How to speak? What are the speaking skills?

1, seize people's hearts and move with your heart.

In interpersonal communication, if you want to convince the other person to agree with your point of view, you must convince others, convince others with emotion, convince others with reason, and convince others with virtue. This is the result of emotion, knowledge and spiritual strength. The power of emotion is the cognition and singing of emotion, the power of knowledge can convince people of their own arguments, and the power of mind can make people accept the debater himself, and then consciously or unconsciously believe and support the debater's arguments and refutations.

2. Tell us more about us and unite and cooperate.

A psychologist once did an interesting experiment. He asked the same person to play the roles of autocratic, laissez-faire and democratic leaders respectively, and then investigated other people's views on these three types of leaders.

It is found that leaders who adopt democratic methods have a strong sense of unity. At the same time, some research results also point out that such people use the word "we" more often.

3. Give people a chance and don't be rude.

Some people often make a mistake in life: once the box is opened, it is difficult to stop. In fact, this kind of person is not worth the loss, because talking too much not only wastes energy, but also sends too much information to others and may hurt others.

4, want to say good things, observe the words.

Don't ask others about the price of clothes in daily communication; Don't ask the lady's age; Don't ask about other people's income; Don't ask others about their family background in detail; Don't ask others how to use money; Don't ask others the secrets of work, such as the manufacturing method of products and so on.

Modesty and sincerity shorten the distance.

When we meet for the first time, expressing our friendly feelings towards each other in a few words, or affirming each other's achievements, or praising each other's quality, will warm each other's hearts in an instant, feel each other's hearts, and make each other feel at home.

I talked about this at the first meeting, paving the way for further communication in the future. When talking to people you have never met on the phone, appropriate expressions can also impress them.

6. Put yourself in the other's shoes and say it better

Many people are used to imposing their own ideas and opinions on others, and always feel that their own practices and opinions are better. Although the starting point is well-intentioned to help others solve some problems, they have never considered whether it is appropriate to do so from the other side's standpoint.

Therefore, when we discuss things with others, we should not determine our own standards and conclusions first. We should think carefully from each other's standpoint and ask each other what they think about things and how to solve problems, instead of telling the truth directly to force each other to accept it.