Why are some people easy to talk to and others difficult to talk to? Is being accommodating an advantage or a disadvantage?

People are inherently different in personality. First of all, we should realize that it is normal to talk more and talk less. Just because others can speak, you are not as good as others. Everyone has his own strengths.

If you really want to improve your eloquence, it is one thing to read relevant books, but to put it bluntly, there is no secret. You still need to talk more. At first, you can talk to your acquaintances more to make yourself more talkative. The next step is to try to find a topic to chat with when you are in contact with strangers. On the one hand, finding a topic requires your own strong insight in life, on the other hand, you need to accumulate knowledge at ordinary times. For example, someone usually dabbles in geography, so when he talks with strangers, he can break the strange situation by talking about each other's hometown, and the words will gradually increase. Of course, that kind of generalist (that is, someone who knows something about all aspects) will talk a lot when chatting with people, and often become the focus of conversation at the dinner table, because they know a lot, and they know everything wherever they talk.

In short, if you want to become fluent, you should first consciously change your habit of talking less, and then exercise your associative thinking ability (so that you can constantly associate with new topics when chatting, which is gradually exercised when chatting with people), and pay attention to accumulating more knowledge in all aspects at ordinary times.