Should I look through my husband's mobile phone?

For whether to check my husband's mobile phone, this question is like asking my wife and girlfriend who should be saved first when they fall into the water at the same time. Everyone has everyone's answer and everyone's reason. First of all, husband and wife should be based on mutual trust. Everyone should leave their own private space for each other. At this point, Rene Liu, who is crazy about love, has done very well. She said that when her husband is alone in the study, she never bothers him and should give him enough trust. Of course, this trust is based on mutual love, even if some secrets are white lies. Just like the lovers in the textbook, in order to give each other gifts, one cut her long hair and changed her watch chain, and the other sold her watch and changed her tortoise shell hairpin. I believe that both men and women will be very moved by this practice. Because they all gave each other their most precious things. So, is it necessary to check the mobile phone? Secondly, when your husband gives you insecurity, you need to pay attention to the movement of his mobile phone. Some people may say, I'm too lazy to check his cell phone. He cheated and got divorced. If you are so confident, then you really don't need to check his mobile phone. But some people don't have the confidence for various reasons, so you need to know what he wants. Knowing his movements, you won't be passive. One day, you divorced, and you don't know when he started acting at home. Finally, after knowing that your husband is cheating, you should check his mobile phone. Since there is an affair, the possibility of cohabitation will not be too great, so we must grasp the evidence, including the affair, property and the whereabouts of funds, and strive for greater interests for ourselves. Therefore, whether you want to check your husband's mobile phone depends on which stage of your relationship. Men don't want women to look at their mobile phones at any time, but as women, they can't always feel that it is irrational to look at each other's mobile phones. Irrational behavior is to check the phone and quarrel with each other. No matter what you find in your mobile phone, you should be calm. You can't make a scene with the other party, it will only scare yourself. It is the most important thing to prepare yourself and master your life. Of course, if you have the courage and capital to leave him at any time, then you can disdain his mobile phone. Should I look through my husband's mobile phone? A few days ago, Xiaogang Feng had a drink with his friends. After drinking, he told the truth and talked about things between husband and wife. Having been married twice, he naturally has the most say, so he also talked deeply about the mobile phone between husband and wife. It is easy to disagree on such an issue. When Feng led this Weibo attack, the netizens below even exploded, so they were put on the hot search list by enthusiasts who were "not busy watching". Xiaogang Feng's opinion is that you can't turn over your mobile phone. Husband and wife must trust each other. In addition, if you find it, you must make trouble, and you should also make trouble if you shouldn't. It is best not to turn it over. However, many female netizens don't agree with this, thinking that as long as they don't do things that are sorry for others, they are afraid to look through them. The following male netizens quit. They think what Feng Dao said is right. In addition to mutual trust, we should also respect each other and check our mobile phones at every turn. Everyone has a little privacy, which is really bad. In the face of irreconcilable contradictions, let's talk about whether to turn over men's mobile phones today. "Have you checked the phone number of the other half?" Asked a dozen girls, most of them answered, either out of suspicion or out of curiosity, mostly when their boyfriends were taking a shower or sleeping. I asked some boy friends again, will I take the initiative to give my mobile phone to my girlfriend? Most boys say this is a proposition and don't want to answer it. The subtext is obvious. Just like the classic line in the movie "Mobile Phone": "This is not a mobile phone, this is obviously a Grenade!" Mobile phones carry countless secrets that we don't want the other half to know. The existence of mobile phones is a potential crisis between couples. Trust crisis Some girls are often suspicious and afraid that their boyfriends or husbands will cheat. So in the dead of night, I often sneak through a man's mobile phone with doubts and a tentative attitude, trying to find some evidence to prove my doubts through the mobile phone. This kind of looking at the mobile phone is a kind of distrust, and it is also a kind of harmful behavior. And if you don't have evidence of unwarranted suspicion, it will really hurt each other's self-esteem, and it is likely that there is nothing at all, and something will happen as soon as you check it. Because his parents divorced when he was a child, Wei was almost full of distrust and insecurity for all men. When her boyfriend comes back from a business trip, she always checks his luggage, backpack and wallet. When her boyfriend came back late from a dinner party, she made one phone call after another. For his mobile phone, he rummaged behind his back again and again. The boyfriend pretended not to know, and finally one day the contradiction broke out. The fuse was that Wei found a small business card on the handle of her boyfriend's car door. The girl in the photo is sexy and hot. It happened that she turned to her boyfriend's mobile phone WeChat that day. In the last three days, the new contact is also the girl's head. Xiao Wei's brain made up the scene, suddenly became angry and faced her boyfriend. My boyfriend said that the small card on the handlebar must have been sent casually by the person who made the small advertisement. The girl in WeChat is the customer of the nearest partner. Wei doesn't believe it. Actually, wechat voice dialed face to face. Unexpectedly, she offended her partner, lost her business and lost tens of millions of big orders to the company. Her boyfriend was almost fired by the boss. The boyfriend was so angry that he couldn't bear it. Finally broke up, Wei regretted it. If you steal your boyfriend's mobile phone and dare to confront him face to face, this is the way to leave no room for yourself and each other. Because you did, it's either you or me. What self-respecting man won't end this relationship once it comes to tearing his face? Returning to the essence and maintaining the relationship between two people, the answer is not the mobile phone, but the trust. Therefore, your efforts are not about how to steal each other's mobile phones, but how to make you more and more familiar and trust each other. Women should not look at men's mobile phones at will. If something is dug up, can you bear the consequences? If you can't turn it out, you will continue to doubt, and men will think, where is your trust in me? Even rebellion. If I want my mobile phone to be so clean, am I sorry for your distrust of me? In Curiosity, a girl asked me about killing cats on the official WeChat account. She has a boyfriend who has been in love for three years. Recently, she always carries her mobile phone around, goes to the bathroom, smokes on the balcony, watches TV, plays games, and even brings her mobile phone in when she takes a shower ... She wants to know what her boyfriend is paying attention to recently? Is she having an affair? Asked me if I should go through his cell phone. As a psychological counselor, I always feel that proceeding from reality is safer and more appropriate than simply giving guidance. So I told her a story: Limy and her husband have been married for ten years, and their relationship has always been very good. It was not until the Chinese New Year that she took his mobile phone to order a red envelope and suddenly wanted to see his mobile phone information. I didn't expect him to call others "wife"! Her face turned black in an instant. When her husband saw that something was wrong, he came to grab the mobile phone, but Limy refused to give it. Seeing that he was in a hurry, Limy threw away his mobile phone, pushed open the door, got out of the car and took a taxi home. Her husband chased the taxi home and explained to her that it was the wife in the game. After being coaxed for a long time, Limy finally forgave him, but from then on he fell into the shadow of watching his mobile phone. When she heard the voice mail of her husband's mobile phone, she would fantasize, and then she would stay up all night, depressed and depressed to the extreme, which affected her normal work and life and had to consult a psychologist. It was not until ten psychotherapy sessions that Limy gradually got better. She still has a lingering fear: "One of the boldest and most regretful things I did was that curiosity drove me to turn over his mobile phone information. Many times forgiveness hides bitterness, timidity, unwillingness and disappointment. This is the real mental torture. " So don't let curiosity kill the cat. Your curiosity is as addictive as eating crow slices. It pushes you into the whirlpool again and again, and if you are not careful one day, you will fall into the abyss of perdition. Therefore, only by living a full life and gaining enough self-confidence can we suppress the seeds of inner curiosity and eliminate the inner demons. Intimacy has a feeling that we think is invincible, perhaps not as strong as we think. The film "Perfect Stranger" was shot in an apartment. Three couples at different stages of marriage and an otaku, seven people gathered at home for dinner. The hostess suggested that everyone share the contents of every message, email and phone call, so boldly make the secret public. As wonderful as Truth or Adventure, what are the unknown secrets that hurt each other and what are the untouchable bottom lines in marriage? On the surface, they seem to have a tacit understanding, but in fact they are strange strange bedfellows. The husband hides in the toilet every day and receives nude photos of others by email. The wife dutifully plays the role of a good wife and a good mother, secretly calling on others passionately. The hairy child who grew up together thought he knew the root of the matter, but he didn't expect that he would secretly seduce his wife. The seemingly sweet taste of the young couple who haven't gone out for their honeymoon has long been hidden. Her husband's text messages are full of flirting with others. No matter how bizarre the plot is, the scene of the last old couple snuggling up on the balcony of the apartment to enjoy the moon is still warm. What should life experience to make two people feel sorry for each other and never give up? Is he who sees through it, or is he a lifelong loyal guardian and gaze. After watching the movie, it will make us reflect a lot. So, if you don't have enough confidence in your partner's mobile phone, you'd better not touch it. Perhaps, everyone should remember the word "intimacy". No matter how close people are, we should leave some independent space for each other. In life, you don't have to know everything about each other to be truly happy. In fact, smart women don't need to look at their mobile phones to know whether the other party is cheating, and there are all kinds of clues in life. If the other party really has suspicious behavior, you can communicate well, express your concerns, or exchange your thoughts. If the other person is honest, he will try his best to let you go. Of course, you can also tell your bottom line and principles, which is to remind the other party that warning not to check him does not mean trusting him. If we don't converge, the consequences will be very serious. If the other person also cherishes the feelings between you, then you will naturally pull back from the brink.