Tell me about their psychology

People who have known me since I was a child say so. I don't like to talk, and I have been silent. My relatives always say, don't be shy and make yourself at home. Friends will say, let go, don't be afraid.

After a long time, I became such a character, very quiet, unable to let go, with little words and low sense of existence. But I don't want this, so, introverted you, do you have the same idea as me?

one

Introverts are actually thoughtful and independent.

Just because I don't talk doesn't mean I do everything you say. After graduating from high school, my family wanted me to choose a school in the province, but I wanted to go out and see the outside world, so I chose the coastal city-Xiamen. From then on, I fell in love with this place, which was my right choice. Fortunately, my parents were more open-minded and didn't bind me to my hometown.

Many people may think you are introverted, so you should have spent four years in college.

No!

During the four years in this university, I lived a colorful life. I have participated in three societies, debates and speech contests, volunteer organizations at parties, dances in various cities and songs at graduation parties. ...

Some people will say, wow, I can't see you are an inner person at all.

Yes, I am so quiet, but I like all kinds of expressive things. I like the stage very much and enjoy the applause. Maybe I can't say a word in front of my classmates, but I dare to express myself on stage, because that's what I really love.

So, don't underestimate the people inside. Maybe you can't compete with her eloquence on formal occasions.

Introverts will stick to what they love more strongly and express what they want in the form they love.

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I would rather be a listener than take the initiative.

Introverts rarely take the initiative to talk to them in public, but they are good at listening. They can remember what everyone says and sees. This concern should be more likable.

Have you ever touched a person? As soon as he opens his mouth, you will know that he is good at talking and talks a lot, but ask him what he just said and what the other party said. Maybe he has completely forgotten, and he can't help feeling embarrassed.

A classmate in the college class is a very lively person. No matter who he meets, he can talk all the time, as if he had known each other for a long time. Once we went to the seaside to play, she kept talking about where to take pictures and which cafe to sit in. When she arrived, she found that she didn't go to the place mentioned along the way. We reminded her that you just said where you were going. Oh, she suddenly patted her head. Oh, I forgot.

Usually, I don't talk much in crowded places and become a good listener.

I will listen carefully to what they say and what effect they want to express.

I will also observe.

The way they talk, the way they talk about something, their emotions.

I like to listen to people with nice voices and feel very comfortable; I also like humorous people, who bring personal happiness; I also like to listen to others tell their stories and feel the colorful life from them. ...

Therefore, it is better to talk more than to listen. If necessary, it is better to hit the nail on the head and make a blockbuster.

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In fact, introverts have a stronger desire for attention. They want people to remember him, think about him and not forget him.

When I was in college, I usually went to dinner with several girls in my dormitory. Sometimes after supper, we usually go for a walk. In the process of walking, I may unconsciously walk to the back, while they are chatting happily in front. I thought they should forget me, so disappointed, but suddenly a roommate turned around and said, Lulu is coming with us.

The feeling at that time was really touching. I think this roommate will be remembered for life, because she is thinking of me.

In fact, now that I think about it, it was really stupid at that time. In that case, as long as I follow them and walk side by side with them, talking and laughing, I won't have such emotional changes in my heart.

This is an introverted person. He doesn't get much attention, but he wants others to pay attention. When others pay attention, he is afraid of being noticed.

conflict

In fact, introverts don't like being called introverts.

Society seems to be more inclined to proactive people, who are good at expressing, working hard and showing, while introverted people are unknown, and some may be gradually eliminated and abandoned. However, there are always people who appreciate introverts, and they can also have many like-minded friends and people who come to chat.

I don't like other people's comments on me, including belittling and praising. I don't understand how they can judge a person rashly and think they know a lot but not enough.

I like to live according to my own wishes.

I imagine my future, I can buy a house by the sea, facing the sea, and spring blossoms. I have a nine-to-five job, and my spare time is reading and writing. By that time, I had published a book. No matter whether it sells well or not, I will travel on weekends, take a long vacation to distant places and spend the rest of my life romantically with my beloved.

Enjoy the sunshine on sunny days, and stay at home listening to music and watching movies when it rains. Don't argue, don't grab, plain but interesting, indifferent but have joys and sorrows, that's all.

Keigo Higashino said in Worry-Free Grocery Store:

I am an introvert and have my own small world.