The wife won't let her husband support her brother-in-law, and she will divorce after throwing pots and pans. Should I divorce Mo's wife?

It is said that men don't marry the wives of "elder brothers", and many men are afraid to meet the wives of "elder brothers" because they often meet such women. For men, their married life can only be described as "miserable".

A woman who often "helps her brother" doesn't have a small family in her eyes. She's just her mother's family. She couldn't wait to empty the house to fill her family and brother, so she was called brother's helper.

In fact, such a woman is really terrible.

Husband and wife live together. If Qi Xin can't work together with Qi Xin to fight for the small family, the final result will definitely be that the small family is unhappy and the relationship between husband and wife is very hurt.

Some women regard taking care of their younger brothers and parents as their responsibilities and obligations, and even feel that if they marry a man, then the man has to follow himself and have obligations to the family together.

This idea is wrong. Because there is no good in this world for no reason, if a woman can't help her family after marriage, the final serious consequences are often irreparable.

Wang Tao (a pseudonym) has been married for five years this year. He and his wife were childhood friends, neighbors and classmates when they were young.

Wang Tao's wife Guo Ling (a pseudonym) is a very beautiful girl, so Wang Tao likes her very much since she was a child.

At an early age, Wang Tao always acted as a "escort" beside Guo Ling. She went to school as a child and dropped out of school. Although two people don't walk together, Wang Tao has been following Guo Ling, silently protecting Guo Ling.

Later in junior high school, they were not in the same class, but every time after class, Guo Ling would see Wang Tao standing at the door of his class. At that time, Wang Tao had a good friend in Guo Ling's class. Wang Tao always went to Guo Ling on the grounds of finding a good friend.

Of course, Guo Ling also knows that Wang Tao likes herself, and she doesn't hate Wang Tao. Only at that time, neither of them revealed "emotional things."

After all, they are only junior high school students. Even if they have feelings, they can only be called "good feelings" at best.

02

Later, the two went to high school and college respectively. During this period, because we didn't see each other often, we met two or three times a year. Naturally, our feelings faded, so that they both fell in love separately.

But just after graduating from college, their relationship ended and they both went back to their hometown to work.

Among them, there are also many people who introduce each other to each other. It is also wonderful to say that fate is a thing, and the object introduced by others is really not fancy.

In fact, at that time, there was already some connection between two people, but they were still testing each other to see if the other person was still single.

Finally, Wang Tao broke enough. Wang Tao took the initiative to make an appointment with Guo Ling and confessed. The last two people naturally came together.

Because both families are people who know the root of the matter, it is natural to get married.

When Wang Tao and Guo Ling got married, Guo Ling's younger brother just went to college. Wang Tao grew up watching this brother-in-law, so Wang Tao got along well with this brother-in-law, who always liked his brother-in-law and cried short.

Later, Wang Tao did not spend less money on his brother-in-law. As long as he comes back from vacation, take him out to eat and drink and buy him clothes or something. Sometimes my brother-in-law spends too much on living expenses to tell his family, so he calls Wang Tao directly.

Because Wang Tao loves my house and my dog, he gave the money to his brother-in-law without saying anything. There was not much money to subsidize my brother-in-law at that time. Most importantly, Wang Tao thought my brother-in-law was going to college and didn't make money, so he didn't care.

But who would have thought that this brother-in-law finally reached out and asked his brother-in-law for money, which actually formed a habit, so that after graduating from college, he often reached out and asked his brother-in-law for money.

When I first graduated, I said that I had no money to rent a house and needed the support of my brother-in-law. At that time, Wang Tao also felt normal, but he also told my brother-in-law that since I had gone to work, I needed him to pay back the borrowed money.

Although Guo Ling and his brother-in-law were very angry at that time, Wang Tao stuck to his principles. Because, he has his own plans. If he always indulges his brother-in-law, he will hurt him instead of helping him.

03

Brother-in-law said that Wang Tao was a stingy brother-in-law, and his wife also said that he was too picky. He also said that it was his brother-in-law's responsibility to help him.

Wang Tao wanted to explain, but Guo Ling's attitude was always outrageous, and Wang Tao gave up the explanation for the time being. He hoped that Guo Ling and his brother-in-law, or his parents-in-law, would understand their difficulties, and that they would wake up as soon as possible and help a person who was asking for money. That's not helping, but hurting.

Later, when my brother-in-law saw that Wang Tao couldn't get the money, he began to ask his parents for it. Wang Tao's parents-in-law are working-class, and they get a little pension every month, which is not enough for his brother-in-law to invite people to dinner and sing.

My parents-in-law really understand Wang Tao's difficulties, but they can't beat this disappointing son, so they can only compromise every time.

Later, my brother-in-law broke a man's head because of drinking and fighting, and the other party demanded compensation of 20 thousand yuan. My brother-in-law was scared to death. Calling his parents and sister is bound to be scolded, so he turned to Wang Tao for help.

After Wang Tao answered the phone, he went to the bank to withdraw money, and then went to find his brother-in-law. Although the money was given to my brother-in-law, I made him sign an iou.

Wang Tao told his brother-in-law, "I can take this money for you. You can give it to me if you are short of money in the future." But you have to pay it back. In the past, I just paid lip service, but now I have to write an iou and press my handprint every time I borrow money. Don't worry, I won't force you to pay back the money in a hurry, as long as you give me 1000 every month. "

In fact, what Wang Tao means is that he hopes his brother-in-law can find a job safely. After all, he is an adult and can't count on others for everything. Especially in the future, you have to find a girlfriend to get married. If you develop the habit of "parasitism", you won't even get a wife in the end.

Although he told the truth, his brother-in-law wouldn't listen. However, he still found a job. After all, when he asked his brother-in-law Wang Tao for money again, he didn't want it, but borrowed it, and he had to write an iou.

I thought my brother-in-law earned his own money and didn't have to supplement it himself, but otherwise, his brother-in-law had various reasons besides renting a house.

For example, even if he is paid, he will not spend enough. The reason is: "Brother-in-law, I am still practicing, and I can't even support myself every month. Please help me first. "

Actually, Wang Tao is not stupid. He didn't look like a brother-in-law when he recalled that he had just graduated. So I didn't want to give money, but Guo Ling thought what my brother said was reasonable, and always thought that my brother's money was reasonable, so even if Wang Tao didn't want to give it, Guo Ling handed it over directly.

04

That doesn't count. Later, Wang Tao felt that although his brother-in-law was working to earn money, he reached out to them for money more and more times and the amount was getting bigger and bigger, but Guo Ling didn't think it was a problem.

So Wang Tao thought, if you want to stop your brother-in-law's behavior, you must make up your mind.

Later, when my brother-in-law called again to borrow money or ask for money, Wang Tao simply said that there was no money.

It is said that changing one's face is faster than turning pages. Before, my brother-in-law was always sweet-talking in front of him. Now I see that my brother-in-law has completely stopped giving money, and he has changed his face directly, and the good things before my brother-in-law have been written off.

Even later, my brother-in-law pointed directly at Wang Tao and said, "Brother-in-law, since you are married to my sister, you should support me."

Wang Tao listened to his brother-in-law and told him directly: "I am your brother-in-law, but I am not your father. It is natural for me to raise your sister, but I have no obligation to raise you. A big man works for two years and needs someone else to support him. Aren't you ashamed? " As a man, you don't even have the minimum responsibility and responsibility. How can I get married and have children and support my family in the future? "

In fact, there is nothing wrong with what Wang Tao said. He also hoped that his brother-in-law would be mature, but this brother-in-law directly denied all Wang Tao's words because Wang Tao didn't give money. He felt that a thousand words were an excuse for Wang Tao not to give himself money.

Even in the end, my brother-in-law still wants to go to Guo Ling, but Guo Ling is naturally biased towards his younger brother and quarrels with Wang Tao.

Guo Ling quarreled with Wang Tao and said, "My brother is still young. Why don't you support him?" ? He is my brother. Now that you are married to me, you must raise him! "

Looking at Guo Ling's outrageous attitude, Wang Tao finally refused to continue to be patient. Seeing this, Guo Ling angrily began to smash pots and pans at home and divorced Wang Tao.

Wang Tao looked at Guo Ling who was going to be "crazy" and shook his head and said, "It's not that I haven't helped him. See how old he is. I am the same age as him. He has hands and feet. Why should he expect others to help him in everything? Since you want to abandon our small family for your brother, fine, I'll help you. Leave. "

In this way, in an irrational state, Wang Tao and Guo Ling's five-year marriage came to an end.

05

In fact, in this marriage, Wang Tao's idea is correct, but he is a little too soft-hearted in practice. If he refused to "help" this "giant baby" brother-in-law from the beginning, I'm afraid the outcome would be different.

And Guo Ling, in this marriage, is the most regrettable person. There is a husband who has loved her so much since childhood. Instead, she feels that her husband should take it for granted to be kind to herself. Not only that, but she also feels that since her husband has married himself, she should raise her younger brother.

Although it is natural for an elder sister to be kind to her younger brother, it can also reflect the harmonious feelings between brother and sister. However, if you treat your brother well on the basis of "connivance", it is not really good, but "fake good" that will make him "decadent"

A few months later, Guo Ling regretted his original impulse.

Because when she moved back to her mother's house, her brother was still in a state of "gnawing at the old" and his parents could not help him. He always wanted to ask Guo Ling for money.

No matter how much Guo Ling repents, it won't help. Even if Wang Tao still has her in his heart, he can promise to remarry with her, but if she can't introspect and let her brother get rid of the problem of "parasitism", then they will still face all kinds of quarrels, and finally the marriage will come to an end.

Perhaps, a disappointment can be forgiven and redeemed, but once again, the other party is no longer patient.

In fact, many families will have such problems.

Marriage involves two families. If there really is a brother-in-law who is not sensible and a wife who helps his brother, I am afraid that the life of a man will be really sad.