Can’t eat grapes and say sour grapes

Self-deprecation can resolve a person’s situation and create a happy atmosphere for everyone to get together;

Self-deprecation can resolve conflicts between people and make them get along more harmoniously;

Self-deprecation is a kind of self-denial, a helpless choice to relieve yourself from the embarrassing atmosphere;

Self-deprecation is a kind of self-affirmation, and it is also a kind of courage to put your imperfections in front of the public performance.

Sometimes, we encounter too many difficulties and too many losses. When we are alone, we can try to laugh at ourselves.

Laugh at yourself: Why do you insist on caring about the ideas imposed on you by others;

Laugh at yourself: Why do you have to talk about the rights and wrongs when others don’t understand you;

Laugh at yourself: Why do you talk about loneliness, but in the eyes of others, you are asking for boredom.

Of course, when you understand how to laugh at yourself, your hypocritical heart will relax and you will gain more happiness.

Ah Q, written by Mr. Lu Xun, is the founder of the highest level of self-deprecation.

He uses different self-deprecating methods to carefully maintain his self-esteem and compensate for his inferiority. In medicine, this is called a psychological defense mechanism. This defense mechanism is created to eliminate our Internal pain, tension, embarrassment, and guilt.

There is also a saying in the popular sense that "grapes are said to be sour if you can't eat them".

But from another perspective, if Ah Q had money and status, he might have a different face and a different pattern. His inferiority complex is caused by both social reasons and his own reasons.

In response to the saying that "the times make heroes," Ah Q became a "hero" of that era.

There is a popular saying in the circle now: "If you don't have enough IQ, you need to have EQ to make up for it. If IQ and EQ are not enough, then your background must be enough!"

Many people often praise a person for his ability. He speaks, communicates, and does things well. Maybe you think this is "high emotional intelligence", but in fact, you don't understand. Behind this, he is trying to find a balance point that makes others comfortable without wronging himself, and makes fun of himself to please others.

Speaking of self-deprecation and complaints, "Tucao Conference" is the first of its kind. The first time I watched "Tucao Conference" was the husband-and-wife team of Wang Zulan and Li Yanan.

The love story between Wong Cho Lam and Li Yanan has always been as beautiful as a fairy tale. In line with the purpose of "restoring the truest star to the greatest extent", the program team specially arranged Li Yanan to be the guest of complaint.

As the person who knows Wong Cho Lam best, Li Yanan’s complaints are undoubtedly convincing.

It is well known that men are 12 centimeters taller than Lam without wearing high heels. The program crew seized on this point and made the scene of the complaint conference very popular. Li Yanan complained that Wong Cho Lam "has a lot of hair under her breasts" feet", but she accepted the fact.

In response, Wong Cho Lam also complained that his wife Li Yanan loves taking pictures. He urges himself to take photos of her all the time. If he neglects her a little, he will say: "Wang Cho Lam did you take the photo? If you don't, just jump up." ! ”

Don’t look at each other’s complaints on the surface, but in fact, if you take a closer look, this is obviously a show of affection. Spreading the "dog food" all over the place, the majority of netizens had no choice but to say, "We can just quietly watch you two being happy!"

Self-deprecation is a humorous way of speaking, a kind of A humorous attitude towards life, a way of psychological adjustment, and a manifestation of wisdom in life. If there is a lack of self-deprecation in life, life may become very tiring.

Although he is teasing his wife about her love for shopping and taking selfies, she is actually still "laughing at herself" about her height.

As the first husband and wife team since the launch of "Tucao Conference", the "love and death" between Wang Zulam and Li Yanan also proved what "love is naturally dark when it is deep".

Wong Cho Lam once said, "I don't mind if girls are taller than me and have a better career than me, because when I look up at others, others are also looking down at me." This sentence is still fresh in Li Yanan's memory. Not because it's touching, but because "I really don't mind!"

Just as Wang Zulan said in the complaint conference: "I love you, so I will complain about you."

But I also want to add: "I love you, so I laugh at myself!"

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