low-quality companionship means that parents are busy although they seem to be around their children. Parents play with their own mobile phones or computers, and children play with their own. There is little talk or even communication between children and parents.

A boy named Lele 10 in Jiangsu feels left out because his parents are too addicted to mobile phones and don't care about themselves at all. He ran away from home in a rage 10 many times, trying to prove his existence by running away from home.

However, even if the child ran 10 many times, Lele's parents still turned a blind eye.

Children are around, but parents have been playing mobile phones; Children run away from home and parents are still playing mobile phones. It seems that for parents, mobile phones are more important than their children.

If a child lacks care, warmth and companionship in the process of growing up, and the language and emotion he wants to express are always blocked, then he will gradually lose interest in interacting with others, will not take the initiative to care about others, and will become more and more passive in interpersonal communication, and his personality will become paranoid and withdrawn.

How to improve children's social skills

1. Encourage children to talk more.

Encourage your children to talk more. In daily life, you can tell your children what you did today and what interesting things happened. Then ask the children what they did today, how they felt about doing it, whether they were happy or not, what they gained, what they played with friends, what they ate today, what the teacher taught today, what games they played or other interesting and ordinary things.

Ask some simple and easy questions and let the child answer them, so that he will be willing to talk to you.

After a long time, children will take the initiative to tell their parents about all kinds of things that happened today and communicate with their parents actively. Parents must listen patiently and give encouragement and praise in due course.

Parents can also teach their children some simple pictures and talk, read simple stories with their children, and cultivate their language organization and expression skills.

2. Play parent-child games with your children.

You can often play parent-child games with children, because many games can exercise children's social skills such as communication skills, language skills and cooperation skills, such as ice-breaking games, flying chess, playing house and so on.

Games can teach children the most basic interpersonal skills, such as humility, helpfulness and tolerance. They not only learned skills, but also had a good time.

3. Take more children to amusement parks and other public places.

You can often take your children to children's amusement parks or participate in group activities, so that children can experience the experience of playing, playing games and queuing with many strange children. With more people in contact, children will not be afraid to associate with others, and there will be no psychological pressure when they contact people.

4. Children's positive motivation

Don't use negative language to children, and don't compare with other children. For example, this sentence says, "Look at Rong Rong, his mouth is so sweet that he can talk. Why don't you say a word? "

This will make children feel that they can't talk. Not only will it not inspire the child to speak, but it will make him afraid to speak from now on, and speaking becomes a kind of pressure.

Don't tell your child, "Socialization is very important. You will know when you enter the society. It is difficult for people who can't socialize to eat in society ... "This will not only have a positive effect, but also make him feel afraid of society.

"I think children like playing with you very much" and "Lily who lives next door especially wants to be good friends with you" can positively inspire children, who can understand and are willing to listen.