The 9-year-old boy is selfish, stingy, jealous, vindictive, does not care about his parents, loves to bully those younger than him, is slovenly and has no long memory, and is greedy and lazy.

It can’t be controlled. I am very similar to your child. I have a very similar personality to when I was 5 years old. Our family was educated using the old method and I was beaten every day. But now, although I am no longer as naughty as I was when I was a child, But he also has a very cold relationship with his parents and is at odds with him.

In short, from the perspective of a child who has lived there, violence may not be necessary. The shadow of childhood will really exist. Children will become more and more alienated from their parents, fearful, and become rebellious and rebellious when they grow up. Parents are in constant conflict.

In fact, as role models for their children, parents must first educate their children in a reasonable and correct way. If they themselves are controlled by emotions and anger, the relationship between the children and their parents will likely deteriorate in the future.

I suggest you not to use force. As your children grow up, they will become more sensible. Violence will be counterproductive.

My parents now regret the way they raised me, because that’s how they were raised, so they didn’t think there was anything wrong before. But when their children see other parents holding their children in their hands, If you punch and kick him, he will definitely feel aggrieved and feel that you are not treating him well. Although I can understand his parents' intentions, his childhood will be with him for a lifetime. Negative family relationships will have a very bad impact on him in the future, regardless of It’s learning, being a person, and other aspects.

You need to make him aware of his sloppy image in the minds of others. You need to let him know that no one likes sloppy children and is despised. Girls all like clean boys (although the child is still Although he is young, he still cares a little about girls’ opinions)

If you bully the weak and avoid the strong, you need to make him realize the seriousness of the matter, deduct his pocket money or buy something for the child who is being bullied. Give him some food and punish him, but beating and scolding is not recommended.

Don’t let him think that his parents’ efforts are taken for granted. You should let him know how grateful you are, tell his mother how much she suffered when she gave birth to you, and let him see you bit by bit. Pay more and communicate more with him. Of course, you need to have a good entry point, such as his interests and hobbies. If you are friends with each other on QQ (WeChat), you can often post something about your son.

(I saw that the comments in my mother’s space were all about me, and I felt that I had grown up. I was a little touched and ashamed.)

Let him I see that he wants you to pay for destroying other people's books, or to apologize. The teacher should punish him by copying and memorizing the text (the teacher is best at it)