What is the most hurtful thing to say when couples quarrel?

After decades of life, I have experienced a lot and witnessed the separation and integration of many young men and women around me. From this, I have concluded that there are some words that lovers must not say, even if they become husband and wife in the future, because these words are the most hurtful.

First, how did I choose you?

The most hurtful thing between lovers is the sentence "How did I choose you in the first place", because this sentence is only the beginning, and then there will be a storm of accusations against each other, where there are chagrin, regret and unwillingness. And most of the complaints here are true thoughts of both men and women, but many of them are very one-sided. The purpose is to belittle each other and concentrate on venting their dissatisfaction.

Generally speaking, the probability of this kind of talk between girls and boys in couples is very high, mostly because men and women get along for a period of time, and the woman finds that the man is not as perfect as before. There are even some cowards, and then girls will complain that the boy in front of them can't meet their spiritual and material requirements. Most boys who hear such complaints will feel powerless and desperate, because he knows that he can't live as a girl imagined.

Second, you are nothing without me.

No matter the man or woman who said this sentence, they all felt aloof, as if they had been stepped on by the other side, as if they could not live without their own object. However, couples get along on the basis of mutual respect and can support each other in some things. If you want to treat your contribution as charity to the other party, think about the feelings of the other half, and it's strange not to break up.

This second sentence is just the opposite of the first. Most boys talk to girls more, and it happens after both men and women get along for a period of time. The man found that the woman was actually a girl with extremely serious princess disease, and she was not strong in her own ability and liked to stick to people. This caused great mental stress to the man, and he became conceited after helping her many times. This sentence is often used to stimulate the woman and make her feel ashamed when there is an argument. But men must think for themselves. Girls also need dignity. They can be surrounded by naive girls because they love you and need you. You made it clear that you don't want to play together anymore, so why bother?

Third, let's break up.

This kind of words is also a common word among lovers. Many men and women will put this sentence on their lips and use it to threaten each other, but in fact, most of them don't really want to be completely separated from each other, just scare each other and make them cherish themselves more. But this sentence really can't be used for a long time, so be careful. What if the other party really agrees with your wishes? In fact, seemingly unintentional jokes are actually extremely harmful, laying a hidden danger for future emotional problems.

But in fact, these hurtful words are not the most deadly for couples. The most fatal thing is that the two sides have been in a state of cold war and said nothing. This is really on the verge of breaking up. Because everything is just communication and exchange, even if both sides have room for relaxation, if both sides have no strength to quarrel, then we can only say that each other's patience has reached the limit and both sides have reached the point of exhaustion. Then this relationship will really end.