I have social phobia. I'm not afraid to talk to people, but I'm afraid of embarrassment! Sweat when talking. What should I do?

Speaking of social fear, I think there are probably several relations.

1. Genetic influence:

If the parents in the family are introverted and don't talk much, the children are likely to be bad at expressing themselves and afraid to communicate with strangers. There is also the subtle influence of parents' introverted personality on children, which makes children develop the habit of not being good at expression.

2. Educational impact:

Parents or elders criticize too much in the education of their offspring and are not good at praise. When children express things, behaviors or opinions in the process of growing up, they criticize and even beat and scold at will. Instead of patiently preaching, * * * discussing with each other will affect children's fear of expression over time, thus forming communication fear.

3. The influence of knowledge:

Because of my lack of knowledge, I am worried that the judgment or publication of things is different from most people, or even wrong. Dare not express. Cause social fear.

So how should we overcome the situation we are facing?

First of all, we need to give ourselves more psychological construction. Society is made up of tens of millions of individuals. Each of us is one of them. If you change it, you will be crowned. If you are wrong, you will not step down.

Secondly, you should study more and cultivate your own knowledge. It is suggested that you can start with the major you are best at and most interested in, have a good start and have a positive feedback, so that you can gradually improve your confidence.

Finally, start from the family, classmates, colleagues and friends around you, so that the psychological pressure is less and you can actively exercise your communication skills. These people are relatively tolerant of their own shortcomings. Ask them to communicate with you and tell them that they need supervision. Over time, I believe there will be great improvement.

Friend, I am also an introvert, I hope we can cheer together!

I have the same social phobia as you. I'm nervous every time I talk to strangers, for fear of saying the wrong thing. Especially when eating at a table, I will be miserable. Everyone else is here, and I have a good chat, so I can only hide my embarrassment by eating food and not listening.

But I won't be embarrassed these years. Think about it carefully and find that your mentality has changed. The reason why I dare not speak in front of everyone is that I am afraid of saying something wrong or others disagreeing with my point of view, and I always want to output it perfectly every time I speak.

Later, as I participated in more social occasions, you will find that no matter how powerful people are, they can't always be perfect. They are also incoherent in public and sometimes nervous. Luo Yonghao, a hammer mobile phone, can be called a crosstalk performer in the mobile phone industry, and every new product launch conference is wonderful.

He once said in a talk show that he was a person with social fear, disliked all kinds of social occasions and was afraid of giving speeches, but why didn't he show himself as an introvert every time he spoke?

The reason is that every time he holds a press conference, he needs to prepare 100 hours of materials every hour before and after the stage, so his press conference is wonderful.

So in fact, what people who are socially fearful should do is to know themselves very clearly, know their abnormal performance in various occasions, and then come up with solutions. Know that you are afraid, accept yourself, and then find the advantages in other parts of yourself, find self-confidence, and you will gradually get better.

Let's talk about personal experience first.

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I remember when I was in junior high school and high school, I was covered with acne because of my average grades, and I basically hid in the corner of the class. I seldom dare to communicate with others. When I see some handsome boys and girls in my class praised by teachers and envied by classmates, I always feel inferior and timid, but I am actually very unwilling and want to change! Later, when I went to college, I finally changed into a brand-new environment. No one knew my past and no one saw my embarrassment. For me, this is a whole new world. I joined the club and found my own value in it, which was recognized by teachers and classmates. I became a class cadre and my work was recognized by my classmates. I sum up this process as: being friendly, taking the initiative to solve problems for others and getting attention; Discover and dig deep into your own bright spots and gain self-confidence; Show and highlight your own bright spots and get recognition! Psychologically, the most important thing is to only pay attention to your own feelings in the social process, regardless of other people's feelings, just remember to do your best, not let the other person feel the best! Each process will be explained in detail later.

Hello! Glad to answer such a question! You should have confidence in yourself! Go over your heart first! Always think that I am the best, I can do it, don't deny myself, be myself and do what I can, as long as I try my best, it doesn't matter if I don't succeed. Don't think bad things in your mind, don't recall unhappy things in the past. We should keep a happy mood and do more small things to help others, so that we can forget our troubles, get happiness from them and show our value. Overcome your obstacles first!

You may be afraid to talk to strangers for one of your personality reasons. I'm afraid I'll make a mistake or something. I don't think I know you well, so I won't talk! This situation will get worse and worse! I used to be like this. I blush like an apple when I talk to strangers. I feel hot all over, and I feel like I'm on fire. I'm so nervous that sometimes my hands tremble slightly. Later, I worked in the sales industry for a long time, and there were more exchanges between people, and I was also "thick-skinned". After I passed this hurdle, it was no longer the case. For example, if you want to participate in more social activities, even if there are strangers, you should learn to express your inner thoughts more! You still need to communicate more, communicate more, express more and hone more, and your character will be stronger. In fact, it is "thick-skinned" so that you won't be embarrassed to blush. Hone yourself well and wish you an early breakthrough!

Hello, this is a mental illness. If it's serious, you need to see a psychiatrist.

In fact, many of our things are done by heart hints.

Like getting up in the morning.

If it doesn't matter whether you can get up on time before going to bed tomorrow, you won't care at all when the alarm clock rings for the first time the next day. You will say to yourself, I'm so sleepy, sleep for a while until the alarm clock rings for the second time and the third time ... you won't want to get up.

And if you tell yourself before going to bed, you must not be late tomorrow, you must get up on time, and you may wake up the next day before the alarm clock rings.

So, what I want to say is that our actions are all psychological hints at work.

You are afraid to communicate with strangers now, that is, you have set a limit for yourself in your heart. You may feel that you can't speak, and you are afraid that others will laugh at you when you open your mouth. Or, lack of self-confidence, fear of saying the wrong thing … and so on, you have set a refusal in all aspects of your mind. Then you will be speechless, inexplicably nervous, and inexplicably at a loss.

In the eyes of others, you are a stranger. You are taciturn and weird when chatting. Slowly, friends around you don't want to communicate with you and are ashamed to alienate you.

Finally, in a strict cycle, others think you are eccentric and don't want to play with you. And you, insecure, dare not chat with them. Slowly, the pressure in your heart will get bigger and bigger, and the hint of not communicating with others will get stronger and stronger. In severe cases, it will turn into depression.

Therefore, I hope you can open your heart, read more books on communication, go outdoors, try to ask strangers the way and ask the time (even if you know the way and have a mobile phone to know the time), just to exercise your communication skills.

You can take out what you are good at in life as talk material, so that you won't have nothing to say when you communicate with others. It won't be awkward. You wouldn't be at a loss.

Over time, you will enhance your self-confidence invisibly, you will become talkative and make friends.

Life is colorful, but you feel it with your heart, and there are too many beautiful things waiting for you to discover. Start (a disease)