Don't get used to children's "problems", otherwise it will be difficult for parents to discipline them in the future.

Would you hit your child when he made a mistake as a child? Some parents especially don't admire "stick" education, even if their children make mistakes again, they just preach to them. Some parents think that "force" is still useful if children don't fight and don't hear about it. When it comes to how to discipline children, Professor Li Meijin, a child-rearing expert, once said that when it comes to the disadvantages of parental education, many parents are concerned about when they should and should not.

Professor Li Meijin said, "Parents don't care much about their children's mistakes when they were young. For example, when a child loses his temper and rolls on the ground, in the face of the child's "resistance", parents will choose to indulge and spoil. They always think that it is good for children to grow up and understand. But often when such children reach puberty at the age of 14 or 15, and their self-awareness is getting stronger and stronger, parents begin to discipline their children instead.

Because at this time, children will do more extreme things and will not listen to their parents. Serious will run away from home, jump off a building to commit suicide. At this time, parents will start to think about taking care of their children. But in the final analysis, the reason for this phenomenon is that Professor Li Meijin believes that adolescent children should receive spiritual education. At this time, it is wrong to keep a strict watch on children.

The real management of children should be when children are young, and parents should correct some bad behaviors when children are young in time, so that there will be no phenomenon that adolescence can't be managed. Professor Li Meijin believes that children's habits are gradually formed from the age of two, and parents can discipline their children from this point, and they must not have the mentality that children will grow up naturally.

1980, psychiatrists in London, England investigated 1000 local 3-year-old children. This study lasted for 23 years, and it was found that when they were 3 years old, their words and deeds were actually the same as when they were 26 years old. This study also means that the formation of a child's personality is decided at the age of 3. It also provides strong evidence for "looking at the old at the age of three and looking at the old at the age of seven".

In Professor Li Meijin's view, there are three behaviors that children should never get used to when they are young, and they should fight if necessary, otherwise it will be difficult to discipline them when they grow up.

1. likes to lie and steal.

If children have quality problems, parents must pay attention to them, especially lying and stealing. Some children will secretly take out some things when they go to other people's homes to play. Children may not realize the act of stealing, but simply want to have it. If parents don't correct their children's shortcomings at this time, what will happen in the future is beyond our imagination. If children have this kind of behavior, they must not get used to it. If necessary, we can also educate them with "sticks"

2. Crying threatens parents

Most children threaten their parents to meet their own needs by crying. It is not impossible for parents who compromise when their children cry to ask their parents to sell their kidneys and buy mobile phones during adolescence. If children have this bad habit when they are young, they must not get used to it. He can reason with children. If the reason doesn't make sense, he can also ignore the child. In short, he must not satisfy his children, so that they can grow up and be sensible.

3. Lose your temper and throw things.

In fact, the phenomenon of children losing their temper began to show signs when they were 1 year old, and it was often the most serious when they were 3 years old. At this point, the child may be accompanied by crying and throwing things. Once there is dissatisfaction, there will be such a performance. Parents should never take it seriously. You know, "three years old, seven years old" is not just talk. Science has proved that children's childhood personality will directly affect their adult personality. If you don't want your child to be grumpy, you must correct the problem of hours and don't get used to it.