Tell me what's special between the sisters-in-law, and I will have a wonderful work.

Someone said, "Brother, sister-in-law." This is not true, but it does show that the most tense and difficult thing in family relations is probably the contradiction between sister-in-law and this contradiction will inevitably be reflected in brotherly relations and family relations. Therefore, helping sisters-in-law to establish a harmonious relationship and reasonably solve their contradictions will help to deal with the relationship between brothers and the whole family. So, why is the relationship between sister-in-law the hardest to get along with? What is the reason? First, we don't know each other and are suspicious of each other. Because sisters-in-law don't live together since childhood like brothers and sisters, their emotional foundation is not as deep as brothers and sisters, and their temper, hobbies and specialties don't know each other like brothers and sisters, so they are prone to be wary and suspicious. In addition, they do more housework and have more contact with each other, so it is easy to expose ideas that can't be put on the table, resulting in contradictions and frictions. Second, selfish, caring about things. When a person becomes a daughter-in-law and steps into the door of her husband's family, the first thing that comes to mind is not how to maintain and develop this big family, but how to separate from each other earlier. They often think: they are not fools to be separated anyway. As a result, brothers and sisters haggle over every ounce, do little in common and eat little. They choose whatever they can, just to take advantage of "everyone" Some sisters-in-law are afraid that they will suffer. They want to get the upper hand in everything and refuse to give in at all. Often you think she does little, and she thinks you don't pay much; You say her mother-in-law is eccentric, and she says her father-in-law is eccentric; You said that her child was ill-bred, and she said that your child lacked a string. A little thing, you can talk endlessly. Even cursing and refuting. The contradiction between them turned into a fast knot, and finally they couldn't live together and had to break up. In order to change the above-mentioned tense relationship between brother and sister, we must pay attention to the following two points: first, help brother and sister to establish deep feelings and properly resolve contradictions. This requires brothers to do more work, educate their lovers to be open-minded, don't haggle over personal gains and losses, and correctly treat the problems that are prone to conflicts between their sisters-in-law. For example, when parents are old, it is difficult to help their daughter-in-law do some housework and raise their children. In this case, they should not only care about themselves, but also calculate their own small accounts and make irresponsible remarks. For another example, parents often help their daughter-in-law who has difficulties in life, so they should understand their parents' kindness, don't be jealous and don't be dull. In addition, when brothers are separated, they should educate their lovers to carry forward their style of work and be willing to suffer losses when dealing with family property distribution and supporting their parents. In this way, the contradiction between the sisters-in-law will naturally decrease and the feelings will naturally be harmonious. Second, sisters-in-law should be considerate of each other, be kind to others and think more of each other. Between sisters-in-law, humility is the most important. Everyone has self-esteem, and the self-esteem between sister-in-law is stronger. If everyone wants to get the upper hand, there will be a situation where the needle is pointed at the wheat, which will inevitably make the relationship stiff. If everyone can be considerate and modest, things will be easy. For example, do those heavy and dirty jobs at home, and try to give them to each other when something good happens. If there is something delicious, let the other person eat more. If you have good material, you'd rather not give it to each other yourself. If there are fewer theater tickets and movie tickets, you should show them to the other party. Your in-laws will give you anything your partner wants, without asking for anything in return or jealousy. Your in-laws will look after the children for each other, give money, don't talk, don't care, and so on. This is not a weakness, it just shows that your style is noble. As the saying goes, "people's hearts change for people's hearts", "You respect me one foot and I respect you one foot". In this way, things will be easy. Especially when you meet a caring aunt, if one side actively and enthusiastically helps the other side, the relationship between the two sides will gradually improve. We have heard that there is such a pair of younger sisters-in-law, who used to be very estranged, especially the younger sister-in-law, who has a great opinion and doesn't even step on the threshold of her brother's and sister-in-law's family. We'll talk about it later. When my sister-in-law gave birth, my brother and sister-in-law took the initiative to visit her enthusiastically, helped her, personally sent her to the health center, took good care of her, and sent delicious food to her chubby nephew and made new clothes. My sister-in-law was moved, and the original opinion disappeared invisibly. After that, they became a pair of good sisters-in-law praised by people from far and near, and their brothers became closer. Sister-in-law enters a family from different families, with different living habits, personality hobbies and so on, and some even have great differences. But this can't be the reason why we can't get along. A family is also a small group. We should make concerted efforts in Qi Xin to safeguard this small collective and build this family into a friendly and warm small collective. This requires the two brothers and sisters to take care of the overall situation, pay attention to style, be less suspicious, care less, care for each other and respect each other. Be a sister-in-law, a sister, a comrade, live in harmony and get along well. Even if it is necessary to be apart, we should be apart amicably, and we should be close to each other.