The calmness of gain and the indifference of loss

The calmness of gain and the indifference of loss

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The calmness of gain and the indifference of loss

The reason why people Life is tiring because you think too much. It’s not scary to be physically tired, what’s scary is that the mind is tired. Being tired will affect your mood, distort your mind, and endanger your physical and mental health. In fact, everyone is burdened by others and burdened by themselves, but some people will adjust in time, while some people are stuck in it and cannot enjoy it. Life has too many problems and worries, and it is unrealistic to live without being tired at all.

Life is a wandering journey. Every place you go and every person you meet may become a stop and a passer-by. I always like to reminisce, look back, and be nostalgic. But we found that the things we thought we would never forget have gradually faded away in the process of us not forgetting them. For the previous inn, we can only edit, not stop. For the previous passers-by, we can only be grateful, not demanding.

The reason why people feel tired is that they often wander between persistence and letting go. There will always be some emotional past events worth remembering in life, as well as some inseparable moments that must be dealt with. How to choose between letting go and persevering? The courage to let go is a kind of courage, and the courage to persist is not a kind of courage. Who can tell the truth about what is right and what is wrong?

The reason why people are troubled is that they have not learned to forget. Everything is hidden deep in the soul, remember what should be remembered, forget what should be forgotten, change what can be changed, and understand what cannot be changed. How many people can be so free and easy!

The reason why people suffer is because they pursue too much. Even though we know that some ideals will never be realized, some questions will never have answers, some stories will never have endings, and some people will always be just familiar strangers, we are still pursuing, waiting, and fantasizing hard.

The reason why people are unhappy is because they care too much. It’s not that we have too little, but that we care too much. Nothing is perfect in the world, and imperfections are sometimes a kind of beauty, a sad and eternal beauty:

Life is actually like this, helpless but must be understood. Sometimes I always want to live a free and happy life, but I can't let go of the people or things around me! There are always too many helplessness and regrets in life.

Years pass by, and time flies by. In a person's life, pain and loneliness linger! No matter how good things are, there will be a day when they are lost. No matter how deep the memory is, there will be a day when it is forgotten. No matter how much you love, there will be a day when you leave. No matter how beautiful the dream is, there will be a day when you wake up. What should be let go will never be retained, and what should be cherished will never be retained. Let go.

If you are not happy, if you are not happy, then let it go; if you are reluctant or unable to let it go, then be miserable. The traces of growth have given us a lot of insights and inspirations. Don’t let your heart be too tired. The most regrettable thing in life is to easily let go of things that should not be let go, and to stubbornly persist in things that should not be persisted.

When you are tired, on a quiet night, make a cup of tea, play a piece of light music, and let yourself melt into the fragrance and melodious music to appreciate the warmth and touch;

Too much depression will make people very tired, so why not let it go and simply take a walk!

Too many emotions can hurt, so why not let go, romance is only for a moment!

Too many tears can make you miserable, so why not wipe them away and smile!

The ups and downs of life are always in the ups and downs

The article tastes the unbroken feelings of you and me

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The calmness of gain , take the loss indifferently, strive for the inevitable, and let it take its course

Suddenly I like these words very much. In fact, at the beginning, I just took the gain calmly, took the loss indifferently, let it take its course, but did not fight for the inevitable. . He always has an aloof and aloof appearance. It seems that I won’t fight for anything. Maybe once there is something to fight for, I will take a step back. Not only will I not fight, but I will let go. This is who I have always been, so others will always say that I have not grown up.

Maybe it’s the aloofness in my heart that makes me a little different from others. I never have the same intentions as others, nor do I have the time to work overtime. Maybe it’s because of my career. Therefore, when you talk to me about social things, I always feel novel, which is also the reason why I failed to understand your sadness at first. But I am really grateful and cherish it because of this unique feeling.

I always think that many things in the world are simple, but the only absolute thing I know is that I cannot survive well in society. At the moment, I am just in the countryside, living a self-righteous paradise. Maybe people never know what they will do or whether they will change their views in the future. Ever since I was in college, I had hoped not to live in a big city because it was too stressful. When I talk to you occasionally, you also admit that you are under a lot of pressure. In fact, what makes me tempted is your care for me every day.

I remember you said you expected me to do that job. In fact, I knew then that you had already thought about our future. It's just that I'm too willful. But that time your words touched me. When you suggested it, I just smiled softly, and you could tell that I wasn't willing. You didn't force me, you just said softly that the pressure was too much, and you expected me to endure it slowly. You have no idea how shocked I would be. I just didn't think about how much you thought about our future. I didn't grow up because I loved playing games at that time, and I never thought about what we would be like in the future. But I don’t know how many endings you have thought about for us, as you are always casual.

I remember I told you that I don’t like fighting, I just like to be alone and do my own thing quietly. But you told me anxiously that it was because I still couldn’t understand others and had too little experience. In fact, you don’t understand. What I don’t like is fighting. I like the feeling of being aloof. I think I don’t eat fireworks, but I don’t know what I want. I thought that if I always let go, I would have no conflicts with others and live in harmony with everyone. But I didn’t understand it at the time. I didn’t know that only if you have strength can others not look down on you. Even if you have the protection of others, it doesn’t mean anything. Protect you anytime, anywhere, anything, anyone. It's just that I was too naive at the time.

Although I don't like to argue, I hope there is someone who can understand me, tell me that he cares about me, and let me know that I am not alone. In fact, you have never said that you care about me, but you always make me feel that you care about me. Maybe sometimes you really can't use words, but use feelings and practical actions to prove everything. You always think a lot for me and never let me have any difficulties. :

On that day, when I made up my mind, I found that the moments of my two decisions were so coincidental. 20xx-9-13 and 20xx-9-14. It just so happens that it adds up to a lifetime. In fact, that day, when I saw that sentence, I knew you knew everything. It's just that I was careless and didn't know when you knew it, and then I realized that I thought I cherished you, but I still didn't care that much.

I am really grateful to fate for allowing me to meet you again. I am calm about gains and indifferent about losses. I strive for the inevitable and let nature take its course. There has never been anything inevitable in my world before. Now, you tell me with your actions that some things must be inevitable. Maybe from that moment on, I added another creed to my life. I have become less aloof and less willing not to eat fireworks, because I know that it is impossible for me not to eat fireworks in the world of mortals, and I am just an ordinary person.

Perhaps my life will change drastically in the future. No matter what the outcome is, I will be calm about gains and losses. I will fight for the inevitable and let nature take its course.

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Calmness in gain, indifference in loss

If you are willing to smile, you will get friendship; if you are willing to be tolerant, you will get magnanimity. If you are willing to be sincere, you will get friends.

Some people get into big fights over trivial matters, and some people stay away from each other for the rest of their lives just because of a one-word dispute. Think about it carefully, is it worth it? Aren't you tired? If you are willing to give up, you will get something if you give up. In fact, sometimes the people who receive favors are not those who get a small advantage, but those who suffer losses. God is always fair in what you give, so God will give you blessings. A door opens a window for you. Therefore, people who are unwilling to let go of anything will sometimes lose more. When you hold your hands tightly, there is nothing inside. When you open your hands, you will find that the world is in your hands

Life It is a mentality. Only people with a good mentality will not let their lives get moldy. Moments are fleeting, so how to make this short life without regrets is also a kind of wisdom. In the face of the honor of life, learn to see clearly that what is not brought by life and taken away by death belongs to the world, and what you get is the scenery of travel. Face the ups and downs of life, learn to be calm, and there is nothing you can't handle. Sometimes what scares you is actually fear itself. Face the joys and sorrows of life, and learn to smile calmly. There are always people entering and people leaving in the balance of life. Entering and leaving are just a cyclical process, and only you who stand in the center of the cycle can grasp this balance. Therefore, learn to see clearly that a lot of things don't matter, and you will find that simple life is the most real existence. If one day you have a dispute with the person closest to you, if you let him win, what will he win? If you let him lose, what will you lose? In fact, winning and losing are just a formality. There are not so many clear boundaries between right and wrong in the world, so why do you waste your life on so many language entanglements? In fact, it is not that there are no feelings in life, but so many unnecessary disputes that make you lose the feelings that should be cherished.

Cherish every relationship, whether it is family or love. Because the world is so big, it is really not easy for us to meet and come together. Cherish others well, take good care of yourself, don't blame others for your emotions, and don't punish yourself for other people's mistakes. Why worry when you haven’t contacted your good friends for a long time? If he wants to contact you, he will contact you sooner or later. If he doesn't want to contact you, wouldn't it be unnecessary for you to worry here? When the person who loves you no longer loves you, why should you go to the dark and painful world? A lover who can leave is not a true lover, because the person who truly loves you is reluctant to leave, and because true love has no shelf life. In fact, you should be grateful for fate's decision to help you send someone who is not worthy of your efforts. When life is faced with separation and death, why not change your mood? Leaving is sometimes a kind of relief. People are born, old, sick and die, and pain and sorrow will only make it more difficult for the deceased to rest in peace.

Learn to see the world from a different angle. In the prism world, you will see warm colors next to cool colors. Gain calmly and lose calmly. A classic saying about calmness in gains and indifference in losses

Who said that happiness will go downhill if you hold hands.

I will even dream about you. How exactly have I offended you?

That street carries the youth and frivolity of each of us.

If I can't give you happiness/please allow me to give you "comfort"

This is an era that shows individuality, why do we show a group of perverts

Ahli Saying that forgetting a peach is the hardest thing in the world

Be calm about gain and loss, let nature take its course and strive for its inevitable outcome〃

Are you like me, in space? There is a paragraph describing myself on the homepage

The real loneliness is not the loneliness when you are alone, but standing alone in the carnival of everyone,

It should have disappeared long ago My heart is broken, so there is no need to break my heart now

Don’t wait until a thousand years later, Cao Cao said to me, fairy tales are all lies, I can’t be your Monkey Brother, Monkey Brother , you are so amazing, the five elements mountains cannot hold you down.

When you asked me why I chose him, I said it was because he told me I loved you, but you didn’t.

When the flowers bloom, whose smile is full of joy.

The smell of an amorous young woman is exuded at the fingertips.

The most indispensable thing in China is women, so please don’t let him wait for too long.

Ask who is the most beautiful woman in the world. Frankly, tell me to do my part.

In a world of two people, one is trying to be strong, one is sad, and the other is forgetting!

If a man doesn’t pretend to be cool, he might as well go back and wash his underwear.

The so-called love in junior high school and high school is all a lie. Everyone is practicing for their acting skills! Practice is just a transition in life! In the end, it’s still a show!

Don’t think that if you are younger than me, you can dance around for a few more days. The coffin contains dead people, not old people!

I thought you would be my full stop, but it turns out you only treat me as a comma!

Only by your own company can you not feel lonely.

You will experience a lot in your life, bullying, rebellion, jealousy, despair, and finally maturity

You can pretend you have never heard of it! But I won’t pretend that I haven’t said it!

I drew a coffin with you and her lying inside. How kind I am

Sometimes, God doesn’t give you what you want, not because you don’t deserve it, but because you deserve better.

No matter how nice the oath sounds, it is just a moment of turning around. Classic inspirational phrases - gain calmly, lose calmly

1. Men become bad when they have money. Yes, many men are like this, but men who become bad when they have money are not much better even if they have no money.

2. Don’t be upset when your neighbor plays the piano at two o’clock in the night. You can wake him up at four o’clock and tell him that you appreciate his playing.

3. If you just wait, all that will happen is that you get older.

4. The so-called threshold means that if you pass it, it becomes the door; if you don’t pass it, it becomes the threshold.

5. The smallest good deed is better than the largest kind thought.

6. A true friend is not someone who has endless things to talk about together, but someone who doesn’t feel awkward even if they don’t say a word.

7. Time is a master of healing trauma, but it is by no means a master of solving problems.

8. It is better to regret something you have done than regret something you have missed.

9. The so-called eternal love is from beauty to gray hair, from flower blooming to flower falling.

10. Life is too short. If you give up today, you may not get it tomorrow.

11. Tell yourself once a day: I am really good.

12. Remember: Every day is the most beautiful day of the year.

13. People always cherish what they don’t get and forget what they have.

14. A classic of youth will never be redeemed again.

15. Be kind to others when you are proud, because you will need them when you are frustrated.

16. Face your face to the sun, and there will be no shadows.

17. Having courage does not mean that fear does not exist, but it means having the courage to face fear and overcome it.

18. Being angry is punishing yourself for what others have done wrong.

19. If a person is weak, he is his own worst enemy; if a person is brave, he is his own best friend.

20. Before correcting others, first reflect on whether you have made a mistake.

21. With fewer preset expectations, the caring for people will be more comfortable.

22. Complaints are the greatest gift God has received from mankind, and they are also the most sincere part of mankind’s prayers.

23. A glass of clear water will become turbid due to the presence of a drop of sewage, but a glass of sewage will not become clear due to the presence of a drop of clear water.

24. There are three things in this world that cannot be taken away by others: one is the food that goes into the stomach, the other is the dreams hidden in the heart, and the third is the books that are read into the brain.

25. Horses are prone to stumble on soft soil, and people are prone to fall when they are sweet-talked.

26. There is no distinction between tragedy and comedy in the world. If you can get out of tragedy, it is comedy. If you indulge in comedy, then it is tragedy.

27. If you don’t study, you will be just a postman after traveling thousands of miles.

28. A needle is not sharp at both ends, and a person is not sharp at both ends.

29. Luck is when opportunity happens to hit your hard work.

30. Be calm when you gain, be calm when you lose, let nature take its course, and strive for the inevitable. Be calm about gains and calm about losses, strive for the inevitable, and let nature take its course.

1. People who use their brains too much, are good at analyzing and value face, are prone to fall into their own ideological traps and self-made ideological dilemmas.

2. If you like someone, you will be very happy when you are together; if you love someone, you will be inexplicably disappointed when you are together. Like someone, you will always be happy; love someone, you will often shed tears. If you like someone, you will smile slightly when you think of him; if you love someone, if you think of him, you will stare at the sky in a daze. To like someone is to see their advantages; to love someone is to tolerate their shortcomings. Like is a mood; love is a feeling.

3. Is there such a person? When you think of her, you want to turn back time. She always makes some silly bets in her heart: if it doesn’t rain today, she will come back to me; if the petals of this flower are an even number, she will come back to me; if there is no one at the next stop Get in the car.

4. I usually laugh and laugh and don’t care about anything, but when I turn around, my smile clearly shows a hint of helplessness; the other end of the phone keeps asking me, and the answers are always “I’m fine, I’m fine,” Don’t worry; when you are alone, you start to feel dazed for no reason, you don’t know what to think about, and you seem to be thinking about nothing; you always want to find someone to talk to, but when there is such a person, you don’t know where to start; you are young and casual Walking away gradually.

5. To love deeply is to feel heartache. The reason why you love is because this feeling has been integrated into your life. The reason why it hurts is because you understand your fragility and helplessness, so you can’t help it. I feel sorry for everything about you. If I love you, I will give silently, do my best, and do my best to share your worries. As long as there is love in my heart, I will have strength. The truest love is to never leave in the ordinary, and to support each other in the wind and rain. .

6. Silence can make a chaotic heart clear. There is no need to tell others how stupid, naive, kind, lucky, unlucky, or painful you are. Learn to use silence to cover up your emotions. . Some people may say that you are free and easy, but free and easy is sometimes just an illusion. Silence is the mind, wisdom, and connotation; silence is the final nobility and the final freedom.

7. The days with you are the happiness and luck in this life. Reach out and pluck a petal of love, and insert it into my hair with your own hands. Through my hair, that curtain of dreamy lovesickness is filled with the memories of our singing and laughing. Flying snow, in the elegant hexagonal petals, there is the voice of love calling, where are you? In those delicate thoughts, I open my heart and there is falling snow in my heart. Who knows, blending the lightness and warmth of winter snow.

8. The happiest existence of all is not the wealth and poverty of your life, nor the richness and shallowness of your life; the most beautiful past is not the screening of memoirs, nor the past that cannot be remembered. ; All happiness belongs to the heart; all memories are emotional; therefore, as long as we keep a good mood and be happy every day, such a life will have contentment and happiness.

9. Before I met you, I was bruised and bruised by love. Until you stood in front of me, stretched out your hand and asked me what it was. I shook my head. You said this is the rest of my life. Will you? I used her to give me happiness. I panicked, but I still agreed to you. Now that you have left, I stand in front of the mirror you often look at, as if I have returned to the day you confessed your love to me. I am not sad, I just stopped crying. Unstoppable flow.

10. When I miss you, you are so far away from me; when I forget you, you are so close to me. I thought I was free and easy, I thought time could transcend the distance of the world. In fact, I can never break free from the web of my own heart. If I could accompany you, I would stay quietly late at night just to accompany you. If I meet the right person at the right time, I would be willing to accompany you to the end of the world.

11. Be calm with gains and calm with losses, strive for the inevitable and let nature take its course.

12. If you love someone too much, you will care too much about who they are with and whether they have you in their heart; if you love someone too much, you will be led by their noses and you will be completely unable to control yourself; if you love someone too much, you will be led by them. , he will get used to your kindness to him, and forget that you should also pay. Don’t love someone ten points, eight points is enough, and love yourself the remaining two points.

13. Forgetting is our unchangeable destiny. Everything is like misaligned paper. Everything in the past cannot be returned to the past, and it just slowly stretches away bit by bit. Maybe we really should forget about the things we missed! As long as you can remember me, even if you use hate. And when I try to hate you, I think of your smile.

14. If someone knows how to read minds and can hear what others are thinking, then unfortunately, his eardrums must have been shattered today by not wanting to go to work and not wanting to go to school

15. Love is an unspeakable secret. The tacit understanding and appropriateness, and most importantly, the way you love it to the core. It makes you happy over and over again. Thinking back on it, it is so wonderful! I poured my heart, my city, and my time! The best love is not a passionate love that ends in a lose-lose situation for both parties, but a calm and peaceful way of holding hands to finish this life. Even if we can't be together, we will always cherish each other in our hearts!

16. When a person doesn't love you and wants to leave you, you have to ask yourself if you still love him or not. Don't refuse to leave for the sake of poor self-esteem. When the weather clears up, you will meet someone who can make you love again.

17. A person sheds tears because of pain; a person feels pain because he cares; a person cares because he has feelings; a person feels feelings only because of you. You are a person, so if you feel, care, feel pain, or shed tears, it means that you are a complete person who cannot be more complete. When you are sad, forgive yourself. You are just a person. There is no need to regard yourself as so indestructible.

18. Blindly searching, how much time has been wasted on the road, the sound of wooden fish, so far, yet so close, in fact, time has never been cold, nor has I let anyone down, looking at each other In the sincerity and warmth, remembering the good things, I will return to peace and quiet. In late autumn, I am still in the words, spending my time with a clear and peaceful heart, whether it is wind or rain. Maybe one day, if I love old, it is difficult to Well, let us join hands with Chanjuan until the end of the years, okay?

19. The best days are nothing more than when you are making trouble and he is laughing. All the years are quiet and so warm until you grow old. What I like is nothing more than loving until you are tired or exhausted, love is still there, the heart of love is still unchanged, and it can make waves in the heart no matter when.

20. What is the hardest thing to get in life? It’s never money, it’s never knowledge, it’s never career. But one’s loyalty. Because loyalty represents true love, and this kind of love is exclusive, exclusive, and only you can enjoy it. In a relationship, no matter how good I am to you and how much money I give you, what's the use if you don't have loyalty? Having you in my heart is love. But with only you in my heart, this is true love.

21. When you meet a close friend, you have nothing to ask for. The sound of your heart is enough. Even if she is like a dream, even if she is far away in the horizon, too many thoughts and words remain in the bottom of your heart. We know each other and accompany you. The affection is still beautiful. Even if we are estranged from each other, we can't cut off the connection with each other. Even a faint greeting is still a deep friendship. Keep the name of your bosom friend in your heart, and your soul will no longer be lonely. Keep the warm affection of your bosom friend deep in your heart, and your care and blessings will always be beautiful.

22. Love should be a magnetic field, not a rope that binds him. It is better to attract him. A rope will give a man the desire to break free, but a magnetic field can give him the illusion of freedom and an eternal temptation. I thought about it, she and I should both be animals with strong magnetic fields, so why can’t we be tethered together? It turns out that we are always facing the n pole, and the s pole is facing the s pole, and no one is willing to change the angle.

23. I have never believed that no one can live without others. People often like to amplify their emotions, and then even themselves are deceived. However, without true love, without the confidence to continue loving, there is no qualification to love. When I turned around and left, my heart felt as if there was a gap, so empty, and I felt the cold wind coming. The best way is actually to block the wound.