Why do you always feel too stressed?

What should I do if I always feel stressed? 》

Each of us is more or less stressed. But everyone's reaction to things is very different, which is closely related to the maturity of personality and the degree of cognition gained by receiving education.

Everything has two sides, good and bad, and so does stress. Often some pressure plays a role in urging you, stimulating you and keeping you alive.

Your living conditions are not bad for a 32-year-old young man. There is a suite, no loan, and the deposit is 65438+ 10,000. The salary of you and your lover is 65,438+10,000 yuan per month! You know, at your age, there are not many people who have a family and a career, and there are many neets.

Your pressure comes from the support of the elderly and the education of your children. According to your current income, it is still possible to plan to come.

It seems that you are a young man with a strong sense of being ahead of the times and being prepared for danger in times of peace, and you have a clear goal plan for the future. So you are very strict with yourself and put a lot of pressure on yourself!

There is such a story:

A lecturer is giving a class to the students, and everyone is listening carefully. A deep voice came from the silent classroom: "How much do you think this glass of water weighs?" Say, the lecturer picked up a glass of water. Some people say 200 grams, others say 300 grams. "Yes, only two hundred grams. So, how long can you hold this glass of water in your hand? " The lecturer asked again. Many people laughed: only 200 grams. How long will it take? The lecturer didn't laugh, and then he said, "Take a minute, you must feel no problem;" After taking it for an hour, you may feel sore hands; Take a day off? How about a week? Then you may have to call an ambulance. " Everyone laughed again, but this time it was an approving smile.

The lecturer continued: "In fact, this glass of water is very light, but the longer you hold it, the heavier it will feel." . It's like putting pressure on your body No matter whether the pressure is heavy or not, you will feel more and more heavy and unbearable after a long time. What we must do is to put down this glass of water and take a rest before picking it up. Only in this way can we hold it longer. Therefore, we should put down the pressure at the right time, have a good rest, and then pick it up again, so that we can bear it for a longer time. "

What a good metaphor! Sometimes, when you feel the pressure is inevitable, you might as well take a vacation to relax, go shopping, read books, listen to music, attend parties, or take a trip to yourself and adjust your mind before continuing.

If you still feel that your current income does not reach your living standard. Then try harder. There are many ways to make money online now, such as video delivery and live selling, which can be done after work.

No matter how life is, a person's mentality is very important. With a good attitude, the pressure will be less!

Need to vent properly, you can find good friends, relatives, or psychological counselors.

Understand your stress, but think about it:

First, at present, your stress mainly comes from the elderly and children. For the elderly, it's no use being afraid. Come if you should, and come if you shouldn't. There won't be any thoughts. Maybe they live a long and healthy life and don't need too much care from you. Even if you need care, you still have a husband and two children. They are old and will help you take care of the elderly.

Second, it is the pressure of two sons. We should not only support them, but also help them get married. In fact, when children grow up, they will also work to earn money. I remember that my brother was going to study for a doctorate. My mother didn't know where she heard that the tuition fee was 40 thousand. It was 2004, and my mother said, don't go. Because my annual income was less than 4000 yuan, and my family's food income was very small. It's just that my brother was admitted to the free direct blog. Not only does he not have to pay a penny for tuition, but he can also get a monthly subsidy of more than 1000. So don't be afraid, everything will work out.

Third, you have a suite now, with no loan and 65,438+10,000 deposits. You know, people in their thirties, those who don't have a house, pay back their mortgages and car loans more. A colleague of mine has a car loan of more than 4000 yuan a month. She has a regular job and can only earn 3000 yuan. Her husband's income is unstable, but it will not exceed her, and he has to raise two children. Isn't it more stressful?

Fourth, actively explore new income channels. Keep learning, and when your ability to make money becomes stronger and stronger, you won't be under pressure. Your children's clothing store can consider combining the Internet, short videos, Taobao, JD.COM and Pinduoduo, and perhaps there will be unexpected gains.

In a word, you have more than enough now, study more and get busy, so you don't need so much. If you improve your sales ability, it will get better and better. Come on!

1. Face up to the reality in your heart and don't be overwhelmed by it. There is no word "easy" in the adult world. Don't complain, just do it.

Objectively speaking, your living conditions are not bad. First of all, if you have a house and no mortgage, you won't worry about how to repay the mortgage and deposit every month. Secondly, you all have jobs. Although you are not rich, at least you won't worry about your livelihood. So objectively speaking, your pressure is not great at present, so don't worry too much.

The business you said is not very good, and there is no dividend. I suggest that you can take care of your business while learning a skill or taking a test, which can not only improve yourself, but also increase your income.

Your stress may come from your husband's life in two places. Nobody listens to you when you're worried? When you feel that the pressure can't be relieved, you can chat with your girlfriends, take your children out to play, and cultivate a hobby, such as square dance.

This year's epidemic, let us understand that as long as the body is healthy and the family is safe, it is the greatest happiness, and the rest are just clouds. Do you think I'm right?

As an adult, I will face many problems. I can no longer rely on my parents as I did when I was a child. I have to solve everything by myself, so I feel a lot of pressure.

Feeling stressed generally comes from three aspects:

I. Economic income

Marriage and children, buying a house and a car, daily consumption, and the elderly have to support them, so their income is limited, so there will be economic pressure.

Second, the workplace.

In the unit, business should be done well, the relationship between colleagues should be handled well, and the relationship between superiors and subordinates should be handled well. No matter where something goes wrong, there will be unexpected consequences, so the work level will feel pressure.

Third, family life.

After marriage, there are lovers, children and loving parents. There are many people and many things.

These trivial family matters involve a lot of time and energy, and naturally feel great pressure.

In the face of these pressures, how to alleviate them? I think we can try the following methods:

1. Listen to some lullabies in the evening.

When you are stressed, you often can't sleep well at night. Listen to some soothing lullabies before going to bed, or listen to the sound of running water in nature, or the singing of birds in the forest. This kind of music can be found in mobile phones, which is very effective in relieving stress.

2. find a time to relax with friends

For example, go to the wild, karaoke bars and bars. This method can't be done every day, but once a week or ten days and a half is more suitable.

3. communicate with your lover more.

Tell your lover about your distress and stress. Generally speaking, a lover can understand himself, and his comfort can be greatly relieved.

4. Participate in extracurricular activities

Take part in painting, calligraphy, chess and sports activities. Once you get into it, the environment changes, the atmosphere is different, and you won't always think about your own worries, so the pressure will naturally be forgotten. If you can persist, this method is generally more effective.

5. When you are extremely depressed, find a place where no one is there, make a hullabaloo about or cry, and let it out completely.

Psychologists did an experiment to measure blood pressure immediately after people cried. The results showed that the blood pressure was lower after crying than before. Of course, crying is not suitable for too many times.

Both methods can relieve stress. However, if you want to completely relax your mind and spirit, you must face the pressure with a positive attitude, enhance your self-confidence, turn pressure into motivation, and constantly improve your ability to resist pressure.

At present, it's ok. Worry about the future and live the present.

I think you are very good. Children with savings are still young, and the elderly should be healthy. Mainly to adjust the mentality, and slowly learn to manage the business in the store. You don't need to worry too much now.

First of all, business is bad. It is necessary to analyze whether it has been bad before or affected by the epidemic. If it was not good before, you should find out the reason, whether it is because the geographical location is too biased, the flow of people is low, or because you have the wrong supply, such as poor quality or high price. Find out the problem and then find a way. If it is a problem of supply, try to run upstream more. Good quality and low price will definitely be popular. If it is affected by the epidemic, most physical stores are losing money now, but they can't sit still. For example, old customers can adapt to online sales, turn new customers into old customers and diversify their sales methods. You can also sell it with some small things like socks and umbrellas, which doesn't take up space. In summer, you can put a freezer at the door to sell cold drinks or something, that is, while increasing the sales of existing children's shoes, the methods can be flexible and diverse. In short, you can't stick to the rules, there will always be ways to change the status quo. If you sigh blindly and do nothing, you will only feel more and more pressure and worse mood, and even affect the harmony of the whole family.

In addition, when people reach middle age, the pressure is self-evident. There is a saying that people are not as good as dogs in middle age, which is very vivid. At this age, there are old people and young people, but the income is meager. In fact, most middle-aged people are not very satisfied. They should be calm. They think that your parents raised you in this way, and they have experienced the hardships you have experienced. Maybe it was harder than you during that time, and you didn't even have to worry about eating. Life is not easy. You should learn to be flexible and adjust your mentality so that your parents won't worry with you. Let children go to school carefree, give them a happy and complete childhood, work hard, actively change the status quo, and even engage in a second career. If the business in the store is still not good after the modification, it is necessary to get out in time, stop loss in time, change direction and find other ways to make money. There are thousands of ways to make money, depending on whether you have found one that suits you. You can observe and use your head more, and you can also communicate with your husband more. There is no problem that cannot be solved. Only by actively adapting, adjusting their mentality, comforting their parents and bringing their children a positive and optimistic attitude towards life will the family be harmonious and everything will be fine.

Sometimes, pressure is also a kind of motivation. Don't be depressed, adjust your mentality and actively try to find ways to change the status quo. Things will always get better and better. Opportunities will always favor those who put their minds to it, turn bad things into good things, and those who work hard will not be too unlucky. Your luck may be waiting for you at the next intersection. Wish you success!

Exercise can relieve stress in moderation. When you feel stressed, put down your work and exercise. This kind of sports can be running, playing basketball and so on. Exercise can make you sweat and vent some emotions in your heart. When you finish your exercise, you will feel better after sweating and taking a hot bath.

Long sleep and high-pressure work will make people's brains very tired, so you can sleep a little longer when you feel stressed. Only when you get enough sleep can your brain work normally and your mood return to calm.

Find someone to chat with. Don't stay at home alone when you feel stressed in life. Go out to chat with friends, brag and drink. You will find that everyone's life is not easy, and everyone has their own pressures and responsibilities.

Travel If you are under great pressure and can't work and live normally, go on vacation and travel. Go to different places, see different scenery, eat different foods, listen to different stories and completely relax yourself.

Finally, look at that beautiful little girl.

When people reach middle age, they are old and young, so we must adjust our mentality and face it positively. They always feel that too much pressure is easy to make them insane, open their minds, be optimistic, live a better life, be happy every day and everything is fine.