People go fishing in middle age.

When people go fishing in middle age, what they want most is silence, but there is another leisure activity besides that, that is fishing. Of course, fishing is not to eat fish, but to pass the time and wait for the years to be quiet. The following sharers go fishing in middle age.

How difficult is it for people to fish in middle age?

Who is the fisherman? It is estimated that middle-aged people account for a large part. In fact, fishermen can find that there are many middle-aged people fishing by the river on Sunday, especially those around the age of 35, accounting for a large part. I saw them sitting by the river sweating. Whether they could catch fish or not, they were very busy, but they couldn't tell how bitter they were.

On February 6, the man suddenly bought a brand fishing box, and his wife questioned the hidden money. Only after checking the surveillance did I know that she had been picking up garbage for a month! In the video, the man is rummaging through the trash can with a woven bag, looking for items that can be recycled and sold. He's very focused!

Although this is not the status quo of most fishermen, it is estimated to be similar! Take me for example, if my wife finds out that I bought a fishing rod, she will say, you are over 20, how can you still buy it? How much fishing gear do you have at home? I can't put it down right away. With so many fishing rods, I can make do with them. What a waste of money!

Actually, fishing is really expensive. No matter whether you can catch fish in a day, at least dozens of dollars are gone! Oil money, breakfast, snacks brought at noon, bait money, nest money, water money, etc. Even if you can't catch fish, at least 70-80 yuan a day! This is still the case when the wild fishing distance is relatively close.

These are just the costs of wild fishing. If the cost of fishing in the black pit is higher, the pond fee in the black pit is 200, the bait fee is 50, and the medicine fee is 20. Other miscellaneous things are really too expensive! If you are lucky, it will be good to get half a fish back. If you are unlucky, you will lose a few fish. It's too hard to get it all back!

Apart from these costs, the cost of fishing gear is the smallest. A set of 3.6-7.2-meter fishing rods doesn't cost much, but fishermen all have a big fish dream and like to catch big fish, and the cost of catching big fish is higher. In addition to the big fishing rod, we must continue to make nests, and the nest material for one week is at least 1000 yuan!

This is all money, and it is normal for family members to have opinions. I think it is also a good choice for fishermen to arrange their fishing time reasonably. If they have time, don't run to the river, spend more time with their families, or take their families for an outing by the river. As long as you have the heart, I believe they will go.

What is marriage? It is mutual respect, mutual tolerance, mutual understanding and mutual support that can lead to a happy and long-term marriage, instead of haggling over every ounce. The phenomenon of buying fishing gear can also see the essence of marriage!

In fact, everyone can find that there are two reasons for the end of marriage. One is haggling over every ounce, and the other is controlling. Haggle over every ounce, infinitely magnify each other's shortcomings, and fail to see each other's advantages. This noisy marriage is hard to come to the end!

The other person always wants to control the other person, from food, clothing, housing and transportation to making money and paying bills, and always wants to be his brain. In the end, it is difficult to grow old together, because everyone has his own personality, whether male or female, who can endure for a while but not for a lifetime.

Two middle-aged fishermen bought fishing rods, but they didn't count, and his wife also checked the monitoring!

When someone first started learning to fish, it might be as a child. Some people may learn to fish in middle age. Of course, some people even learn to fish when they are old. Today we will talk about fishermen who catch fish from young to middle age.

At this point, someone will definitely ask, what is there to talk about? Isn't it just a few years more than others? We can't go fishing today. Let's talk about the helplessness of middle-aged fishing! In fact, when I first started learning to fish, everyone thought fishing was free!

Take a fishing rod in your hand, get some bait and a handful of hemp, and you can fish for a day! In fact, it was the same when I first learned to fish, but it wasn't. Why? I found that from the moment I started fishing, the fishing tackle changed one crop after another.

In order to fish, I spend more money than buying clothes for myself, and I am also very hard on myself at ordinary times! But once you come fishing, you are willing to spend money! To this end, my family is very strict with me! I would rather not give me money than ask my family for it. And every time, I have to explain what the money is for!

Let yourself have no control, in the final analysis! Or because of spending money indiscriminately, I now look after a lot of fishing tackle at home! And many of them have never been used, they are all a pile of dust! Think back, too! Why bother? Fishing is just for fun. I made my family unhappy and spent a lot of money for nothing.

So, give some advice to fishing friends. Fishing tackle can be bought, but it should be selected according to the actual situation. Don't buy it back or spend money indiscriminately. In short, don't let your family treat you as a "prisoner" just because you buy it indiscriminately. Maybe everyone thinks I'm exaggerating Don't rush to share the experience of a friend around me with fishing friends. You'll change your mind after reading it!

My friend Lao Li is also a fisherman! Usually very thin, but buying fishing tackle is definitely the first! As long as something new comes out, the price you can accept is absolutely unambiguous! Moreover, people buy things, throw them away after only three uses, or put them in fishing gear shops for others to use, so people give them the nickname "Li Maybe".

Every time I buy fishing tackle, I either take it from someone else's hand, or someone gives it to me, or I spend very little money on it. Let everyone believe it twice, and the family will not believe it after a long time! Gradually, Lao Li lost his financial ability. But it won't be particularly tight, sometimes you don't have to ask for a salary of tens of dollars!

Who would have thought that the last few days? Lao Li bought a fishing rod to take home. I was scolded by my wife for a long time, but I still watched the monitoring at home for a long time. The purpose is very simple, that is, to see where the money comes from, whether it is taken from home or hidden by yourself.

Lao Li is too passive to accept! Then I had a drink in the evening and revealed my grievances. After listening to it, I also deeply realized that after middle age, people spend more and have lower earning power. Therefore, sometimes it can be redeemed, but also consider the feelings of family members, not just yourself!

To put it bluntly, it's still your own problem. It is a good habit not to spend money or buy things indiscriminately! There won't be such a problem, so it is suggested that more people who learn to fish should be cautious when buying fishing gear, buy it after it is used up or broken, and don't buy anything when they see it.

People go fishing in middle age. Every 40-year-old man will go fishing.

It's a bit awkward for a 25-year-old to comment on a 40-year-old. After reading ridiculous words, as a young man, I think about my relationship with the world and my future appearance in 15 years.

An Aha video tells such a scene in the article "Night fishing is the last refuge for middle-aged men":

A large number of night fishermen gather near the moat and reservoir in Beijing. With Mazar and fishing rod, many people will sit until dawn.

In the dark, half-dead faces are immersed in the water. If you don't walk in, you can hardly see your face. Only the occasional pull rod can see the shining light. Do you have any fish? Tell me.

There are bankrupt mine owners, restaurant owners, takeout and swimming coaches. In short, they are all small people, each with its own troubles. Life has its ups and downs, bearing its own failures. When you say failure, each of us is still a little open-minded.

The words of the bankrupt mine owner are a bit philosophical: life is like fishing, a horizontal line is meaningless, there are always ups and downs, and there are always ups and downs.

Life is like fishing. Where do you know which shot will go down and whether the fish can come up?

In fact, there is a better expression in Forrest Gump-my mother told me that life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you are going to get.

A 40-year-old man fishing is really the ultimate metaphor of life.

No matter how many books I have read, how many prostitutes I have whored and how much money I have earned, I have actually finished painting circles-I went fishing-and licked my wounds in one place after the smoke of the first half of my life.

It's just that the way of "fishing" is different-some people are addicted to opening all over China, some people are addicted to raising pigs and chickens and growing vegetables, some people drink tea hand in hand, some people kneel before the Buddha, and some people convert to God.

Do you think their lives are miserable? It's a little sad, but people are still here, and they can still have leisure to go fishing. Isn't this the dark warmth of Beijing?

Those things that make people feel warm and trivial are actually these chicken feathers on the ground. Chicken feathers on the ground are annoying, dragging people back, and even testing patience when cleaning, but life is not like this. Gradually, it came like this.

In the past six months, I have been talking to people aged 30 and 40-including other journalists, management professionals, hairdressers, driving school coaches and even marketing professionals-about their changes at key age nodes.

Finally, it is found that people's behavior style may change, but their personality will never change.

This is like drawing a circle. 20 years old is the starting point of the circle. I painted a quarter at the age of 25 and half at the age of 30. By the age of 40, I finally drew a circle-gradually harmonious or sharp, nothing more than a change in external style-but the core is always there.

People will change, and the external changes will be earth-shaking in a year or two. People will never change, and the inner fortress will always stand there. People will probably always cycle in one spiral cycle after another.

With the growth of age, the style of acting has changed, and sometimes I mistakenly think that my personality has changed, but the center of the circle has never changed.

A few days ago, I was ashamed to open "Those Sad Young People" to see how Xu Zhiyuan, who was in his forties, looked back at his twenties. His conclusion was:

I don't know whether to be happy or sad. Even after forty, many people still associate me with this book. It seems that this attempt for nearly twenty years is meaningless. I am still the confused and anxious Peking University boy who lives on the 28th floor. However, maybe they are right. No matter how many places I went and how many different topics I wrote, I left a futile impression on myself ... In essence, I didn't jump out of the emotional and intellectual framework of this book.

It really goes back to five years ago, ten years ago, and the final answer is that you are you and have never changed. Go for another five, ten, fifteen years. You're still you. You won't change.

Yu's book review of the novel "Whispering in the Wet North Village" can probably analyze the mental journey of 40 years old:

In the communication between Yin and Yang and narrative inversion, dispensable logic is replaced by spiritual experience implicated in life fragments, and everyone's behavior is always as ignorant and simple as a newborn child. The only connection between here and the modern world is an endless asphalt road and a long-awaited bus.

I told the story of generations of Taiwan Province people "drifting northward" and lost their way in the neon flashing in Taipei. He quoted a sentence from the short story "Wang Kao" in the 2002 United Daily News Literature Award:

Logic is like a circle, action is like a circle and faith is like a complete circle.

Yes, no matter how many books you read, how many prostitutes you prostitute and how much money you earn, at the age of 40, you will always finish this circle according to your own life track.

I have always been addicted to road movies. 20 14 years, Han Han's "No Future" was released. At the end of the film, He Jiang said to Hao Han, "We have traveled all over the country." .

At that time, Hao Han, who almost lost his faith, asked: What's the point?

The audience's interpretation of See You Later is that Hao Han finally committed suicide. Rivers survived and wrote their stories into novels.

What's the point? Of course, suicide is meaningless, and survival is the greatest significance.

Therefore, Yu said, even if we hesitate because of nostalgia for those trivial warmth, there is still a free tomorrow and the final destination.

Living, in fact, has a slight warmth and extreme freedom.

At the age of 40, the best state may be the preface of Xu Zhiyuan in the fourth season of Thirteen Invitations:

Seemingly calm, in fact, it may be surging. Making up your mind is actually full of anxiety. Rational enough to embrace danger. History is as brand-new as the future. And now, maybe as old as the past. Weave the web of meaning in an integrated way. Sophisticated, but naive.

Especially the phrase "sophisticated, but naive"-you can hold a sharp weapon, but you can't kill your heart. This is far safer than when you were a child without sharp weapons. Sophisticated naivety is more about returning to nature after transparency.

People always go through three stages: seeing mountains is mountains, seeing mountains is not mountains, and seeing mountains is mountains. "Sophisticated and naive" is actually the return of seeing the mountains and then seeing the mountains.

In the fourth season of Thirteen Invitations, when Hong Ni was interviewed, Hong Ni said, "The role of Su Daqiang has drained me."

Yes, all past life experiences have been injected into this role. Can Dahongni kill Su Daqiang next? Dahongni doesn't know it herself. How to kill Su Daqiang? He still doesn't know.

But he heard a little story. A walker asked a Taoist what he was doing before he got the Tao. The enlightened person said, chopping wood, carrying water and cooking. The monkey asked again, how did you get the word? Enlightened people say that before cutting wood, you should think about carrying water to cook. After getting the word, chopping wood is chopping wood, carrying water is carrying water, and cooking is cooking.

This story is so funny that it really sounds meaningless.

Soren kierkegaard, the father of existentialism, has a classic exposition on the concept of anxiety:

Anxiety is dizziness caused by freedom. It is related to human limitations and people's sinful cognition, and it is a stage on the road to believing in God.

Someone asked, how to live a meaningful life in a godless world?

Meaninglessness is the greatest meaning. Repeated anxiety and getting rid of anxiety are the greatest significance. Although Sisyphus's boulder will always return to the original point, returning to the original point does not mean that it is meaningless.

In the godless world, fishing at the age of 20 and fishing at the age of 40 is the greatest significance.