Tell me about the most lonely thing you felt in Beijing?

To talk about the loneliest thing, it seems that I can't remember which thing is the loneliest at the moment, but when I think about it, in fact, most people are lonely.

On the surface, working in Beijing is very busy every day, getting up early and entering the bustling subway before eating. The carriage is full of busy men, women and children, young people who are working hard in the workplace, young people who are eager to study, and middle-aged people who support their families. It makes people feel lively and not lonely.

At work, everything should be taken seriously, and everyone should take responsibility. For example, for college teachers, they should not only stand on the three-foot platform, but also undertake scientific research work. Every job should strive for perfection, and it requires a lot of energy and time to think and study, so as to truly cultivate outstanding students who are responsible and capable and worthy of the title of "being a teacher". Therefore, I am not lonely at work, and I am too busy to be lonely.

But in fact, when we calm down and think about life in the dead of night, we often feel lonely. Maybe we are busy with what we like every day and regard hobbies as a career. Such people are full, happy and not lonely!

In fact, nine times out of ten, life is unsatisfactory, and it is more about thinking, motivation and struggle alone. Only by improving yourself can we get spiritual enrichment and enrichment.

For myself, my loneliest thing is that when I encounter difficulties and helplessness, I will feel lonely, helpless, powerless and painful. At this time, I will grit my teeth and let fate take its course.

Everyone is like a non-stop flying machine, short-lived. Whether lonely or full, it is the experience of life and the essence of life. I hope every machine can fly smoothly and orderly!

First, tell a few stories that I paid attention to during the Spring Festival, and suddenly understand that sentence: the collapse of adults is in an instant.

Story 1: On April 20 19, a young man in Hangzhou was stopped by the traffic police when he was riding a bicycle retrograde. He called his girlfriend and said he couldn't go back for the time being. After hanging up the phone, he suddenly dropped his mobile phone and began to cry: the company urged him to work overtime, and his girlfriend urged him to go home and deliver the keys! Under the catalysis of the traffic police "blocking the road", it collapsed instantly. The live video made many adults cry, and the stress and anxiety of adults made many peers scream.

Story 2: 2065438+April 2009, a drunken man fell to the ground, surrounded by vomit and filth. The police helped him contact his family while comforting the man who was out of control. This man is a foreigner and works as a salesman in Nanjing. In order to sign bills, he often drinks with customers. Today, he and his customers were drunk. He doesn't know whether he can sign the contract. He felt wronged and fell to the ground in the subway. When the man's wife arrived at the scene, she cried like a child's husband trying to comfort him.

Story 3: 20 19 1 1, in the Wuhan subway, a woman sat in the aisle of the subway station at a loss. When the enthusiastic staff touched her head in comfort, she immediately cried with the staff. With a little caring action, this woman who hasn't been off work for a month finally found the emotional explosion point. After normal work today, she suddenly didn't know where to go and what to do, and she was worried that her mood would scare her daughter when she got home, so she was at a loss in the subway.

When I was a child, I watched a TV series "Man to Middle Age", but I don't remember the specific content. I only remember that the middle-aged people in the play are old and young, and they have to be the mainstay in the unit and the pillar at home, and they are hard to breathe.

Most adults are in this state. Although they have friends, family members and colleagues, all the pressure can only be digested by themselves. What they can say is easy language, which is completely different from what they feel in their hearts. On the one hand, can it be solved by saying it? On the other hand, I can't seem to say it or express it.

The loneliest time is when there are many friends around, but no one can talk to. The city is crowded, but there is no place to calm your heart.

Walking on the wide Chang 'an Avenue, the lights are on and the colorful Tiananmen Square is showing off, but I feel like an outsider watching from a distance. In the crowded Sanlitun night, the fashion is full of brilliance, and the happiness of young men and women is greatly written on their faces and jumping bodies, but all happiness has nothing to do with themselves.

I don't want to go home, but I have nowhere to go.

This is the capital, world-famous scenic spots, long hutongs, fashionable shopping malls, high-end finance, free rock and roll and noble performances, but I can't find my own shadow. Here, as in other places, the loneliest thing is insecurity.

Sensitive people will always complain and moan, and then they will be fine. Living in countless entanglements and tears leads to the right path, broader and more optimistic, and makes lonely moments a thing of the past.

In Beijing with a population of more than 20 million, people are crowded in the streets and sitting on the subway, but it is really the most lonely place. Loneliness has nothing to do with the number of people Because they don't know each other, have no communication, have no sense of companionship and security, they feel more lonely than being alone in the wilderness. So I think everyone has to do a very lonely thing, everyone does.

Personally, I think the loneliest thing is to travel alone in the bustling crowd. Traveling is a matter of finding happiness, and you are looking for happiness in loneliness. This is an ambivalent mood. We know that there are many famous historical and cultural attractions and natural attractions in Beijing, so it is inevitable to visit these famous attractions when living in Beijing, but it is very lonely to travel alone without company.

When you travel, you and your family, children and friends. But you are alone, and this strong sense of contrast makes you feel lonely. Others travel, talking and laughing, accompanied, whether eating or watching the scenery, some people take pictures, some people curse with smiles, and some people help with backpacks and luggage. You can't do these things alone. If you want to take a picture of yourself in front of the only beautiful scenery you have ever seen in your life, you have to take a selfie with a very awkward posture. If it doesn't work, you should ask a stranger to help you. Do you think this is the most lonely thing?

Once I wanted to visit the Great Wall. Because of work, it is difficult to find friends who share the same interests and go out to play. Even on weekends, everyone wants to have a rest. Decided to go out to play alone, walked to the place where I took the bus, and suddenly felt so lonely. I can't shoot if I want to. When eating alone, no one talks when taking the bus. Many people are talking and laughing at the scenic spot, but I seem to be not a tourist alone, but a stray dog.

Seeing a man standing on the highest beacon tower of the Great Wall, I dialed WeChat to tell my family, mom and dad, I called you on the field, and I felt so envious.

I went to the northeast a few days ago and took a slow train. Every night, many people report their safety to their families by video on the train and share the trivial details of their journey with their families. I suddenly feel why I have no one to share. Very lonely.

Let me start with a very lonely thing. You find that there are too many men and women in Beijing. A person's life is to get up alone in the morning, go shopping alone, cook alone, work overtime alone, watch movies alone, eat hot pot alone, and sing and laugh at the top of one's lungs in KTV without comfort or response. Watch it alone on weekend nights.

A person has lived so long that he even doubts whether he lives in the world or whether he is an individual. Maybe this question sounds ridiculous, but it is really heartfelt. Lonely single dog drifting north is itself a lonely existence. The most lonely thing is that when you are alone, you are sick and have a fever, and you can't get up in bed, but you must tell yourself that you can't get up to buy medicine, boil water and cook, and no one can help you.

If you really can't persist, you have to go to the hospital. It is very difficult to register in Beijing. When you are sick, you have to get up at four or five in the morning. Maybe when it's your turn in two or three hours, the number will be gone. You have to tell yourself to hold on and continue the next day. Maybe you went to the hospital twice and didn't have a number. I'm not going. Just stick to it.

Lying in the hospital bed, maybe you will think, when you caught a cold as a child, your father bought you medicine and your mother bought you delicious food. Did you have enough? No infection, right? Take out your temperature and measure whether the high fever has gone down, thinking that maybe you will cry. This is the loneliest thing in Beijing.

Let me tell you for you, we all eat back and forth. You were not invited to dinner this time. You feel very lonely.

* * * You can't take people without the back seat. How lonely it is to ride a bike alone!

Fortunately, when your life and work are full, loneliness will be driven away.

The loneliest thing is that you are the only one in my heart all the time. Others can't get into your heart, and you can't get out of your tightly closed heart.

Go to work alone.

A person has no choice but to order takeout every day.

Playing mobile phone at home alone.

Shopping alone

Take a selfie alone

A person is in a bad mood, has a bad job, is under great economic pressure, has nowhere to release his silence, and doesn't know who to talk to.

Even when I really want to go out to play, I think of a person. Forget it.

It's not that I can't do the above things alone, but that I lack a person who is in harmony with my true soul, has the same three views and hobbies, and can get into each other's eyes.

Some people may say that it's good to have friends and don't need the other half, but after a long time, you will find that it's different after all.

I sprained my ankle and went to the hospital alone.

From loneliness without a sense of belonging to middle age, you will feel more and more that you have no one to rely on, and there are indeed a group of people around you who need to rely on …

Beijing is a sea of people It can be said that it is one of the most densely populated cities in China.

Although there are many people, for those who come to Beijing from other places and drift north, this sense of loneliness is doubled. Loneliness does not mean that there is no one around, but that there is no one around who is a close friend.

Looking back on the year of graduation, I worked in Beijing, doing consulting and customer service, with a monthly salary of 3500. Of course, I am also a moonlight clan every month. I ate fast food in the restaurant downstairs and lived in the dormitory arranged by the unit for employees. Even if the food is not nutritious and unhealthy, the dormitory of the unit will be even more chaotic. No one will accompany me after work, because we come from different places and meet here, and everyone is not very enthusiastic about me. In the same dormitory, most of us are just nodding acquaintances. This is my first job and I want to work for a whole year.

Once, I made a small mistake at work, missed a customer's phone call, and was fined 200 yuan, so cruel to a bottom-level employee! At that moment, I really didn't want to stay in this impersonal place. The next day, I submitted my resignation application. On the third day, I left Beijing. I planned to work for a year, but I only worked for half a year.

It's really important to have one or two close friends in a strange place. If not, this loneliness will be with you.